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Omg. He wants to divorce her over that. I hope she got out of that relationship by now.
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I further hope that not only did they divorce, but that the wife got full custody of the twins and her five year old, considering how horrible and frankly neglectful the OP seems. He doesn't think the insulin was important, but admits in the comments that the little girl was still adjusting to her diagnosis and having serious blood sugar fluctuations that required insulin throughout the night, and further admits that their insurance wouldn't have paid for more insulin until the first of the next month. He doesn't think making sure the infants had diapers and a change of clothes (aka their diaper bags) was important. He didn't make sure his son had a smoke detector in the basement room before he let him start living there. He's openly teaching his son to treat his step-mother like garbage. He self-admits in the comments also that his wife does almost all of the parenting of the younger three children. Multiple people also pointed out that his wife must have realized that her step-son was still inside and told the firefighters, otherwise they wouldn't have known there was someone in there to rescue, but he conveniently left that out of his post. He also states that the firefighters and all authorities involved believe his wife is a hero and that she was amazing (he says they "practically canonized her"). That man is absolutely heinous and watching AITA kiss his ass is so infuriating.
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This feels like a very detailed troll.
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Honestly like 90% of posts on AITA are trolls. But I totally agree. Or at least I really would hope that an adult man with multiple children who just suffered a massive house fire that left his son with lung damage would be more concerned with like... his son's medical care, his family's housing situation, and so on than he would be with posting on Reddit for a bunch of children to yell at his wife for him because she was slightly less of a literal hero than he would like her to have been.
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Meanwhile, the redditor's thinking that failed to realize that insulin is also for another life. Assuming any of the story is true, with shit that's going on if they didn't know of a person not being able think clearly because "HOLY FUCK THERE'S A FIRE, I GOTTA GET WHAT I CAN THAT'S ESSENTIAL!!!" At least another Reddit board saw this and realized this lady isn't really as evil as AITA redditors think of her to be while a number of redditors on that same board are also thinking "bullshit" on the entire story.
On one hand it could be a detailed troll. On the other hand, it could be the average redditor wanting to farm upvotes and the like by any means, even lying about having a wife or even having sex.
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lbr a lot of those responses are because AITA, like the rest of reddit, is ridiculously misogynistic. They expect women to be perfect and exemplify femininity and stereotypical motherhood and womanhood at all times and demonize them if they don't. They responded the way they did because the step-son is a boy, and thus automatically more important than the five year old girl who clearly doesn't really need her insulin. OP's wife is evil because she failed to perform perfect motherhood and remain calm and in control and run back into the fire and die saving her step-son, and also because she dared to prioritize female children over a male child - nevermind that the female children were all too young to manage by themselves while the male child was plenty old enough to escape on his own.
Like... there are legitimately people in the comments arguing that the five year old girl was old enough and mature enough to escape on her own so OP should have just let her see herself out of the burning building, so that OP could go and.. carry? escort? the twelve year old boy out. It's pretty obvious that what they actually mean is that the little girl's survival isn't as important as the boy's. Same with the insulin thing - she didn't personally escort her step-son out of the building so she's "left him to die," but if her daughter died because her insulin burned up in the fire and her parents couldn't afford more that would be understandable and just how life works I guess, no great loss because she's just a girl. (There were even commenters saying that OP's wife should have left the insulin behind because "if something happens and she needs insulin you can just take her to the hospital," like that's a super easy solution with no negative consequences. Sure, we'll just let the girl go into shock or something, nbd, it's not like diabetics not managing their insulin causes serious health effects or anything.)
The obvious, incredibly clear bottom line is that OP's wife panicked, which is totally understandable under the circumstances, and was focused on doing everything she could to prevent a major tragedy. She legitimately believed that her step-son had left through his own exit after she yelled for him to do so, so of course she didn't go looking for him when she ran back in to get the insulin that her daughter needs to survive and which they cannot afford more of. And to top it all off, this all took place in three minutes start to finish, so she didn't even have time to really look for her step-son like everyone is blaming her for not doing, especially if the house is a typical row home where the basement entrance/exit is on the other side of the house from the front door so he would potentially be the next street over. The standards they're holding this poor woman to are absurd - she would have had to literally be Superwoman and capable of supersonic flight to accomplish everything they demanded of her in the only three minutes before the firemen arrived. Even the firefighters said in their official report that she was a hero who saved multiple lives while risking her own to do it, including the life of her five year old diabetic daughter who could have died a horrible death without her insulin. But AITA can't see that because all they see is an imperfect woman and mother who put girls before a boy, who "failed" to give her actual life to save a (male) child, and for that she's an evil sinner who should be punished for the rest of her life.
I'm not sure what the most frustrating and egregious comments are, but the ones saying they would "forgive" OP's wife for her horrible "failure" if she groveled and begged his son's forgiveness on her knees and declared herself to be a terrible selfish evil person for getting her babies and kindergartener out first are definitely in the top five.
That AmItheAngel post is an absolute blessing, I almost linked it because that comment about how fires work in rowhomes was such a welcome surprise. I remember reading it when that shitshow of a post first went up - yes, I'm going on at such length about this because this is like... pent up aggravation with AITA that's an entire year old lol. It's lovely to see sane people on Reddit, however occasionally.
(I'm not like.. pulling the misogyny from nowhere btw. If you're familiar with AITA, it's really obvious. They love to attack women, especially mothers and especially step-mothers. I've literally seen them advocate for a man to financially abuse his wife - I mean literally refusing to give her any access to family funds whatsoever when she was a SAHM. And their habit of prioritizing male children over female children is also pretty clear overall. They're repulsive that way.)
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One thing to note on the spergs in that thread thinking "just take her to the hospital" is that they fail to realize that assuming the story takes places in the US, insulin ain't cheap and visiting the doctor is expensive as fuck, especially when other countries have their healthcare at a lower price than the US. The redditors thinking of just taking a diabetic 5 year old to the hospital are complete tards in this instance regardless of whether the story is true or OP was just full of shit. I don't bother much with Reddit beyond looking at some tard ass takes that site can have in post but AITA may as well just be a goldmine in how many redditors can give off shit takes aside from an OP being truthful or full of shit.
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iirc the OP confirmed they're in the US and that they cannot in any way, shape or form afford more insulin - he specifically said that their insurance would only cover a certain amount of insulin per month, the insulin his wife saved was that month's supply, and they could not afford to pay out of pocket for more insulin, which is what they would have had to do if she hadn't gotten it out of the house. If they can't afford to pay for more insulin, they sure as hell cannot afford a trip to the hospital and the cost of insulin there. Not to mention that allowing a diabetic to go without needed insulin for long enough to start showing symptoms so they could run to the hospital can cause lasting damage. What the comments saying they should just take her to the hospital for insulin when she needs it or wait days for a charity to get back to them with maybe some help paying for insulin meant is that the daughter's life isn't important and she should have been sacrificed for the "greater good" of making sure the son got out alright - even though OP's wife clearly stated she had every reason to believe he already had and double-checking on him would make no sense if she thought he was safe already. It's the same vein of thought as the people who suggested she should have let the five year old find her own way out of the burning building so OP's wife could go escort her step-son out because he should have been her priority even though he had his own exit and was old enough to get out on his own - that little girl's life is worthless to them, simply because she's a little girl and not a little boy.
Yeah, with AITA the thing is that like... almost all of the stories are fake as shit, but the responses? Those are real and pretty scary. It's hard to sit with the knowledge of how many people literally believe that, say in the case we're talking about here, a woman should leave her five year old daughter to find her own way out of a burning building so she could go make sure to escort out a twelve year old boy that she had every reason to believe had already left the building, because girls' lives are disposable but boys' lives need to be protected at all costs. Or cases like the many posts I've seen where AITA comments advocate for men to financially abuse their SAHM wives by withholding all access to the family funds because she dared to pay for something he didn't want to pay for or help out her family or something, usually claiming that "if she doesn't like it she can get a job" ignoring petty details like how she's supposed to pay for childcare so she can get a job if she has no access to the family funds at all or the fact that what they're pushing is literally a form of domestic abuse. And so on. The posts are fake as shit... hopefully... but the responses are real people.
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Just like with r/relationships and r/relationship_advice. They all have the same type of pattern, either break up/divorce or therapy and YTA. No real advice
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"AITA for getting a 26yo woman from a 25 and under support group?"
OP tattle tales on a support group member for just turning 26 a couple of months ago and gets them kicked out of a support group for college students adjusting to moving to a new area. I want to believe this is fake but it more than likely isn't.
some of the comments include:
this comment was actually pretty funny
OP tattle tales on a support group member for just turning 26 a couple of months ago and gets them kicked out of a support group for college students adjusting to moving to a new area. I want to believe this is fake but it more than likely isn't.
some of the comments include:
this comment was actually pretty funny
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If this is real, the cherry on top of the this asshole cake is the fact that OP was informed that the 26yo and the counselor already had an agreement that she would leave at the end of the semester yet OP still went out of their way to get this person kicked out immediately.
On top of that, OP knowingly joined a group for people 25 and younger. Yet they stated that they felt “uncomfortable” that a 25yo joined the group because they couldn’t relate to her issues? So, it’s obvious that they wanted that woman gone and found a way to do so.
Imagine feeling “uncomfortable” in a support group because you lack the ability to empathize with someone who doesn’t have the exact same issues that you do.
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Issues that are so farfetched such as: getting a part time job, struggling to cope with a new area, no support systems, and the worst possible one, depression inducing Imposter Syndrome! I think a commenter said this in the reddit or twitter thread i found this in but OP treats the group like a club or a hangout and feels uncomfortable when the reality of the group comes in.
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I love how the cunt edited the post to make it a gender issue.
No bitch, you'd still be a massive shithead for doing this even if the person was a guy. Hell, you're an even bigger asshole for thinking that.
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I grew up liking “geek” shit. This weird sudden normie movement to become “geeks” is horrible. Any card shop I go, I see a tranny in a shit stained dress getting upset that there isn’t a tranny Jace on mtg. I honestly believe it’s some short of pissing contest for people to act more intellectual. Kind of like in the past people pretended to like Shakespeare to make themselves seem more intelligent
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If I could rate this three times over, I would. Imagine complaining about free food and drinks because the person who suggested the restaurant is good friends with the manager. This autistic fuck thinks terms of endearment is a red flag for being a creep.
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To be fair, when I was reading the beginning of the post, I could kind of see why they were weirded out since it was the first time they've gone there.
However, they should've just asked their friends what was up instead of ruining it for everyone by mentioning the bill and being such an ass about it. The whole thing about it being a power-play instead of their friends just being chummy with the owners is just full-on retarded, too.
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There's no way this guy is serious lmao. I cannot even begin to fathom the level of social retardation and antisocial behavior required to think that overt friendliness is "creepy". Someone's never been to an immigrant owned restaurant before lol. And to *refuse* the discount and bring it up to the manager? Who the fuck does that?
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