r/childfree - Where child-haters congregate

[Mr. Skeltal]

Parents wanting grand kids is pretty common. What I don't believe is when the redditors on r/childfree complain about random strangers approaching them and asking why they don't have kids yet.

That doesn't happen. The kind of pressure I mentioned is more applicable for the childfree couples than the incels or spinsters. Said incels and spinsters are probably extrapolating the "why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?" question their relatives ask at holiday dinners out to it's logical conclusion.

I can understand people not liking the idea of having kids; they're very often foul smelling simplistic mess making machines with very poor table manners and no volume control. The rewards for having children are often intangible or very personal, but they are there.
Disparaging people for choosing to have children is strange, it's like that thing homosexuals do when they call others "breeders" for having kids.
I suspect it's a sour grapes kinda thing for the childfree singletons.
Not so sure on the couples, that just seems like a fear of responsibility when it's not some medical or economic stymie.

 

[Leopold II of Belgium]

Not in the childfree lifestyle but there is pressure on my wife and I to have kids.

Mostly from her mother.

My mother-in-law is the kind of woman that won't view my wife as an adult until we have kids. Prior to that it was marriage but once we got married dear old mom-in-law just moved the goalposts.
Personally I don't much like the woman but I put up with her for my wife's sake. It isn't as if we're not trying, but these sorts of things take time - not that she seems to care.

In a nutshell I suppose that the intrusive questions and hurry-up attitude feels like meddling to me. I really hate external meddling in my marriage. No qualms with children, but my mother-in-law needs to butt out.
I would posit that that's also the rationale for the more infantile types, just with extremely backwards priorities. Instead of trying to establish healthy boundaries for a pushy mother-in-law it's trying to run away from adult responsibility and live like the cast of Friends or Sienfeld or whatever sitcom is in vogue with the 105IQ crowd at Reddit

Having children is a big undertaking that shouldn't be taken lightly but running from any kind of responsibility or accountability is just weak. When you grow up, you put your childish things away.

I'm in full agreement people shouldn't meddle in your marriage or other matters.

What I take issue with is that people apparently put value in the expectations others have. Show some backbone, y'know.

 

[Vampirella]

Show us on the doll where the crotchfruit touched you

Could be something like this

Spoiler: The CF Hardcore Harry Potter Rant.

RANT TIME

Harry Potter book release: don't worry, no spoilers.

Showed up at seven, in full costume for a nine am release. Devoted no? I was one of the few to dress up, and I was the best-dressed. I'm not being vain, I honestly had the most detailed and accurate costume there.

We were told in line, that the best-dressed person in line gets to open the box and have the first Half-Blood Prince book. So, I'm a shoo-in, aren't I?

WRONG.

fucking moo brings her bratty sprog in at 8:59am dressed in a generic Kmart cape with stars and glitter and loving gaudy BLAH. Twig for a wand.

OMG WITTLE PWESHUS SO CUTE OMG YOU CAN OPEN THE BOX AND HAVE THIS BOOK YOU CAN'T READ AND *fawning fawning, blatant breederism etc*

THE fucking KID WON'T EVEN REMEMBER THIS. THE BOX OPENING WAS MINE. MIIIIINE.

I wouldn't have minded if someone had said "Oh look Sass, you are best-dressed but would you mind if this land-mine amputee opened the box instead?" I would have said "Absolutely no problem. Go for it." But no. fucking CROTCHDROPPING GETS THE HONOUR. I'm furious. On principle of course, not out of any sense of entitlement. Well yes, entitlement also. But I WORKED FOR IT, I DESERVED IT.

I made an effort. I spent money making an effort. I showed up early. I will remember and treasure this event for ever and eternity. And I'm passed over for an ugly little brat with a sparkly tie. Woo fucking woo.

I didn't stab her in the eye with my wand. I WANTED to. I talked about doing so VERY fucking LOUDLY. I was going to eviscerate her mother with the cover of my brand-new copy.

I fucking hate breeders and child-lovers. fucking GO TO HELL.

I'm so pissed about this, sorry. It's just that in ten years time, this kid won't remember what she was doing on July 16th 2005. In ten years time, I will be remembering how I was deprived of this nerdly honor by an opportunistic twat breeder and her shitling. I'm hurt. All my life, nothing has gotten to me more than being deliberately ignored, or passed over. Honestly; that's the sort of thing that can make me cry in public. Or key your car. Or viciously murder you and your family in the heat of frustration and never-ending denial Congratulations breeders, you win.

Edited to add: To all of you who are calling me immature etc, I'd like to add that you make a very good point, but have you considered GO gently caress YOURSELF? If you're so anal-retentive, go back to the other community and go on with your breeder-humping. Also, to the person who submitted this to fandom_wank, I seriously (no sarcasm) thank you. I've always wanted to be there

 

[yasscat]

Could be something like this

Spoiler: The CF Hardcore Harry Potter Rant.

RANT TIME

Harry Potter book release: don't worry, no spoilers.

Showed up at seven, in full costume for a nine am release. Devoted no? I was one of the few to dress up, and I was the best-dressed. I'm not being vain, I honestly had the most detailed and accurate costume there.

We were told in line, that the best-dressed person in line gets to open the box and have the first Half-Blood Prince book. So, I'm a shoo-in, aren't I?

WRONG.

loving moo brings her bratty sprog in at 8:59am dressed in a generic Kmart cape with stars and glitter and loving gaudy BLAH. Twig for a wand.

OMG WITTLE PWESHUS SO CUTE OMG YOU CAN OPEN THE BOX AND HAVE THIS BOOK YOU CAN'T READ AND *fawning fawning, blatant breederism etc*

THE loving KID WON'T EVEN REMEMBER THIS. THE BOX OPENING WAS MINE. MIIIIINE.

I wouldn't have minded if someone had said "Oh look Sass, you are best-dressed but would you mind if this land-mine amputee opened the box instead?" I would have said "Absolutely no problem. Go for it." But no. loving CROTCHDROPPING GETS THE HONOUR. I'm furious. On principle of course, not out of any sense of entitlement. Well yes, entitlement also. But I WORKED FOR IT, I DESERVED IT.

I made an effort. I spent money making an effort. I showed up early. I will remember and treasure this event for ever and eternity. And I'm passed over for an ugly little brat with a sparkly tie. Woo loving woo.

I didn't stab her in the eye with my wand. I WANTED to. I talked about doing so VERY loving LOUDLY. I was going to eviscerate her mother with the cover of my brand-new copy.

I loving hate breeders and child-lovers. loving GO TO HELL.

I'm so pissed about this, sorry. It's just that in ten years time, this kid won't remember what she was doing on July 16th 2005. In ten years time, I will be remembering how I was deprived of this nerdly honor by an opportunistic twat breeder and her shitling. I'm hurt. All my life, nothing has gotten to me more than being deliberately ignored, or passed over. Honestly; that's the sort of thing that can make me cry in public. Or key your car. Or viciously murder you and your family in the heat of frustration and never-ending denial Congratulations breeders, you win.

Edited to add: To all of you who are calling me immature etc, I'd like to add that you make a very good point, but have you considered GO gently caress YOURSELF? If you're so anal-retentive, go back to the other community and go on with your breeder-humping. Also, to the person who submitted this to fandom_wank, I seriously (no sarcasm) thank you. I've always wanted to be there

What's with the use of the word "loving"? Was there a word filter?

eta: Harry Potter fans are the fucking worst.

 

[Vampirella]

What's with the use of the word "loving"? Was there a word filter?

The original post was lost it's from the 2000s, loving was a filter on Something Awful, the copy I got it from may have gotten it from there.

 

[yasscat]

The original post was lost it's from the 2000s, loving was a filter on Something Awful, the copy I got it from may have gotten it from there.

Oh, gotcha! Makes sense, thanks for the context!

 

[Karl der Grosse]

Could be something like this

Spoiler: The CF Hardcore Harry Potter Rant.

RANT TIME

Harry Potter book release: don't worry, no spoilers.

Showed up at seven, in full costume for a nine am release. Devoted no? I was one of the few to dress up, and I was the best-dressed. I'm not being vain, I honestly had the most detailed and accurate costume there.

We were told in line, that the best-dressed person in line gets to open the box and have the first Half-Blood Prince book. So, I'm a shoo-in, aren't I?

WRONG.

fucking moo brings her bratty sprog in at 8:59am dressed in a generic Kmart cape with stars and glitter and loving gaudy BLAH. Twig for a wand.

OMG WITTLE PWESHUS SO CUTE OMG YOU CAN OPEN THE BOX AND HAVE THIS BOOK YOU CAN'T READ AND *fawning fawning, blatant breederism etc*

THE fucking KID WON'T EVEN REMEMBER THIS. THE BOX OPENING WAS MINE. MIIIIINE.

I wouldn't have minded if someone had said "Oh look Sass, you are best-dressed but would you mind if this land-mine amputee opened the box instead?" I would have said "Absolutely no problem. Go for it." But no. fucking CROTCHDROPPING GETS THE HONOUR. I'm furious. On principle of course, not out of any sense of entitlement. Well yes, entitlement also. But I WORKED FOR IT, I DESERVED IT.

I made an effort. I spent money making an effort. I showed up early. I will remember and treasure this event for ever and eternity. And I'm passed over for an ugly little brat with a sparkly tie. Woo fucking woo.

I didn't stab her in the eye with my wand. I WANTED to. I talked about doing so VERY fucking LOUDLY. I was going to eviscerate her mother with the cover of my brand-new copy.

I fucking hate breeders and child-lovers. fucking GO TO HELL.

I'm so pissed about this, sorry. It's just that in ten years time, this kid won't remember what she was doing on July 16th 2005. In ten years time, I will be remembering how I was deprived of this nerdly honor by an opportunistic twat breeder and her shitling. I'm hurt. All my life, nothing has gotten to me more than being deliberately ignored, or passed over. Honestly; that's the sort of thing that can make me cry in public. Or key your car. Or viciously murder you and your family in the heat of frustration and never-ending denial Congratulations breeders, you win.

Edited to add: To all of you who are calling me immature etc, I'd like to add that you make a very good point, but have you considered GO gently caress YOURSELF? If you're so anal-retentive, go back to the other community and go on with your breeder-humping. Also, to the person who submitted this to fandom_wank, I seriously (no sarcasm) thank you. I've always wanted to be there

100% chance this was a fat woman. I stopped by a Barnes & Noble once and it turned out they were having one of those new book drop parties from Harry Potter. There were a bunch of teen/early 20s women there dressed up in their capes and witch hats. Most of them smelled bad and all of them ranged from chubby to extremely fat. No need to ask if any of them were there with their boyfriends.

 

[Piga Dgrifm]

I made an effort. I spent money making an effort. I showed up early. I will remember and treasure this event for ever and eternity. And I'm passed over for an ugly little brat with a sparkly tie. Woo fucking woo.

"LOOK AT ME TREASURING IT!"

 

[Windows XP Home Edition]

I LOVE the lack of empathy these people have.

Hint: Because they're MINORS.

Some people "try" for a long, LONG time to have kids and it takes a lot of work to be parents, so it definitely feels like an achievement for them.

No, Tik Tok just encourages retarded trends.

 

[Piga Dgrifm]

No, Tik Tok just encourages retarded trends.
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Girl's super irresponsible for deliberately getting pregnant as a teen, but it sounds like everyone commenting was pretty dismayed about that, so I don't see how OP got that the community is encouraging those sorts of choices.

 

[Internet's Boyfriend]

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I mean... Having a child is a two person job. Have you considered that the woman would be fine with dealing with the negatives so she could have a biological child? Why do you assume he just views the woman as a means to an end?

I bet OP's family doesn't talk to her much.

 

[Amber the Hedgehog]

I LOVE the lack of empathy these people have.

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Hint: Because they're MINORS.

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Some people "try" for a long, LONG time to have kids and it takes a lot of work to be parents, so it definitely feels like an achievement for them.
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While I do understand why you can’t have extra people when giving birth as the mother is only one needed there, I also understand why it’s a big deal. Not just because giving birth can take a long while, be scary and it’s very nice to have someone there to help just you but also something can go wrong fast and having someone else there to make decisions if the mother is incapable can extremely valuable. I was one of those babies, kinda. My mother needed emergency cesarean and so was unconscious for first few hours of my life. My dad was the first person to hold me and so did all interactions with medical staff. Luckily I was a healthy baby so no need for any hard decisions or paperwork but it could have been different. Babies are delicate and their ability to recover can go down fast, even when it’s not an actively life or death. Those situations waiting to mom to wake or dad to answer can take extremely needed time.

 

[NoReturn]

While I do understand why you can’t have extra people when giving birth as the mother is only one needed there, I also understand why it’s a big deal. Not just because giving birth can take a long while, be scary and it’s very nice to have someone there to help just you but also something can go wrong fast and having someone else there to make decisions if the mother is incapable can extremely valuable. I was one of those babies, kinda. My mother needed emergency cesarean and so was unconscious for first few hours of my life. My dad was the first person to hold me and so did all interactions with medical staff. Luckily I was a healthy baby so no need for any hard decisions or paperwork but it could have been different. Babies are delicate and their ability to recover can go down fast, even when it’s not an actively life or death. Those situations waiting to mom to wake or dad to answer can take extremely needed time.

Yeah, if nothing else I believe the father should always be there.

 

[Dave.]

As somebody who is hardcore childfree, r/childfree is childfree softcore, childfree PC addition, or childfree lite addition just don't hurt lurking mommies' fee-fees.

There are a lot of "I am not like those other parents" or I am a just fencesitter membership on that sub.

The true blue childfree are on various Facebook groups where invading mommies get the hammer.

 

[Montalbane]

I LOVE the lack of empathy these people have.

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Hint: Because they're MINORS.

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Some people "try" for a long, LONG time to have kids and it takes a lot of work to be parents, so it definitely feels like an achievement for them.
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No, Tik Tok just encourages retarded trends.
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Jesus christ the absolute smugness that comes from these manchildren.
Also the irony from the first one is too much for me to take.
And the rent one is just sad, learn to budget you retard.

 

[NerdShamer]

Kid's being violent to animals and possibly other children because of shitty parenting. That's normal.

But the OP is making a false equivalency with the "breeders are the worst!" tagline.

And while it's kind of dumb to be having kids, right now; it's another thing to lose your shit over everyone who's having them.

 

[Montalbane]

Kid's being violent to animals and possibly other children because of shitty parenting. That's normal.

But the OP is making a false equivalency with the "breeders are the worst!" tagline.

And while it's kind of dumb to be having kids, right now; it's another thing to lose your shit over everyone who's having them.

People had children during world war two or the thirty years war.
Hardship is overcome through joy and confidence and having a kid is a result of both.
The endurance of the human spirit cannot easily be bent and if someone decides that "Fuck this I am having a kid and making sure none of this shit touches my family" when faced with dire straits that is a testament to their will and I applaud that.
Then of course you have the retards that have kids because they are bored, in a shitty relationship or just hate contraceptives,but they are part and parcel of life.

I don't get anti-natalism and childfree tho.
Don't want to have kids? Ok, big fucking deal.
Seems like they either want a medal for it or just want to be eternally annoying about it.
I lost the screencaps of it but under a newspaper article about the economy and lack of public projects there was this retard arguing how it was all meaningless and we should have focused on limiting the population instead, I am still waiting on a answer on how that is going to fix the fact that one of the main regions of the country is not connected to the mainland and it is slowly killing off all industries because of that.

 

[NerdShamer]

I don't get anti-natalism and childfree tho.
Don't want to have kids? Ok, big fucking deal.
Seems like they either want a medal for it or just want to be eternally annoying about it.
I lost the screencaps of it but under a newspaper article about the economy and lack of public projects there was this retard arguing how it was all meaningless and we should have focused on limiting the population instead, I am still waiting on a answer on how that is going to fix the fact that one of the main regions of the country is not connected to the mainland and it is slowly killing off all industries because of that.

Eh, it's a double-edged sword, no matter which way you go. But actively decreasing the population not only lowers your tax revenue, it also kills off your workforce. Sure, it solves the housing crisis, though.

But a lot of the people that I see on r/Childfree ranges from being somewhat reasonable to whining how they're friends are betraying them for suddenly having children.

 

[Azafran90]

But a lot of the people that I see on r/Childfree ranges from being somewhat reasonable to whining how they're friends are betraying them for suddenly having children.

I have a theory based on personal experience:

These people are usually infantile and self-centered. They tend to live at home and have mediocre, teenager-tier jobs with no intention to move out or make an effort to get in a relationship.
Mostly the kind of nerd who thinks is too smart to behave like an adult but in reality they're just scared of responsibility, and when they see their friends moving on with life they're reminded of their arrested development and just curl up in a ball and cry (or make snarky comments about how stupid you are for having kids).

These people somehow believe investing time and money on another human being is a waste compared to buying emo clothes, fedoras or a 4th screen for your pc. Or at least that's how they make it seem, but in reality is the ticking clock of life that's resonating on their eardrums: they're no longer kids, and no amount of luxury is going to reverse time.

On the other hand we have the classic dry-egg hag and shit. But those ruin it for themselves by demanding their future SO to be a perfect portrait of their childhood ideals. They never find a man like this, therefore they never marry/ get pregnant and so on.

Tl;dr: just a bunch of wo/man-children throwing tantrums.

 

[NerdShamer]

I have a theory based on personal experience:

These people are usually infantile and self-centered. They tend to live at home and have mediocre, teenager-tier jobs with no intention to move out or make an effort to get in a relationship.
Mostly the kind of nerd who thinks is too smart to behave like an adult but in reality they're just scared of responsibility, and when they see their friends moving on with life they're reminded of their arrested development and just curl up in a ball and cry (or make snarky comments about how stupid you are for having kids).

These people somehow believe investing time and money on another human being is a waste compared to buying emo clothes, fedoras or a 4th screen for your pc. Or at least that's how they make it seem, but in reality is the ticking clock of life that's resonating on their eardrums: they're no longer kids, and no amount of luxury is going to reverse time.



Tl;dr: just a bunch of wo/man-children throwing tantrums.

So, basically Chris if he was moderately more responsible.