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- Sep 7, 2016
There are people who don't understand how powerful an addiction to nicotine can be. That being said, recovering from addiction is ENTIRELY within the hands of the addict - they have to really and truly want to kick their habit. Mollycoddling any addict on the grounds that they can't help it, the poor dears, is simply enabling them and enforcing the mentality many have that they are slaves to their substances.
Nicotine addiction is nothing, really, it's the habit that is tough. It's similar to some forms of alcoholism in that way.
If you grab a cup of coffee and go outside to smoke during the breaks at work, every day, what do you do with that break if you decide to stop smoking? Will you still go outside? If you go outside what do you do, just stand there stare? Now you are thinking of smoking, if you would smoke you know what to do with that time.
That's the tough part of quitting for people, there will suddenly be noticeable holes in their daily routine that they trip over every day, they will notice that something is missing and it's not really the nicotine, that goes away completely after a couple of days.
Functional alcoholism is very similar. There are people that wakes up in the morning, goes to work, gets home and gets blasted every evening, then wakes up, goes to work and repeats the process. When they quit drinking, if they white knuckle it, what do they do with that time in the evenings? They don't know. When they go to sleep, how do they fall asleep? They don't know. Every day there is a big hole that they don't know what to do with, so they think of the thing that normally fills that time slot: booze.
It's the routine that needs to be changed and that's hard. At its core it is a similar feeling to if your dog dies. You walk the dog first thing in the morning, but now it is no longer there, so what do you do when you wake up? The change in the routine is very noticeable at certain parts of the day.
There was a study with results that baffled the medical community once. Many soldiers in the vietnam war that used heroin mysteriously kicked the habit on the plane ride back to the US, the place where they had a wife, kids, a completely different life and a completely different routine/schedule. In that setting it just wasn't part of their life.