r/polyamory

[Coffee Druid]

I've been seeing some mentions as of a late of "open monogamous" relationships or "a mono person dating a poly person." It feels as ridiculous as saying someone enjoys sex but is still asexual.

With the former, I saw someone say how they'd been in a monogamous relationship for years but still agreed to be "open". Like, I don't know if that's how this works? And if you'd been open for that long and still didn't have someone else in the relationship you either aren't trying very hard on the open part, or no one wants to date you two. As for the latter, if you're in a relationship that involves more than one person you're not mono. I don't even understand how you can be comfortable with your partner going off having other partners besides you. But alrighty.

Also this whole bi discussion is kinda MATI. I might just be speaking as a bi person who is disgusted by anything poly or "open" but like, a ho is a ho regardless of sexuality. These women would probably be like this if they were straight too.

 

[Ctrl+Alt+Rt]

I also wouldn't be he had wanted to cheat but manipulated her into thinking he was super sensitive and aware of her needs but then got buttmad when he wasn't able to get his own side piece.

Yes, it's either this where he thought he could bag bitches and then was the less successful party, or, she was constantly hinting at being attracted to girls, remarking on how hot girls were, how much she feels she's missing out, and wore him down to the point he relented so she'd shut up.

There are generally only two ways these things go, either:
(A) Person 1 harasses and nags Person 2 into allowing an open relationship, or

(B) Person 2 harrasses and nags Person 1 into allowing an open relationship

Glad she's happy pining after some long-distance married chick and getting a text every few months instead of being married tho. Or sry that happened. Congrats and get well soon, ladybro.

 

[Jonah Hill poster]

I’m not sure if heaven would allow polyamorous relationships when God believes in the one man, one woman rule.

 

[NoReturn]

someone enjoys sex but is still asexual

This makes more sense than anything poly-related, honestly. There are certain meds that can kill your sex drive but leave you still able to orgasm, so I Imagine it's similar and could happen naturally (though that seems like a sign of illness rather than an actual sexuality).

 

[Black ContraPoints]

I’m not sure if heaven would allow polyamorous relationships when God believes in the one man, one woman rule.

Well there isn't any marriage in heaven, so there are no relationships for these manipulative, dopamine junkies to mutate and destroy.

 

[Coccxys]

Something tells me she's got a personality that would fit snuggly into cluster b. She probably wore the poor guy down over time until she made him think it was his idea (and hell she probably thought so too). The face she went from loving wife to argumentative bitch once she was sucking all the attention out of someone else is a dead give away.

 

[Gudetama-chan]

Buckle up boys and girls. I come from one of the highest density populations for poly people and former hippies. While I have a bunch of stories, I'm only going to tell you the worst of the worst.

Spoiler

I got super involved with a social group in college through a shared interest club where about half the people were poly. Some were cool and didn't air out their dirty laundry on the reg but most were cows. Generally nothing too crazy happened though for about the first year that I knew them.

Things started getting weird when this hairy middle aged guy starting showing up more to give talks - Mark. Turns out Mark was a major creep to anyone and everyone. Regularly hit on straight barely adult men in the club. Was obviously too flirty with the young women too. It's not clear who decided it was a good idea to keep inviting this guy around when a large portion of the club members were uncomfortable around him but Mark seemed totally oblivious to it.

Fun fact about Mark - he was openly looking for young dick/pussy with a straight, monogamous wife at home and a new baby. Supposedly wife knew that Mark was poly and they had ups and downs about it. They agreed to close their marriage early on and up until the kid was a little older. Mark was frequently pushing back against that agreement and wondering when his wife was going to allow him to go back to man whoring. Apparently this all came to a dumpster fire of a conclusion when Mark met and started fucking Alice.

No one knows exactly how this started. Alice was a loud and proud poly lesbian member of the club. She openly dated multiple women at a time. She broke up with a woman who kept trying to bring her boyfriend(s) on dates. She had cow potential but to date hadn't done anything too over-the-top or trashy. She was generally keeping her drama on the down low. My best guess is that Mark started hitting on her and for some reason, she took him up on the offer and they started secretly boning.

Everyone was oblivious to this until we all went to a multi-day convention that Mark and Mark's wife attended. That's when Alice got hammered and had a complete mental breakdown about how she was the side piece to Mark. From all of their collective whoring, one of them got chlamydia and Mark gave it to his wife. Now the wife knows and has been staring daggers at Alice through out the event and making passive aggressive comments to her. The wife had also been going around telling anyone and everyone about it so now all of their friends were pissed at Mark. And to top it off, instead of stepping back and taking stock of the situation, Alice and Mark had been sneaking off to fuck at night and carry on the affair with no plans of stopping. Mark basically told his wife to "Deal with it" all the way through a messy divorce.

Everyone turned their backs on them when they were exposed. They basically lost their whole friend group and larger community. Mark and Alice got married. Alice had a kid and doubled in size. I still see her on social media and there hasn't been a single picture of them together since the wedding 6+ years ago. She also never posts any pictures of herself with her friends like she used to. Mark always said how hot and thin she was so I'm guessing he essentially tapped out once she put on the weight and they have been fucking other people since. She looks happy with her kid but it's pretty clear that it's all she has left to be happy about.

 

[Bani]

I’m not sure if heaven would allow polyamorous relationships when God believes in the one man, one woman rule.

I dunno, God seemed pretty permissive when it came to Solomon and his seven hundred wives.

But that's a moot point because polyamorous soys on Reddit don't seem like particularly God-fearing people anyway.

 

[NoReturn]

Did you guys know there are multiple polyamory compilations on YouTube? Well now you do.

@0:50: CUUUUUUUUUUUCK

0:00: What the fuck am I looking at.

4:53: They always look like this

 

[scathefire]

@0:50: CUUUUUUUUUUUCK

8:25

-My partners going on dates with other people (the guy is happy)
-(But, what about) What if they like them better than they do you?
-Me tuning out the dark thoughts with video games and humor.

I'm surprised this was included in a compilation that was supposed to reflect positivity, as it casts polyamory in a pretty dubious light.

 

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that fat dude with the two dancing dykes in the first video. yikes thats sad

 

[Black ContraPoints]

What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Spoiler: My opinion

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.

 

[scathefire]

What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Spoiler: My opinion

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.

For me the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.

 

[Black ContraPoints]

For me I the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.

I guess I look at it from my own perspective where, if my man was intimate with another woman it would certainly be painful, but if he was intimate with another man that would be a level of betrayal that would probably end with me doing some serious time.

I'm not shocked or offended that a woman would choose another woman over a dick necessarily, I just look at the guy a little differently. In my own mind that would feel so much worse but people clearly disagree.

 

[BubbleButt]

For me the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.

This is kind of what I'm hoping for with the situation I'm monitoring.

 

[Dafuqisdis?]

Did you guys know there are multiple polyamory compilations on YouTube? Well now you do.

@0:50: CUUUUUUUUUUUCK

0:00: What the fuck am I looking at.

4:53: They always look like this

Just check in...yup polys are still a bunch of uggos.

And as bad as that is, their personalities might be worse.

 

[FierceBrosnan]

Did you guys know there are multiple polyamory compilations on YouTube? Well now you do.

@0:50: CUUUUUUUUUUUCK

0:00: What the fuck am I looking at.

4:53: They always look like this

Anyone that has to perform this hard to prove that their relationship(s) are happy and stable, are not in happy or stable relationships. Every single one of these polycules is one "ate the last pringle" or "left the milk out too long" or "won't stop dicking down the new girl and ignores me" away from a complete collapse.

 

[Glowing In The Streets]

What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Spoiler: My opinion

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.

I mean, Ross from FRIENDS lost a wife to a lesbian and he is the laughing stock for it.

Spoiler

He almost loses another wife in the same fashion and another one had lesbian experiences

 

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late bloomer lesbians are awful people

 

[NoReturn]

late bloomer lesbians are awful people

What are they like?