- Joined
- Jan 21, 2015
something i've noticed, and i'm sure a lot of you guys have too, is that anytime he has a bad breakup or a falling out with a friend, that opposite person is automatically labeled an abuser. even when they're not!
i think this is his way of making sure no one finds out about the things that he's done. if you label someone as an abuser, and then ostracize them from every place they're known, they can't spread the word. you know?
if he's the first one to cast someone out, they can't fight back. their word is automatically invalid, since they're the "abuser", and he's the "victim", so they'll take his word over theirs!
it's really frustrating to see. i have to wonder how many people out there he's taken advantage of that we may never find out about, because of stuff like that.
Unfortunately that crap is really common on Tumblr, and so, so many abusers rely on callout culture and twisting shit to make them look like the victim just because of a bad relationship (that was probably bad because of them in the first place). I've seen it happen to my friends and it's upsetting because the actual abuser in the picture then just pulls the "well ur an aboose sympathizer too kill urself" card and then vilify you all the same. It's ludicrous, but unless shitty people stop being shitty it ain't gonna change.
And thinking back to my actual abusive relationship, instead of writing callout posts and bullshit to try and make people hate her I just sat and fumed like the little angsty teenager I was. Did the whole thing of soppy whining on Facebook and posting Linkin Park lyrics or whatever then eventually got the fuck over it. Was it a shitty relationship? Yes. Very much so. I was lied to, cheated on, emotionally manipulated, etc. by someone I had to go to school with, instead of just talk to on Tumblr or Skype. If I can get over that little fucker when needing to see her every day, then these emotionally stunted brats should be able to stop talking to someone hundreds if not thousands of miles away without trying to destroy their lives in the process.