Spouse material?

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Based_Papa_John said:
Here's a few things I would recommend looking at when considering a mate:

1. How do they treat parents - I know this a controversial issue, and not always easy. Sometimes people just have cruel or crazy parents. I get it. But if a girl has daddy-issues, it's going to bite you later on. How they treat their parents, especially the one of the opposite sex, is likely to reflect how they will treat you.

2. How do they treat service workers - This is a big one for me, since I used to work at a service job. While most would treat me politely, some would treat me and my colleagues like crap, like the ones that threaten not to patronize your establishment again because you didn't do x to their exacting specifications. I guarantee you almost none of the employees at that place want to be there, whether it be fast food or retail. How a person treats these people is also a good indication of character.

3. Do you see this person as the father/mother of your children - Could you see this one being an adequate parent, or at least willing to rise to the occasion? Can you see this person as a role model for your children? It's easy to imagine someone as your spouse, but as a parent is a whole different ball game.
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"being a good mom" is the perenially failed litmus test, and when you tell people that's the most important partner thing to you they laugh it off with 'ha, who even wants kids?'. Need them cloning vats commercially viable I think, or I'll just hire up someone to grab one. Not like A baby is expensive to obtain worldwide, but I need one that's hypoallergenic and doesn't shed on the furniture too much.
 
People tell me I'm marriage material all the time... even though no woman wants to marry me. :\

I'm pretty simple though... As long as she can carry a conversation, has similar interests, is affectionate/supportive, isn't a pot smoker and/or alcoholic, and doesn't have self-esteem issues, then that to me is spouse material. Bonus points if she has a high sex drive and is pretty kinky.
 
As passionate as I am in both knowing one another, but also staying in the know. Communication is key; whether it be a misunderstanding, just a typical day, or something intimate, the want to talk with the other should always be present. You can be with someone with traits you might not really appreciate so long as you can compromise and understand why, I've found. Communication is everything.

The person who you can always count on to have your back, even if she can't be with you physically, she's always there for you emotionally.
A true partnership. Who brings out the best in you by just being a part of your life, and you for her.
 
I know it's trite but if you are planning to get married, always either get a pre-nup or have some sort of marriage arbitration written into a contract. You want to associate with family lawyers as little as possible.
 
Precisely the right amount of crazy. I draw the line at actual personality disorders and violence.
 
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