r/polyamory

[Tanner Glass]

To quote Chris Fleming...it's never who you want to be polyamorous who's polyamorous...you're never like, oh sweet! you're usually like 'can I get a helicopter?'

Lady, raising your kid is an atheist isn't even in the top 10 of ways you're messing up your kid.

Also if she's 5'9 and 300LBS she isn't going to be around when that kid grows up anyway. Fill the kid up with all kinds of nonsense, by the time he is of age you'll be long dead of a heart attack.

 

[Buer]

Y'know when I hear people on that sub talk about their partners/SOs being "beautiful" or "really attractive" or something like that I wonder if they're just lying so poly looks "sexier" than it actually is or if they really believe that crap. I mean we know what they all look like. I also heard some dude was with a model but considering what can be considered a model nowadays(Tess Holiday anyone) that doesn't mean she's an attractive one.

 

[AprilRains]

Y'know when I hear people on that sub talk about their partners/SOs being "beautiful" or "really attractive" or something like that I wonder if they're just lying so poly looks "sexier" than it actually is or if they really believe that crap. I mean we know what they all look like. I also heard some dude was with a model but considering what can be considered a model nowadays(Tess Holiday anyone) that doesn't mean she's an attractive one.

They do it to feel more sexually attractive than they are. If they're pulling hot people, then they're hot, or something.

 

[sperginity]

Y'know when I hear people on that sub talk about their partners/SOs being "beautiful" or "really attractive" or something like that I wonder if they're just lying so poly looks "sexier" than it actually is or if they really believe that crap. I mean we know what they all look like. I also heard some dude was with a model but considering what can be considered a model nowadays(Tess Holiday anyone) that doesn't mean she's an attractive one.

It's all relative to the attractiveness of their dating pool, which isn't so great. I don't think they're lying to enhance polyamory's image so much as they just have really low standards.

 

[Tanner Glass]

They do it to feel more sexually attractive than they are. If they're pulling hot people, then they're hot, or something.

Or the idea that two fives are the same as one ten.

 

[QB 290]

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/9ll1he/partner_thinks_she_might_be_poly_and_i_dont_know/

This poor kid

 

[AnOminous]

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This poor kid

What a pathetic cuck.

 

[LtCucumber]

So up until very recently I've been using tinder and I found something that may be interesting to bring to the table if people haven't brought it up already.

The concept of "unicorn hunting". For those of you who aren't sure of what that is, it's basically where a couple seeks out a bi person for means of threesomes and/or casually dating as a poly relationship. I guess because a bi person who is single, willing to stay exclusive to the people in the couple, etc are hard to find (i guess??) they're called unicorns?

I dunno that as an idea (and a thing that couples actually do) sounds a little fetishistic, just as there's now a specific term for it and how that idea of open or "poly" relationships makes the couple(s) view bi people a little bit gross (as it's mostly because a bi person has an orientation that's convenient and suits their needs and that's about it, which is really iffy to me), but maybe that's just me. I only sort of get wanting to bring another person in, sure a bi person may be the best bet as a straight couple but if you're only associating with bi people on social media, maybe it's time to stop.

The whole idea of a couple finding another person to bring into the relationship to screw really really makes me think of the Toybox Killer... It's a little unsettling, and it kinda makes me think that eventually another couple are going to get arrested for kidnapping women for use as sex slaves.

 

[Applejack]

Spoiler: Polyamory 101

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If all 43 pages of this thread supply any evidence, their relationship is as good as finished.

Idk what you're talking about, seems normal to me.

 

[Hollywood Hulk Hogan]

So up until very recently I've been using tinder and I found something that may be interesting to bring to the table if people haven't brought it up already.

The concept of "unicorn hunting". For those of you who aren't sure of what that is, it's basically where a couple seeks out a bi person for means of threesomes and/or casually dating as a poly relationship. I guess because a bi person who is single, willing to stay exclusive to the people in the couple, etc are hard to find (i guess??) they're called unicorns?

I dunno that as an idea (and a thing that couples actually do) sounds a little fetishistic, just as there's now a specific term for it and how that idea of open or "poly" relationships makes the couple(s) view bi people a little bit gross (as it's mostly because a bi person has an orientation that's convenient and suits their needs and that's about it, which is really iffy to me), but maybe that's just me. I only sort of get wanting to bring another person in, sure a bi person may be the best bet as a straight couple but if you're only associating with bi people on social media, maybe it's time to stop.

The whole idea of a couple finding another person to bring into the relationship to screw really really makes me think of the Toybox Killer... It's a little unsettling, and it kinda makes me think that eventually another couple are going to get arrested for kidnapping women for use as sex slaves.

That's because poly people just wanna fuck more people

 

[Übertroon]

Haven't visited this subreddit before, talk about a hive of self destruction.

These people are figuratively destroying themselves in the pursuit of a hedonistic lifestyle. Can't believe that people see a frontpage filled with people asking to salvage their relationship and about all the diseases they get, and people think, "yeah, I'll have me some of that."

 

[vertexwindi]

I honestly don't give a shit how many people someone wants to sleep around with, at least they're being honest about it instead of trying to do it behind someone's back.
I was once the bull in a cuck relationship and it gave me a pretty big masculinity high, started to feel weird as fuck though. Couldn't help but feel bad for the guy, even if he was getting off to it, so I backed out.

Tell us more about your sexual stories.

 

[Basketball Jones]

Y'know when I hear people on that sub talk about their partners/SOs being "beautiful" or "really attractive" or something like that I wonder if they're just lying so poly looks "sexier" than it actually is or if they really believe that crap. I mean we know what they all look like. I also heard some dude was with a model but considering what can be considered a model nowadays(Tess Holiday anyone) that doesn't mean she's an attractive one.

I think that’s one facet of it. I suspect the other reason may coincide with how unhappy they are in their current relationship, and finding a partner that tends to their needs must feel like finding an oasis in a desert. Attraction is relative to the individual and what makes someone attractive varies to everyone. Even an objectively hot person can turn ugly and unfuckable once that inner ugliness comes out.

I know some girls who are easily 9s and 10s who are with men that are hard 4s or 5s on their best day, but they just click and there’s no one else you could imagine them with. But these are people that have personalities outside their sexuality or mental illness, and are mature enough to discuss any issues with their spouse.

That’s one of my theories. The other is just plain delusion and overcompensating how “great” things are in the most vapid ways because these are vapid people.

 

[KiwiKritter]

Sounds like being single with extra steps

 

[QB 290]

Sounds like being a cuck with extra steps

FIFY

 

[Tanner Glass]

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/9makab/coming_outfeeling_trapped_help/ (http://archive.is/z0FUr)

Doing the normal reddit search didn't yield much fun (typical boring reddit shit). Outside of reddit though, got some of the typical good stuff.

Depression and anxiety have been a lifelong battle for me, PTSD and misophonia are additional struggles

Because I am self employed and single, I do not qualify for much needed financial assistance

This year has been the slowest for me work wise than any other year, my finances are very tight

The past two years have been particularly difficult for me. There have been many Suicidal Crisis moments

A serious panic attack (had one this week) can cause 2-3 days of recovery, which is detrimental to my productivity

You sharp eyed kiwis might notices there's a pretty huge disparity between her off-site posts and her on reddit posts, specifically. On reddit she's been in love with a fantastic and understanding (but not Poly) guy whereas off site she's single and constantly suffering major panic attacks and living in a constantly suicidal hell. Quite the mystery - is she taking this poly experience way harder than she's letting on on reddit? Or is there something else at play?

Perhaps it's Rae tying to justify trying to crowdfund $43,500 for a PTSD Therapy Dog ( https://www.gofundme.com/rae-needs-a-service-dog )?

 

[Dafrunk89]

Read through the whole thread. I'm amused, sad and angry at the same time. Seems like most of the time people are lying to each other and especially to themselves. And almost always some sad individual ends up crying alone in some shitty hotel bathtub, angry at themselves how they're "bad polyamorists" or something while their world crumbles around and inside them.

 

[scathefire]

Read through the whole thread. I'm amused, sad and angry at the same time. Seems like most of the time people are lying to each other and especially to themselves. And almost always some sad individual ends up crying alone in some shitty hotel bathtub, angry at themselves how they're "bad polyamorists" or something while their world crumbles around and inside them.

It also hurts me that people are trying to spread the practice (or, *cough*, identity) as some totally hip and progressive thing. Meanwhile, it makes no sense and doesn’t fucking work. It seems inherently and inevitably dysfunctional.
They’re too proud to just proclaim “I’m a slut” so that people who want a genuine relationship can more easily avoid them.

 

[CrimsonKnight]

It also hurts me that people are trying to spread the practice (or, *cough*, identity) as some totally hip and progressive thing. Meanwhile, it makes no sense and doesn’t fucking work. It seems inherently and inevitably dysfunctional.
They’re too proud to just proclaim “I’m a slut” so that people who want a genuine relationship can more easily avoid them.

To them, it's "speshul". It's very much dysfunctional.

 

[QB 290]

Spoiler: 10 years undone in 1 night

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/9o103x/my_relationship_fell_apart/

And people still think poly relationships are a good idea