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The Demon Pimp of Razgriz said:
Technically not wrong. There's no 100% way to guard against STIs or pregnancy, other than the tried and true tested method of just not having sex. Every time you have sex with someone who isn't your long time significant other, there is always some level of risk, and even your significant other may not be trustworthy if they cheat on you. I imagine, within these poly communities, there is a lot discussion regarding risks and mitigation.
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There is safe sex within monogomous couples, so long as no one’s cheating. That’s where the irony is; these people wouldn’t have to even worry about that if they could just settle down.
 
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This is just brainwashing. I forget which one-- Queer Theory, Gender Theory-- probably both-- believe nuclear families are "evil heterosexual colonialist white supremacy". Destroying nuclear families is part of their end game.

What I find is odd-- if you read books about domestic abuse, such as "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft-- it's as if these gender bender weirdos take his book and put the abusive examples he uses into practice. Pushing polyamory, financial manipulation, gaslighting, character assassination, etc. Pushing polyamory is like emotional manipulation, emotional abuse, gaslighting, etc., all in one.

The more young women see older women getting manipulated in these "relationships", the less likely they will want to seek out a partner and have children. Who the fuck wants to raise kids in a house of revolving-door lovers? Talk about perpetual financial instability, emotional instability-- it's impossible to raise a child in a healthy way in that kind of environment. They will decide NOT to have kids, (maybe I'm just hoping they won't) because they will see how destroyed the lives of older women are, they will avoid men because they know having a faithful partner, let alone a reliable one, is impossible.

Corporations that push STD drugs know they can profit off non-monogamous people spreading their diseases around, too. They see it as a huge money maker, just as troonism is a huge money maker.
 
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Meet /u/SlippingStar. From left to right, this cartoon art is /u/SlippingStar's girlfriend, SlippingStar, and SlippingStar's spouse. Based solely off of this, can you guess the sex and gender of everyone involved?
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The "girlfriend" is a troon. The "spouse" is a man. And SlippingStar is an ftm who has been sterilized after at least one, possibly two, pregnancy mishaps.

She's queer, OK? OK?????? OK?!?!?!?!?!?!??!!?
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This is the only pic I could find of her, boo. A shiny penny to anyone who can dox this chick. She's 27 and lives in South Carolina.
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The husband is a "ze/zim":
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OP identified as "genderfaun" a mere eight months ago (lolololol) before settling on FTM.
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Her sister is a polytard too:
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Hol' up. The sister has also trooned out and is now an FTM.
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The plot thickens: OP's troon "girlfriend" used to date OP's FTM sister:
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(The comments on this post are all dragging OP for posting this attention-seeking shit on the /r/demisexuality subreddit.)

OP posts in /r/Deadbedrooms about the MTF troon "girlfriend" not providing enough sex:
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The piece de resistance? OP is a nanny to a 3yo child. ("NF" is "nanny family" and "NK" is "nanny kid," aka the child that OP cares for.) OP brings her husband and the troon "girlfriend" around the child and is "affectionate" with them in front of the child.
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..................and allowing the child to suckle milk from a tube mounted on OP's bare nipple is one of the nanny "services" that OP provides:
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Hard-hitting news from the BBC.
Source: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220301-does-solo-polyamory-mean-having-it-all
Archive: https://archive.ph/wjWf0

Does 'solo polyamory' mean having it all?​

Jessica Klein

After Chris, 35, came out as bisexual three years ago, he decided that he “didn’t necessarily want to live a heteronormative life”. “I wanted to be able to date men and women simultaneously for my whole life,” says Chris, who is withholding his surname for privacy. “I felt like monogamy would deny me something of myself.”

During the pandemic, Chris moved into an intentional, sex-positive community in Brooklyn, New York – a “safe space” where he could further explore his relationship with sex and sexuality. Through that community, he discovered a course called Open Smarter, which guided students through navigating various types of ethically non-monogamous relationships. That’s where he first heard the term ‘solo polyamory’. He quickly felt like it fit his dating style.

At its core, solo polyamory refers to people who are open to dating or engaging in multiple meaningful relationships without having a ‘primary partner’: one person to whom they’re committed above all other partners. Instead, the solo polyamorist might see themselves as their own primary partner, eschewing typical relationship goals, like merging finances or homes with a partner, and getting married and having children.

Solo polyamorists represent a small portion of polyamorists in general, many of whom tend to have or aim to have a primary partner, says Philadelphia-based sex educator and therapist Liz Powell, 39, so it’s inherently difficult to figure out what percentage of the overall population is engaging in relationships this way. However, some studies show younger generations are more likely to have entered into some kind of non-monogamous relationship than older generations.

Per a 2020 YouGov survey of 1,300 US adults, 43% of millennials said that their ideal relationship would be non-monogamous, while just 30% of Gen X said the same. Overall, research from 2016 synthesising two different US studies showed 20% of respondents engaged in a consensually non-monogamous relationship at some point. But these studies don’t break down those numbers by specific types of non-monogamous relationships, so it’s impossible to say how many of those surveyed identify with solo polyamory.

Since solo polyamorists are a minority identity, misconceptions about their lifestyles abound. From people who equate solo polyamory to monogamists dating around until they find “the one”, to those who consider it a selfish or greedy move, like “having your cake and eating it, too”, there’s a tendency to overlook the term’s more nuanced definition. Ultimately, it boils down to stepping off what’s known as the heteronormative “relationship escalator”, and opting for an alternative way to engage in romantic and sexual partnerships.


The “relationship escalator”
The term solo polyamory gained popularity with the blog Solopoly.net, written by journalist Amy Gahran, under the pen name Aggie Sez. Her first blog post, published in 2012, was titled, “Riding the relationship escalator (or not)”. About five years later, she wrote a book on the subject, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life.

Gahran defines this ‘escalator’ as “the default set of societal customs for the proper conduct of intimate relationships” – in other words, relationships that hit, or aim to hit, traditional life markers, like moving in with a partner, merging finances, getting engaged, getting married and having children.

“We have these normalised benchmarks or signs that a relationship is serious,” says California-based Rachel Krantz, 34, author of Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy – A Polyamory Memoir. “Solo polyamorous people tend to avoid intertwining their life in that way with someone else.”

Though the definition may seem narrow, there are plenty of ways to be ‘solo poly’. Solo polyamorous folks tend to be allosexual, says Colorado-based Elisabeth Sheff, author of books including The Polyamorists Next Door, meaning they tend to experience sexual desire – but some are asexual and maintain multiple, non-sexual relationships. They also tend to “value their independence”, adds Sheff, but some have very important, non-romantic relationships in their lives that they put first. “The single parent who prioritises their children over all other relationships could be solo poly,” says Sheff, as could someone who’s the caretaker of a person with a disability.

Solo polyamory also doesn’t have to be forever. One could identify as solo poly today, but still wind up entering a more traditional relationship with a shared home or finances in the future – it doesn’t have to be a fixed identity to be valid, says New York-based sex researcher and consultant Zhana Vrangalova.

Chris, in fact, expresses interest in one day finding a primary partner, but says in the meantime being solo poly “allows me to date, have experiences with people, get to know a lot of different people, and have some of my needs met”. It’s similar to when he was dating around monogamously, he adds, “except now I’ve put a label on it to communicate to people what my intentions are”.

Vrangalova, who’s originally from Macedonia, teaches the Open Smarter course that Chris attended in New York. She estimates about two-thirds of her class are people in relationships, and slightly more than half of those are in monogamous relationships but “trying to figure out if some version of non-monogamy would be right for them”. The rest are either already exploring various forms of non-monogamy and seeking out more skills to help them better navigate those relationships, or they’re single and looking for relationships.

Solo polyamory is not right for everyone. Vrangalova has her students take personality quizzes to help them determine the relationship style(s) that might work best for them. These quizzes ask questions like “how much adventure and novelty” respondents need, or how much security they require in their relationships. Solo polyamorists, says Vrangalova, “usually don't need a lot of relational security”.

However, just because someone who identifies as solo poly may not need the same level of security as someone in a long-term, monogamous partnership, this doesn’t mean they can’t or won’t form deep, lasting bonds with partners. To foster trusting relationships with her partners, sex-educator Powell, who identifies as solo poly, says they’re very upfront with potential partners about their wants and needs. “I'm not going to not ask for [what I want in a relationship] just because I’m worried that you're going to say no,” they say. “If people say no, they say no, and we figure out where to go from there.”


The antidote to “couple privilege”?
A lot of the stigmas surrounding solo polyamory come from a general lack of understanding of why someone might not want a so-called “serious”, traditional relationship. Stereotypes of solo poly people include them being “selfish, avoidant or [messed] up in various ways”, says Vrangalova.

Furthermore, solo polyamory is marked by its lack of adherence to relationship benchmarks like marriage and children – which also serve as benchmarks of adulthood. “The people we consider to be ‘adults’ are married with kids, sharing houses, sharing finances,” says Powell. “Whereas ‘wayward adults’, like myself, who live alone, unmarried, are examples of everything wrong with society.”

Of course, adults can very successfully live on their own and be self-sufficient. For those who identify as solo poly, it also doesn’t mean they “don’t care about people”, says Sheff. “They just don't want to organise their life centrally around a romantic partner.”

These prejudices exist alongside another societal force known as “couple privilege”. This wide-reaching phrase refers both to the advantages couples have in society over singles (like the financial benefits of marriage and couplehood) and the attitude that, for instance, in a polyamorous relationship, the success of the primary couple must be prioritised. All other partners’ actions must be taken with preserving that primary relationship in mind.

These stigmas and societal expectations can present roadblocks for people who identify as solo poly. When Powell was in a polyamorous relationship in Savannah, Georgia, US, around 2014, they tried to find a non-monogamy-affirming therapist, to no avail. That prompted them to fill the void, and Powell opened their own private practice targeting people who identified as non-monogamous, queer, kinky and/or trans.

Even in psychology circles, there remains a dearth of knowledge about polyamory, let alone solo polyamory. Sheff is part of Division 44, a subgroup of the American Psychological Association working to develop educational materials about polyamory for counsellors and therapists.


More than just dating around
Ultimately, solo polyamory is much more than a way to date multiple partners while living alone. It’s a rejection of heteronormative relationship standards.

“For me, a lot of solo polyamory has been about finding ways that I centre my own autonomy, the autonomy of others and genuinely question which things I want in a relationship, rather than assuming that every relationship was going to follow the escalator,” says Powell.

Chris was similarly attracted to the solo poly label because it let him think about and approach relationships differently. He says the relationship pathways he grew up with didn’t make sense for him; before gay marriage was legalised in the US, he was having sexual relationships with people he knew he’d never be able to wed.

Today, Chris says he wouldn’t 100% rule out the prospect of marriage, but he’s not exactly a fan of the institution. “As a queer, bisexual person, I don't like that heteronormative structure of marriage,” he says. “I want to rebel against that.”
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Potatis Salad said:
Meet /u/SlippingStar. From left to right, this cartoon art is /u/SlippingStar's girlfriend, SlippingStar, and SlippingStar's spouse. Based solely off of this, can you guess the sex and gender of everyone involved?
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The "girlfriend" is a troon. The "spouse" is a man. And SlippingStar is an ftm who has been sterilized after at least one, possibly two, pregnancy mishaps.

She's queer, OK? OK?????? OK?!?!?!?!?!?!??!!?
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This is the only pic I could find of her, boo. A shiny penny to anyone who can dox this chick. She's 27 and lives in South Carolina.
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The husband is a "ze/zim":
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OP identified as "genderfaun" a mere eight months ago (lolololol) before settling on FTM.
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Her sister is a polytard too:
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Hol' up. The sister has also trooned out and is now an FTM.
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The plot thickens: OP's troon "girlfriend" used to date OP's FTM sister:
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(The comments on this post are all dragging OP for posting this attention-seeking shit on the /r/demisexuality subreddit.)

OP posts in /r/Deadbedrooms about the MTF troon "girlfriend" not providing enough sex:
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The piece de resistance? OP is a nanny to a 3yo child. ("NF" is "nanny family" and "NK" is "nanny kid," aka the child that OP cares for.) OP brings her husband and the troon "girlfriend" around the child and is "affectionate" with them in front of the child.
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..................and allowing the child to suckle milk from a tube mounted on OP's bare nipple is one of the nanny "services" that OP provides:
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You rang?

Star Burton of Irmo, SC. Aka Star Danny Baeson

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Piece de resistance- the Facebook which gives us a peek at the rest of the polycule. The troon male is called "Freya." The husband is Thomas Baeson aka Thomas Bateman.


Someone may want to do some archiving and collecting of especially amusing pics.

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Current Address
3140 Tall Pine Ln W #3
Jacksonville, FL 32277

edit: troon's instagram. Google search of the username shows he was also using the name Addy Norris until recently.

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Potatis Salad said:
She's queer, OK? OK?????? OK?!?!?!?!?!?!??!!?
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What the fuck is the third flag? I know the background is demisexual but I've never seen the flag that's inside the heart before, and that's saying something considering I have a fairly comprehensive knowledge of retarded pride flags.
 
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scathefire said:
What the fuck is the third flag? I know the background is demisexual but I've never seen the flag that's inside the heart before, and that's saying something considering I have a fairly comprehensive knowledge of retarded pride flags.
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This is how she describes herself on Facebook:

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I looked up "demisapphic flag" and it isn't that so idk.
 
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scathefire said:
What the fuck is the third flag? I know the background is demisexual but I've never seen the flag that's inside the heart before, and that's saying something considering I have a fairly comprehensive knowledge of retarded pride flags.
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Her explanation in the post:
Demisapphic - only being attracted to people once a bond is formed; sapphic being non-men attracted to non-men (possibly also men)
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Nice work, @Larry David's Opera Cape . I also found the father's Facebook, he's an ultra-blue-collar HVAC worker whose posts are 99% grilled/smoked meats.

I had a little trawl through "Star"'s FB and found this HATE CRIME: a "Notorious RBG" photo frame, a COVID mask with a scolding slogan, but where's the Black Lives Matter insignia?!?!?!?! Hate crime.
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The husband is a veteran and apparently disabled because he needed a wheelchair to get around Six Flags?
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The polycule. "Non-men attracted to non-men," lol. Absolutely hilarious that the troon is a trucker:
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I found this piece of art dedicated to "the cutest gai boiz I know" and sensed immediately that one of these "boys" is probably the FTM sister.
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Bingo:
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Surprise, the sister is married to another FTM! What the fuck happened to these girls in their childhood?!
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Potatis Salad said:
Her explanation in the post:

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Nice work, @Larry David's Opera Cape . I also found the father's Facebook, he's an ultra-blue-collar HVAC worker whose posts are 99% grilled/smoked meats.

I had a little trawl through "Star"'s FB and found this HATE CRIME: a "Notorious RBG" photo frame, a COVID mask with a scolding slogan, but where's the Black Lives Matter insignia?!?!?!?! Hate crime.
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The husband is a veteran and apparently disabled because he needed a wheelchair to get around Six Flags?
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The polycule. "Non-men attracted to non-men," lol. Absolutely hilarious that the troon is a trucker:
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I found this piece of art dedicated to "the cutest gai boiz I know" and sensed immediately that one of these "boys" is probably the FTM sister.
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Bingo:
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Surprise, the sister is married to another FTM! What the fuck happened to these girls in their childhood?!
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Meat-smokin' papa has some explaining to do.

Chris Rock says you're supposed to keep your daughter off the pole, bare minimum...what ungodly fuckups occurred in their childhood if they both troon out and marry other troons?
 
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The “relationship escalator”
The term solo polyamory gained popularity with the blog Solopoly.net, written by journalist Amy Gahran, under the pen name Aggie Sez. Her first blog post, published in 2012, was titled, “Riding the relationship escalator (or not)”. About five years later, she wrote a book on the subject, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life.

Gahran defines this ‘escalator’ as “the default set of societal customs for the proper conduct of intimate relationships” – in other words, relationships that hit, or aim to hit, traditional life markers, like moving in with a partner, merging finances, getting engaged, getting married and having children.
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Good lord, it never gets old when lefties describe perfectly normal society in their own retarded terms. Normal people are a fucking "relationship escalator" apparently :story:

These prejudices exist alongside another societal force known as “couple privilege”. This wide-reaching phrase refers both to the advantages couples have in society over singles (like the financial benefits of marriage and couplehood)
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Uh, yeah? Because they can create children? Is the simple biological reality that normal straight couples create children couple privilage? Oh wait this is coming from the same group of trannies who deny biological reality, never mind

These stigmas and societal expectations can present roadblocks for people who identify as solo poly. When Powell was in a polyamorous relationship in Savannah, Georgia, US, around 2014, they tried to find a non-monogamy-affirming therapist, to no avail. That prompted them to fill the void, and Powell opened their own private practice targeting people who identified as non-monogamous, queer, kinky and/or trans.
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Hey dipshit, you know the point of a therapist is to call you out on your shit? Do you think schizophrenics or BPD people should reject "non-BPD-affirming" therapists and start their own practice to "affirm BPD"?
 
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Chromeo said:
I looked up the user's history just for the lulz and found a number of great details
  • He visits /r/deadbedrooms and describes himself as a "Low-Libido Male" [X]
  • He can't make his wife cum, so instead of sex she just gives him blowjobs [X]
  • He doesn't like vaginas [X]
  • He had to talk his wife into starting the polyamory [X]
Literally sounds like a pornsick loser whose pp no work so he had to nuke his relationship from orbit, lmao
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"Just don't communicate so much," A+ advice reddit. Never change.
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Oh God, he's started taking testosterone therapy. This is so funny.
More than just a pornsick loser, he gives off such closeted gay vibes. "Yeah I'm just not that into looking at vaginas", "I had a cuckold fetish and we just fell in love with our bull" Lmao, this mf was 100% out there wanting to get fucked by that man and trying to experience it through his wife. Not to mention the posturing. I mAy nOt bE tHaT iNto vaGiNas bUt I'LL pOunD tHe sHiT oUt oF oNe hUrR hUrr. Okay Very Straight Male.

Him and his wife are in a quad(lol) with another couple and he's like "We're just closer to the husband in the couple than the wife. It's just a small bump in the road tee-hee" Yeah, you're closer to him cause you wanna fuck him. Surrounding yourself with more women won't make you 100% straight.

What a sad excuse for a male.
"I was watching Chappelle Show and they did this skit about this white ass happy couple having to live with a couple of black gangsta type. During the skit the black guys kicked the whites guy out of his room, he thought his girlfriend would come with him, but she stayed and ended up having six with the black guys while her boyfriend masturbated in the corner.

I was in my late teens and I felt a feeling I had never felt before, and that was the start of my cuckold fetish."
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