Fuck, this has been a spergy read.
@LionSandwich, I'm going to assume that you initially came here to promote your comic. That's cool. Make a website, get some non-intrusive advertisers (Project Wonderful?) and rake in the cash. It won't make you rich and the taxes will be a pain, but you seem to need the extra income.
What comes to your sexuality / gender dyslexia, you
REALLY are in the wrong place to discuss that. We are mostly a good-natured bunch, but if you seek asspats and validation, you might want to find a support group or forum instead.
If you are serious about bettering your life, therapy really isn't so bad. I'm not saying that there is something wrong with you, you just sound confused about your feelings and need to figure out what you really want (MtF trans vs feminine male). You seem to have your problems already mapped out, you just need somebody who can help you sort them out.
Someone who is actually qualified.
Edit: Cute pics. Your face is more feminine than mine.