Questions for the female autists here - Sneed

[anliteralidiot]

I'm always iffy about getting diagnosed with tism because it's so stigmatized to me. I'm at a place, now, where I recognized that it doesn't make you a bad person, but I've had lolcows as my special interest for so long that it's ingrained into me as a bad thing. You only see it as a negative, y'know?

But I know I have it. After...years of being myself, and reading how it presents in genetic females, I know I have it.

 

[Android raptor]

People aren't cows just for being autistic any more than they are for being trans or w/e. Chris and other thread subjects would still be bad people if they weren't autistic, and autism is pretty much the least of Chris's issues (and other autistic cows).

Autism by itself is like any other random trait you were born with like sex, skintone, sexual orientation, etc. It's not a bad or good thing, it just is. It doesn't make you a good or bad person any more than being born with a vagina does. It's who you are as a person and the choices you make that are what determines that shit.

 

[Sparkling Yuzu]

Why is it harder for females to get diagnosed with autism?

Supposedly masking according to self dx spergs but I believe most legit cases will be noticed by the school system, regardless of sex.

What problems do women with it face that guys (usually) don't?

Sensory issues with some feminine things: bras, makeup, long hair and braiding etc.

Did you actually mind having the tism or is it just 'what it is'?

I don't like it.

What's your take on "self diagnosed autists"?

They suck and spread lots of misinfo about autism and other neurodevelopmental conditions.

Do you feel bad for any of the cows with autism or do you just feel schadenfreude?

I don't feel bad for them.

Bonus question: what age did you get diagnosed

7 or 8.

 

[Angry New Ager]

For the record: I'm not autistic. I do have inattentive ADHD like whoa, and wasn't diagnosed until I was in my late 30s. But I don't consider it to be on the autism spectrum, which, apoarently, some people do. I sort-of get it, because there are some overlapping issues high-functioning autists have that I can readily identify with (social awkwardness, weird fixations, executive function deficits, and sensory issues), but they seem to come from a different place.

People aren't cows just for being autistic any more than they are for being trans or w/e. Chris and other thread subjects would still be bad people if they weren't autistic, and autism is pretty much the least of Chris's issues (and other autistic cows).

Autism by itself is like any other random trait you were born with like sex, skintone, sexual orientation, etc. It's not a bad or good thing, it just is. It doesn't make you a good or bad person any more than being born with a vagina does. It's who you are as a person and the choices you make that are what determines that shit.

I've been on the Farms long enough to realize that autism is never a given cow's real reason for being here. A true cow almost always has a Cluster B personality disorder, on top of their autism, ADHD, OCD, schizophrenia, honest-to-god retardation, or any of a number of other conditions, and they act accordingly.

The cows who are not Cluster Bs seem to be in the tiny minority, and they're generally looked on with bemusement, and are even well-liked—the Cooking with Hoarders guy, for example, who lives amid chaos and cooks horrifying food in appalling and unhygienic ways, but seems like a pleasant, good-natured guy, and is looked upon fondly. Is he autistic? Does he have crippling ADHD? I don't know, but he seems like a decent enough human who just happens to have seriously impaired executive function—while the great majority of cows are not decent humans, no matter how successful and high-functioning they may appear.

 

[Love Machine]

I always feel like a lot more are probably "on the spectrum" then is represented because they are high functioning enough that you'd probably have to live with them to find any tells you wouldn't Chalk up to being idiosyncratic.

 

[Spunt]

For the record: I'm not autistic. I do have inattentive ADHD like whoa, and wasn't diagnosed until I was in my late 30s. But I don't consider it to be on the autism spectrum, which, apoarently, some people do. I sort-of get it, because there are some overlapping issues high-functioning autists have that I can readily identify with (social awkwardness, weird fixations, executive function deficits, and sensory issues), but they seem to come from a different place.

I found this: it covers the symptomatic overlaps between Autism and ADHD really well, as you can see they have a lot in common. Many people have both.

 

[ATI Escapee]

Quote not working but this is an interesting thought @barleyrugsoap

>"People say "oh nobody notices if a girl is just sitting there counting bugs" or whatever but there's a further piece to the (lol) puzzle - until very recently, if you were female, not deformed, and just showed up for life, you'd end up with a job and married, just by doing what people wanted you to do. This is not just about females being more compliant, it's also about people being totally accustomed to telling girls and women what to do and not really noticing how the other person felt about it if she was complying"


Not sure I agree with the rest but that quote has been my experience. Also I was raised in a heavily religious environment and taught to submit from day 1, men are the head of the family and women are decendants of Eve, the One Who Fucked Up Real Bad

 

[Android raptor]

I was definitely not compliant as a kid lol, wonder if that helped me get diagnosed as a kid 20+ years ago?

 

[Omen_Sulk]

Weird thing happened to me.

I was at my friends daughter birthday party and their daughter was diagnosed with autism. During the party they threw candy on the ground and the kids were picking it up. The daughter wasn't able to get any in time, she started crying, so the mother just handed her some candy. But she didn't want it. Instinctively, I grabbed some candy and threw it on the ground. She immediately stopped crying and grabbed the candy. It had to be by the rules of the game.

 

[AnOminous]

Instinctively, I grabbed some candy and threw it on the ground. She immediately stopped crying and grabbed the candy. It had to be by the rules.

You are a mensch. You understood that autists operate based on rules.

 

[Georgio Cocklord]

Weird thing happened to me.

I was at my friends daughter birthday party and their daughter was diagnosed with autism. During the party they threw candy on the ground and the kids were picking it up. The daughter wasn't able to get any in time, she started crying, so the mother just handed her some candy. But she didn't want it. Instinctively, I grabbed some candy and threw it on the ground. She immediately stopped crying and grabbed the candy. It had to be by the rules of the game.

I remember my mom doing stuff like this for me when I was a kid, great parenting.

 

[Spob]

I remember my mom doing stuff like this for me when I was a kid, great parenting.

Reminds me of Manny from DOAWK and how he wanted his ornament to be the first on the Christmas tree in "Cabin Fever"

 

[Georgio Cocklord]

Reminds me of Manny from DOAWK and how he wanted his ornament to be the first on the Christmas tree in "Cabin Fever"

Dont worry, I was forced to do it for my sister and cousins.

 

[mold]

I was definitely not compliant as a kid lol, wonder if that helped me get diagnosed as a kid 20+ years ago?

absofuckinglutely

 

[Android raptor]

absofuckinglutely

Based kid me

 

[mold]

Autism by itself is like any other random trait you were born with like sex, skintone, sexual orientation, etc. It's not a bad or good thing, it just is. It doesn't make you a good or bad person any more than being born with a vagina does. It's who you are as a person and the choices you make that are what determines that shit.

this is cope, autism is a disability. the part about it not having a moral component is not cope, that is true, but autism is not a rare variant of normal like red hair or lefthandedness, it's a developmental disorder that prevents full access to human experience, like blindness or deafness. of course, in our atomized and very fucked up culture, a lot of that human experience is barely available to neurotypicals anyway, and also, a high IQ autistic person is frequently able to do highly compensated work. if I had to choose, in the world we actually live in, I'd rather be a high IQ autistic woman than a neurotypical woman of average intelligence, but that's like saying I'd rather be blind if everyone was that ugly.

 

[Android raptor]

this is cope, autism is a disability. the part about it not having a moral component is not cope, that is true, but autism is not a rare variant of normal like red hair or lefthandedness, it's a developmental disorder that prevents full access to human experience, like blindness or deafness. of course, in our atomized and very fucked up culture, a lot of that human experience is barely available to neurotypicals anyway, and also, a high IQ autistic person is frequently able to do highly compensated work. if I had to choose, in the world we actually live in, I'd rather be a high IQ autistic woman than a neurotypical woman of average intelligence, but that's like saying I'd rather be blind if everyone was that ugly.

I think you're confusing autism with NPD or something.

Culture has always been pretty fucked up btw

 

[AnOminous]

I'd rather be a high IQ autistic woman than a neurotypical woman of average intelligence, but that's like saying I'd rather be blind if everyone was that ugly.

Yeah well but seriously only dumb people would prefer not to be a high IQ anything, even if high IQ comes with suffering at having to look at the stupidity around you.

 

[Android raptor]

I'd rather be happy and a good person than unhappy and a bad person. IQ is unrelated to the equation.

 

[mold]

Yeah well but seriously only dumb people would prefer not to be a high IQ anything, even if high IQ comes with suffering at having to look at the stupidity around you.

would you prefer to be a high IQ paraplegic or a regular person with limbs that worked though?