I think it's fine to have a subreddit for people with micro dicks. I'm sure life must be really hard and distressing for men who have a micro penis, especially when you think about how our society judges men harshly based on penis size. Hell, our culture makes fun of men for having a 4 inch dick. Imagine having a micro penis. These poor saps would kill to have a 4 inch pecker. I'm sure they also feel lonely, so having a place to meet people with the same issue could be a really good thing for them.
However, after browsing the subreddit, it does not appear to be a very supportive place. Again, I completely understand that life has dealt them a difficult hand, and I think it's okay to vent about it. But reading through the posts, I don't see a lot of posts that encourages acceptance or betterment. The few that I did see didn't get much upvotes compared to posts that were just bitching. This is less of a support group and more of a pity party.
Right now there is a new top post where OP is explaining how those who want to help aren't actually helping:
I'm writing this because I feel like most people approach our issues with an ignorant mindset. I appreciate any and all good vibes being spread...
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I'm writing this because I feel like most people approach our issues with an ignorant mindset. I appreciate any and all good vibes being spread around because this place is depressing as fuck - but I want to explain why this place is as depressing as it is.
We know why it's depressing as fuck. You have a micro penis. People that are trying to spread "good vibes" are doing so to show you that a lot of your fears are either unfounded or overblown. They're also trying to show you that there is more to life then sitting around being angry about your dick.
1. Telling us to compensate via oral or fingers is degrading. I've been with multiple girls now so I know they fucking LOVE oral, to the point where I can safely say it's better than penetration (though experiences obviously might vary). Anyone who has a normal dick (or is a woman) knows this, so understandably you question why having a small dick can be such a detriment.
Most people here are WAY smaller than you're imagining - to the point where penetrative sex is impacted or impossible to realistically accomplish. I'm a perfect example of this - I had a condition called Hypogondanism which is essentially extremely low testosterone that I had during puberty. My dick had no growth during the time period where men experience the vast majority of their penis growth. I have a 5.8" bone pressed penis - sounds normal right? The problem is my dick was not supposed to be done growing at the age of 12-13, so I ended up with a little less than 3.75" girth. Because that's just a number and hard to visualize I have to explain the problems I face because of it. I cannot wear the smallest condoms the FDA will approve for sale, in fact I am closer to a finger in girth than the average penis. The condom slips right off as if I tried to place it around a finger. This limits me from casual sex as most people are NOT down to have unsafe sex. I also can't feel a thing when I'm inside my girlfriend which makes it almost impossible for me to cum. Imagine if you stuck your dick in a vagina and only the left side of your dick could feel anything because you're not big enough to hit the vaginal walls.
That sounds awful. Again, I get why this sap and everyone else is depressed. Thing is, having a micro dick is not the only issue out there that prevents people from having "normal" sex lives. People that have to wear colostomy bags have problems with casual sex too. They're embarrassed about it and scared that their partner will be turned off if they see it, just like people with micro penises are. What about people that are partially paralyzed? Or double amputees? What about women that have conditions that make sex painful? What about men who've had their dick partially destroyed from car accidents? Etc... There are so many conditions out there that prevent millions of people from having casual sex.
2. Toy argument: If you were a girl, and your boyfriend experienced no pleasure from you so he rescinded towards exclusively replacing your vagina with a pocket pussy whenever he craved "the really tight pussy around my dick feeling" you would feel like shit. Especially since any other girl would be able to give him that feeling. Only you can't.
Toys that enhance sex (not replace the function of my dick) are fun. But this is so situational that it's best to leave it out of a discussion about whether or not a person with a small dick can still be a viable sex partner. It just hurts knowing you failed so you're being accompanied by an object to make up for you being less than most people would normally be.
This guy is insecure and attaching way too much worth to his dick. If this guy would stop wallowing in his pity party for one second, he would realize there are lots of women out there that literally cannot get off from their partner's dick, regardless of dick size. They have to use a toy or they simply won't achieve orgasm. This does not mean their boyfriend is a failure.
This is what I mean about this place not being supportive. Sure, go ahead and vent, but you should also be working on accepting your handicap and finding ways to make it work. Ignoring people who bring up constructive points counter to your beliefs is not helpful.
I feel bad for these guys because society places awful body standards on men's junk, but the bizarre warped attitudes of these guys doesn't exactly make me want to be too sympathetic. I get the feeling a lot of their stories wherein they were "rejected for their penis size" are actually just scapegoats for other reasons they may have been rejected.
I agree. One thing a lot of these guys seem unaware of is how insecurity is a major turn off. I've been reading their posts about their dating lives and it's just embarrassing how insecure and needy they come across, even after their girlfriends said they were fine with their small penis. Women do not like insecure men, and we can spot insecurity easily. We don't want to have to constantly reassure you that you're fine, it gets tiring.
