Single Father Problems

[Catgirl Enthusiast]

9 years ago when I had youth and energy it was no problem, but I'm wearing down. Working all day and then coming home to be a housekeeper all night and also doing all of the household maintenance etc. is getting old and tiring. I have dated the single women and they get jealous of the attention I give to my kids. I have dated the single moms and they will only give attention to their kids. Catch 22. The soft young women coming out of highshool into the adult world now days already have body counts approaching the triple digits. I'm pretty sure I'm just done with women as a whole as far as sex is concerned. I could take or leave it at this point. The question I have is should I trudge on as a single father doing it all myself and putting single mothers to shame, or look into mail order brides from third world countries that would be glad to keep house in America.

 

[Uncle Sid]

Charge your kids rent bunch of freeloaders.

 

[RACISM]

Women are niggers so buying one is fine.

 

[Girl Named Sandoz]

Working all day and then coming home to be a housekeeper all night and also doing all of the household maintenance etc. is getting old and tiring.

bro why do you think people have kids in the first place? shit ain't free, put them to work.
in a few years you'll have your own personal lawn service team too

 

[Crysocyan]

OP, you should try and find a cohabitant on Beauty Parlor. It's gonna work out well!

 

[Johnny Eastwood cash]

Why do you want advice from internet autists

 

[Ultrapenguin]

Are you @Cup Noodle on a different account you absolute drunken fucking nigger?

Idk, it might be an overly cynical take on the topic, but I genuinely don't see how you're supposed to make it work these days. Raising children has always been a communal effort, the idea would seem fine in any other time and place, but as it stands right now it seems totally outrageous. It's tough enough to maintain security as an individual let alone as a parent/family.

Fellows like Josh respond to that by saying stuff like oh, even in post WWI Germany they had kids. Yeah, the problem isn't that there isn't enough resources, it's that we live in a world full of (figuratively and literally) distant, anonymous figures constantly flowing into and out of each others' lives with no sense of social or environmental stability.

As for young women, contrary to stereotypes tbh they seem like they're too busy having panic attacks to sleep around too much.

I'm not sure how that would help your situation either way though, because a girl that age isn't going to be able or willing to deal with kids or a household. Beyond being a kind of skeevy age gap, if you're 30+ involved with some girl who's barely old enough to drink she's going to become more like your child, than to care for them.
Very few modern childless women want to be brought on as the fuck nanny regardless of age.

I'm not sure what to tell you, you're probably going to have to learn to make it work with a single mother. The first step is to stop watching anime.

 

[Freshly Baked Socks]

Give your young bachelor(ette)s a leg up, by making them learn to do their own laundry and swiffering now. If they're 9+ years old now, it's time. Maybe in 10+ years, they'll be great husband/wife material.

Do not try to find someone else to parent for you. It doesn't always end well.

 

[The NSA]

It’s not uncommon for mail order brides to be ex prostitutes. I won’t elaborate because I don’t want to PL, but it’s common knowledge in the countries they come from. That doesn’t mean they’re bad people, but it makes it more likely they have unresolved issues. Personally I wouldn’t want a person with that potential background influencing my kids.

Hire a biweekly housecleaner to do the deep cleaning like bathrooms, kitchen, and floors. It’s not too expensive and it frees you from a big time/annoyingness burden. Parenting is hard no matter what. As your kids get older they’ll be able to help keep house and cook. Start having them help with age appropriate things now and increase responsibility/expectations as they get older.

 

[Crysocyan]

Hire a governess or nanny, that's why they exist. Talk around with people from large immigrant enclaves, or post ads on facebook if you can't do the former.

 

[xXx: State of the Union]

Shoulda married the mother, unless she passed or something. If so my bad

 

[Catgirl Enthusiast]

bro why do you think people have kids in the first place? shit ain't free, put them to work.
in a few years you'll have your own personal lawn service team too

Have a few and see how that works out for you bro.

OP, you should try and find a cohabitant on Beauty Parlor. It's gonna work out well!

I found the perfect one but Null banned her.

Why do you want advice from internet autist

Because am internet autist.

It’s not uncommon for mail order brides to be ex prostitutes. I won’t elaborate because I don’t want to PL, but it’s common knowledge in the countries they come from. That doesn’t mean they’re bad people, but it makes it more likely they have unresolved issues. Personally I wouldn’t want a person with that potential background influencing my kids.

Hire a biweekly housecleaner to do the deep cleaning like bathrooms, kitchen, and floors. It’s not too expensive and it frees you from a big time/annoyingness burden. Parenting is hard no matter what. As your kids get older they’ll be able to help keep house and cook. Start having them help with age appropriate things now and increase responsibility/expectations as they get older.

Become divorced and make your kids do chores when the other parent doesn't even though they live in a pig pen. Kids would rather live in shit than work.

Shoulda married the mother, unless she passed or something. If so my bad

I married her before having kids with her. Still didn't work out well. One of my kids didn't even see his mother most of his life. She complains about him not loving her but it is her own fault. She couldn't be fucked with caring about her kids and the one had never known her.

 

[Johnny Eastwood cash]

Because am internet autist.

I see

 

[Dread First]

>come to thread expecting to read interesting stories about the burdens of single fatherhood
>turns out to be a 'woe is me' thread for a sperg parent wanting to buy a filipina wife bc muh 'lonely autist' and 'I'm a complete slob.'

Listen man, I came from a background with absentee parents, so I think I can give you a little worthwhile advice:

a) YOUR KID(S) should take priority in your mind at all times. Your actions do not affect you, and you alone; your children are equally affected by every action (or inaction) you make. Green card marriages are fucking shady as hell and will warrant undue USCIS scrutiny upon them because (the organisation formerly known as) INS wants to make sure that your kids are cool with a complete foreigner moving in with them and becoming a legal guardian. That's not even getting into how they feel about the situation they're currently in, absent of any surrogate mother figures in their life(s).

b) Ignoring your children and focusing on you, now: have you ever thought long and hard about the socioeconomic, cultural, and religious aspects of getting into a green card marriage with anyone from a third-world country? As stated above, the types of women who partake in these types of green card marriages are not necessarily role models for the impressionable, vulnerable, and young. Using your Filipina fling as an example here:

- The Philippines is poor as fuck, to where every fucking family has at least 2–3 relatives working overseas sending remittances back. Unemployment has been a decades-long thorn in the side for the Philippine government, and it's not uncommon for adult women to do SW online (i.e. cam shows, OnlyFans, independently selling nudes on social media, etc) to split the difference where remittances and meagre starvation wages don't add up.

- Single, Filipina mothers are an alarmingly common sight because of two reasons: inaccessibility of contraceptives and family planning services and the pervasive influence of Catholicism (and Islam to a lesser extent) which makes talking about such services taboo. At best, she got knocked up because she was coerced into giving up her virginity to a man who pumped/dumped her. At worst? She's an ex-prostitute with the bastard child of some long-forgotten John. This phenomenon is not unique to the Philippines, mind you; this is the norm for any third-world country that white Americans will shamelessly visit for sex tourism.

Sources for the above? Watching way too fucking many of my online friends buy into the online relationship with someone from SE Asia only to come out mortified when they realise just how dark the abyss truly was. Take what I say with a grain of salt (or an entire mine's worth), but please take it to heart and think before you act.

 

[The NSA]

>Become divorced and make your kids do chores when the other parent doesn't even though they live in a pig pen. Kids would rather live in shit than work.

Been there (am there) done that. You’re the parent, you have to set limits at your house even if it means it temporarily pisses your kids off. Tell them no electronic devices / going out / snack / whatever until they clean up. Take away privileges until they fall in line. Acknowledge them when they do things right. Be consistent. Make them clean up as they use things instead of letting it pile up. Kids can be frustrating but are very trainable.

Think of training your kids to do housework as an investment. It can be hard in the beginning but makes your kids more self reliant and responsible in the long term and into adulthood.

 

[PipTheAlchemist]

Lets be real, your kid was doomed from the start being parented by someone like you, OP
Regardless, I'll still give you this one piece of advice. Stop fapping to Chinese cartoon porn of girls with cat ears. Doing this alone will likely give you a lot more energy, or at least make you less of a fucking creep

 

[Gravityqueen4life]

buy a sex doll.

 

[Overcast]

Here are my tips:
1. Adopt a green haired five year old into your family.
2. Make friends with a nearly seven foot tall florist.
3. Work from home as a translator.
4. Live next door to a family with three daughters of various age groups who will play with said green haired girl.

...

Or, just do your best with what you have. Probably better not to bring in a mail order bride in the mix.

 

[Dollar Store Sentai]

I raised 3 kids on my own since getting custody in 2005. Lived near family for a decade before moving from the boonies to a city so they could actually socialize with people they weren't related to outside of school. All 3 graduated high school, two have found jobs they like while the youngest is still trying to find his place in the world... (By being a lazy bum in his bedroom ignoring the applications I email him.)

 

[Troon Destroyer]

1. Named Catgirl Enthusiast
2. Single father
3. Has not one, not two, but three children
4. Wants a mail order bride from an underdeveloped country
What are the odds this niggerfaggot is grooming and/or diddling his kids?
Absolute niggerfaggot you are, OP. Unforgivable.
Whatever government you bow down to should execute you by firing squad and give your kids to actual people before rape them or groom them into becoming trannies.