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Fcret said:
My experience with poly IRL is mostly modestly attractive girls using it as a way to lock in multiple betabux orbiters (both male and female surprisingly) with sex, like some kind of unholy amalgamation of crowdfunding and prostitution.
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My experience with it IRL seems to have been noticing that it seems to be meh looking women and weird looking troons. Oh, and creepy manipulative men. Kinda like the BDSM scene, I guess? I'm sure there's been poasts in this thread about how poly is like a weird sex cult, only you get shamed for not being WOKE enough to appreciate that your husband is banging a bunch of other weird looking women (and tranners)
 
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TaimuRadiu said:
My experience with it IRL seems to have been noticing that it seems to be meh looking women and weird looking troons. Oh, and creepy manipulative men. Kinda like the BDSM scene, I guess? I'm sure there's been poasts in this thread about how poly is like a weird sex cult, only you get shamed for not being WOKE enough to appreciate that your husband is banging a bunch of other weird looking women (and tranners)
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I think I posted earlier in this thread about a friend of mine who got into it, dumped her girlfriend of decades because she wasn't into it, and then started harassing me to go to her poly "pool parties" that were actually low key orgies in hot tubs and trying to set me up with weird unclean looking "kinksters" from her scene. No matter how many times I said no thanks, not interested, already taken, not into that, this is getting weird pls stop, ew dude no...she would not STFU and leave me alone until I just stopped responding to her calls and emails. A mutual friend said it was like having someone from your circle get sucked into Amway or a cult...yep.
 
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Lissamine Green said:
I think I posted earlier in this thread about a friend of mine who got into it, dumped her girlfriend of decades because she wasn't into it, and then started harassing me to go to her poly "pool parties" that were actually low key orgies in hot tubs and trying to set me up with weird unclean looking "kinksters" from her scene. No matter how many times I said no thanks, not interested, already taken, not into that, this is getting weird pls stop, ew dude no...she would not STFU and leave me alone until I just stopped responding to her calls and emails. A mutual friend said it was like having someone from your circle get sucked into Amway or a cult...yep.
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Wait, these were lesbians that were having sex?
 
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UnsufficentBoobage said:
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Vaspider posts like she's from another planet, she's a personal cow who I've been following on and off for years. ALL of her output is like this, and as far as I can tell it's all sincere.

Autistic social obliviousness is one of the things that can make polyamory (and transness) work. Normies try to imitate this mentality ("my boyfriend isn't openly cheating on me," "she's a woman and her name is Luna," etc.) but their instincts just refuse to cooperate.

I saw a post on here about the strange brew of emotions that women tend to have about trans people in their lives, trans women especially. Can't find it now, but: women coddle trannies out of a mix of fear and pity. They know that this is a man, though they might dismiss this gut knowledge as "internalized transphobia." Specifically, a potentially unstable man who is damaged and vulnerable. A lot of women have HORRIBLE judgement when they see a manlet with a broken wing.

And she's actually on to something--in a queer/poly/kinky/autistic social setting, going out of your way to affirm someone's gender is a really fast way to score social points and show how agreeable you are. Unlike other social skills, the pronoun game is based on easily learned, inflexible rules, which are easy for an autistic person to pick up. Taking someone on a girls' shopping trip for the first time is practically hero work, because of the supposed ~difference~ you've made in their life. It's a deep bond formed with little effort, so, basically, the trans cult in miniature.


@TaimuRadiu double posting is frowned upon but you can always edit instead. Welcome to the Farms, you're here forever.
 
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Amber the Hedgehog said:
To degree I think the wife was asking too much. He asked extra date time after multiple late nights and he didn’t check his phone consistently but he stopped the date after her panicking call but he took extra time to get home to give his date lift to home. I can see why the wife would find it annoying and/or worrying but outside the poly aspect perfectly normal and reasonable behavior. On the other hand his wife was already in distressed so no need to mention kissing or being otherwise intimate with the date. That’s just asking her to loose it, have little bit of tack man. Maybe this isn’t the right time for poling up the relationship, they already have two small kids and that’s going need extra time management and relationship rearranging.
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No matter how you cut it, being upset over your husbands date (and the fact that he isn’t psychic) WHEN YOURE IN A POLY RELATIONSHIP, is pretty exceptional.

Maybe she was one of those poly people who go into it thinking “Aside for some extra fun and sex for me, it’ll be exactly like before!” and then can’t handle it when the partner gets some.
 
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Polyamory is what happens when ugly people just want to be sluts but if they go out and try to get with other people they’re rejected. So they form these degenerate groups so there’s the social pressure and the ease of access.

I’ve never met an attractive person who was into polyamory (unless they were trying to use it as a way to escape a relationship) and I think it’s very telling that the people who participate the the socially stunted, unwashed masses.

I briefly dated a girl who was into these kind of kinks and I bailed as soon as I found out she wanted to be poly. It was a control thing for her. She had the stability and guidance of me but wanted to be in command of a cohort of borderline virgins who she could essentially sexually bully.

Needless to say the relationship did not last long.

She was also sexually abused as a child which should have been my red flag to gtfo.
 
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UnsufficentBoobage said:
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Overuse of the word 'super' and using conservative Christian approved swear word replacements is pervasive on the SJW side of the internet, and I don't understand why.

This is a bad word borrowing. What they're describing is a normal experience, albeit in an abnormal environment. It's normal to be happy that your friends are happy, even if whatever they're enjoying is something you don't like. Would you coin 'baby compersion' to describe how a childfree person feels when they learn their unhappily infertile friend is finally pregnant? No.

Being happy that your partner is happily fucking someone who isn't you? Nah. Not normal.

edit: Also, I am sure this person is legitimately happy and not lying about it, whereas a lot of poly people are gritting their teeth and pretending they love it when they don't.
 
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TaimuRadiu said:
My experience with it IRL seems to have been noticing that it seems to be meh looking women and weird looking troons. Oh, and creepy manipulative men. Kinda like the BDSM scene, I guess? I'm sure there's been poasts in this thread about how poly is like a weird sex cult, only you get shamed for not being WOKE enough to appreciate that your husband is banging a bunch of other weird looking women (and tranners)
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In my IRL experience with both scenes, there's alot of overlap between both, and between the behaviors they exhibit. It tends to be very damaged people who previously endured some sort of trauma and abuse. These people are then thrown in with a bunch of predatory fucks (of either sex) who are very skilled in manipulation. It leads to, about 85% of the time, broken hearts, broken minds and broken homes.
 
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Cryin RN said:
Hey, happy poly birthday! Your boy in the middle just turned 21!

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OP in the comments says the blonde woman and the dude are married and have a child, and now she (OP) is living with them part time. All this and the oldest one among them is 21. WTF. The married mom is probably doing poly shit to try to mitigate the feeling that she ruined her life by having a kid so young. OP says they talked for months on Tinder before meeting in person, probably because the mom was supposedly straight and monogamous with her husband and he had no idea.
 
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