Found two pills in my son's pants, what are they and how do I handle this? - 18/10/2017 00:02
Before you freak out on me for invasion of privacy, he's 17 and he damn well knows not to leave stuff in his pants pockets because I check them before I do laundry in order to not wash money. I've found pot and one time I found Adderall in his pockets and gave it back to him because honestly he could be doing much worse and I'm sure he didn't leave it there for me. This time it's pills I don't recognize, and I'm genuinely concerned that it's opiates or something that I need to talk with him about. First one is orange-y peach and round, AN on top, 515 on bottom, scored in the middle. The other two are the same, they have a funny-looking angular lowercase b on the non-scored side, scored side is 887 | 2 and blue and football-shaped. They're probably not that common because I asked one of my friends who's a recovering polydrug addict if she's seen them before, and she hasn't. Thanks for helping me out and getting through this.
I found a baggie of estradiol and spironolactone in my outwardly male child's pants, how do I handle this? - 18/10/2017 00:30
I thought I found drugs drugs when I was doing my kid's laundry but with the help of a drug-dedicated sub it turns out I really found trans drugs! I'm actually really excited for him (her?). He's always been pretty feminine and into gay rights and stuff, so I'm not sure why this is so shocking (in a good way! A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one.) but it is. So what do I do? Do I just give them back and pretend I didn't even look at the pills, assuming they're Tylenol or something? It might be better for him to come out at his own pace, but I also want him to know I completely support him no matter what he does.
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"I found these in your pocket. I'm here if you want to talk to me, and know that I'll always love you no matter what."
A long overdue update: I'm the mother that found hormone pills in her trans daughter's pocket before knowing she was trans about a month ago - 14/11/2017
So, what I did was knock on her bedroom door and give them back to her with a smile and said, "I found these in your pocket. I know what they are, and I just want you to know that no matter what path you take in life, you'll always be my child, and I'll always be your mother. I will always love you." She started crying right there and went back into her room for a while, so I went downstairs and made dinner. About an hour later, I knocked again, saying dinner's ready, and when she came out of her room, she had clearly been crying the whole hour. She hugged me like she hadn't seen me in years and said: "Mom, I'm transgender. I can't live life as a guy anymore. I've always felt like a girl, and never had the right words or the courage to say it."
It's like a whole new person came out of that bedroom. I asked her if she wanted me to use she/her pronouns (she did, as you can tell) and if she had a name (she did as well). She asked me if I could paint her nails black, since it helps with dysphoria alot. I happily obliged, and then did her makeup and styled her hair for her! I've never seen her so happy or readily interacting with anyone. She used to be like Kenny from South Park, just constantly hiding in her hoodie. In the last few weeks, she's been so enthusiastic about everything.
We even wear the same sizes in clothes and shoes! The only thing of mine that doesn't fit her is my bra. I was helping her get dressed up, and she put on pretty dresses and high heels. She was literally the happiest I've seen her. I even taught her how to tuck with a banana! (mama knows a thing or two about drag from her college days)
Apparently, she's been DIY'ing her hormones. I completely disapprove of DIY'ing even after she educated me because of health dangers, but I'm not going to try to get her to stop, I'm going to try to get her in to see an endo as soon as possible.
addition: thanks for all the support! I wish I could hug you all one by one
addition 2: If you're here from
r/drama, just turn around and leave. You're a bunch of trolls. There's supposed to be a no participation rule, but someone's too dumb to listen.
addition 3: I'm sorry if I don't get to your comment/message in a timely fashion, I'm trying to at least address all messages, but my inbox is exploding from this post and there's only so much time in a day!