Disaster 'Sued by my abuser for millions, I set up a social network instead' - 'I should be allowed to accuse anyone of anything without consequence' - some whore. Featuring another de-moidified zone!


Olivia DeRamus was 19 and studying at university in California when she was sexually assaulted. The situation was made worse when she found she couldn't speak out about it.
"I was sexually assaulted. And my story doesn't end there," says Olivia.
After reporting the incident, the university launched an investigation and took action against the alleged perpetrator.
Olivia chose not to go to the police to avoid more trauma. But she still found she was caught up in a legal battle that lasted for years.
"I was actually sued by the perpetrator of my assault, for defamation."
In the United States if someone sues you, even if you win, you still have to pay your own fees - the financial pressure of this, she believes, was used to try to get her to retract her story as he denied the assault.
And as is often the case, she found that while legal proceedings continued, she was not able to speak about her experience in case her comments were used against her in court.
Olivia felt she desperately needed a safe space to discuss what was happening but couldn't find one. So as the process came to a close she went about setting up a new social network to give people in challenging circumstances a place where they can be heard.


She founded Communia, which she says is a first-of-its-kind social network addressing "social health" - the aspect of your well-being that stems from your relationships with others. It features such as journaling, mood tracking, community support and other resources.
"You can connect with yourself as much as you connect with others," she says.
The app, aimed at women and non-binary people, also has a more "Twitter-style" feed that can be used anonymously, whether for legal reasons or simply to retain privacy.
Olivia had suffered a physical assault, but victims of online abuse - according to the charity Refuge this includes more than one in three women in the UK - have also welcomed Communia as a safe place to express themselves.
One of those is Suswati Basu, a podcaster and former journalist. Suswati says her online feeds were "flooded" with homophobic, racist and sexist comments after she responded to a post on X, formerly Twitter, about the treatment of asylum seekers.

Suswati says other platforms make her "vulnerable".
To tackle problems like this, Communia has human moderators. They also verify all members by email and if they want to talk about certain subjects like sex or the #MeToo movement, users have to be verified using photo identification - a much more hands-on strategy than at other social media platforms.
"When I told people in the industry, they thought I was out of my mind," says Olivia. But she insists it can be done, even at scale.
And for Communia users, these safety features are a big part of the draw.
Lucy, not her real name, was trying to recover from an eating disorder. She befriended someone she thought was another girl suffering with anorexia on the social media site, Tumblr.
But then her "friend" started asking for photographs and sending messages that made her feel more and more uncomfortable.
It turned out she had been conversing with a man, who proceeded to send "several half-nude photographs".

"I felt really violated by it," says Lucy. "It just didn't feel safe."
Tumblr declined to comment.
Her experience on other platforms wasn't much better. "No matter where you go, if you admit you're a woman, it's like the environment just becomes sexualised automatically," she says. So she welcomes the "positive space" that Communia offers for women.
Men are allowed on the app, but they are not encouraged. Olivia says that when men do use the platform "nine times out of 10 it's for the wrong reasons" and they are removed.
Another way Communia stands apart from other platforms is that it doesn't rely on advertising. It has been downloaded more than 100,000 times, with the majority of users in the UK and the US.
Currently the basic app is free, with the option to pay for additional features and Olivia hopes to scale the business and make it profitable without advertising.
"You can add value, add additional revenue streams, in a responsible way that actually supports people and gives them what they need, versus extracting their privacy and their data," she argues.

Brooke Erin Duffy, an associate professor in communication at Cornell University, says that may prove a challenge.
"While the platform's efforts to evade data-collection and ad-targeting measures are laudable, they may prove difficult to sustain. Without advertising support, the platform will have to maintain a loyal base of paid subscribers," she says.
A key challenge will be how to scale up without "losing the sense of community that drew users in the first place" she predicts.
And for Olivia, the community means everything, given the experience she has been through.
For lots of people battling a court case isn't an option financially, so Olivia says the fact she was able to and can now talk about her experience is a privilege.
"If I can support other women in whatever it is that they're going through, then that's enough justice for me."
If you have been affected by the topics discussed in this article you can seek help and support by visiting the BBC's Action Line.
 
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Strange. Apparently it used to be called "Restless." Found a bunch of similar articles to this about 3 years ago and now there's a sudden name change and the BBC is pretending it's a new one. She's also been agitating in the UK to try to change things to bring the equivalent of Title IX here.
By now you know that there is an epidemic of sexual assault on university campuses. But what you probably don’t know, is that there is also an increasing trend of assaulters suing their victims in an attempt to silence them. How do I know this? It happened to me. It’s a long, painful story, but here’s the abridged version.

I was sexually assaulted during my first year at university in the U.S. I reported the perpetrator and was found in the right by the university. Despite this, my assaulter sued me in an effort to silence me. For most of my adult life, it worked. But not anymore.


And while living in the UK has been a haven for me, after I launched the Restless Network, I realised that this silencing happens to women here too.


There are a lot of people to blame for this new strategy. The abusers and their aggressive attorneys, first and foremost; the justice system, which lets them do it; but also, the universities. Before I came forward, the university promised me that they wouldn’t tolerate retaliation. In fact, in the U.S., universities are supposed to be required to protect women who have been assaulted under “Title IX,” the federal law that regulates how universities handle gender discrimination and sexual assault. But when I was sued, the university was unwilling to consider this lawsuit as retaliation. It felt they washed their hands of it and left me unprotected.

My assaulter sued me to try to get me to recant my story, to silence me so he could avoid his suspension by overturning the adjudicator’s determination in my favour. Had the university followed their own guidelines and took appropriate action, the lawsuit would have been dropped.

Instead, I was subject to over three years of constant legal harassment and personal isolation, as I was stripped of any privacy by the court and his investigators—who even went so far as to stake out my home in the U.S. and harass my friends for information about me. A whole new level of abuse. I was unable to tell anyone, even a psychiatrist, that no, I wasn’t okay and that I needed help.


But as awful as my experience was, I am one of the lucky few who could afford to defend themselves and come out the other side able to speak about what happened to me. So many women go through this, but you don’t know about it, because litigation, or the threat of litigation, is such an effective tool in silencing women.

My family had to spend well over $100,000 (over £78,000) trying to defend me. Most people can’t afford that. That means they’re left with no recourse and no help. Take Lucy and Verity Nevitt’s case here in England for example.

While the university in my case failed in its responsibility to protect me, at least I had marginal protections and a standardised investigation in the university’s adjudication process. British women do not have that and face this issue with even less recourse than I had. I’ve seen so many U.K. students asking on the Restless Network app what to do when their universities won’t investigate or protect them from their assaulters. They won’t change their class schedule, never mind take action against retaliation. And there’s no recourse, because there isn’t any country-wide legislation in place in the U.K. that legally requires universities to protect students who have been sexually harassed or assaulted.

So by now you’re probably feeling like there’s no solution. But here’s the thing: laws can be changed, universities can be pressured to act, and there are UK cases and you can donate to cases like those on Crowd Justice to avoid further precedent being set for this kind of intimidation into silence. But to do that, we need to start talking about this issue. And we need to be loud about it. We need to advocate for change on behalf of the many women who have had that ability taken away from them. We can make it illegal for perpetrators to use the law to harass and retaliate against their victims. And we can demand that universities everywhere have standardised policies and legal obligations to address sexual harassment and assault on campus.

Survivors deserve to be able to report without being persecuted, wealthy abusers should not be allowed to manipulate the law to silence us, and our universities should protect us. It’s that simple.
Even stranger there's no details about the actual outcome of the trial. I assume she won but none of the articles say so.
 
How do you know for sure it's buyer's remorse though?
>went to the school rather than actual authorities
>was found fraudulent by the commonly stacked court
In what world does this not set alarm bells off?

I've seen those interviews where women who kidnapped themselves realize their interrogators know they're lying. This screams that. I'm not wrong. I couldn't possibly be wrong. What I said definitely happened.

If a man were in the same position, none of us would give him the benefit of the doubt. Look at fucking OJ. He was exonerated and we all know he did it.
 
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Aside from the obvious suspiciousness of not pursuing an assault legally, it's incredibly selfish. Assume the guy did do it. What makes you think it's the first time or the last time? Maybe other people will be victimized, and you could have stopped it, but you didn't.
Not reporting this shit is literally perpetrating abuse by these peoples' own logic, (and frankly mine if I'm being honest), even in their framework they're failing.
 
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Aside from the obvious suspiciousness of not pursuing an assault legally, it's incredibly selfish. Assume the guy did do it. What makes you think it's the first time or the last time? Maybe other people will be victimized, and you could have stopped it, but you didn't.
Not reporting this shit is literally perpetrating abuse by these peoples' own logic, (and frankly mine if I'm being honest), even in their framework they're failing.
For a feminist, being a victim is the ultimate feel good moment. Why would they deny that to other women? That's just selfish!
 
For a feminist, being a victim is the ultimate feel good moment. Why would they deny that to other women? That's just selfish!
I don't get it. I genuinely find the concept of sexual assault repulsive. If the accusation is genuine, the cocksucker should be thrown in a cage, full stop.
 
She's also been agitating in the UK to try to change things to bring the equivalent of Title IX here.
From ^ here:

I reported the perpetrator and was found in the right by the university. Despite this, my assaulter sued me in an effort to silence me.
A good thing he did, and I hope he won on the basis of her not reporting the rape to the police.
If she did report and he was found not guilty, sure, tell your side of the story (criminal proceedings don't decide on the factual truth, they decide if the alleged perp should be punished, beyond reasonable doubt).

I was unable to tell anyone, even a psychiatrist, that no, I wasn’t okay and that I needed help.
Why?

I’ve seen so many U.K. students asking on the Restless Network app what to do when their universities won’t investigate
The police investigates. Sure UK police is troony and rapey, but it is the police's function to violate people's privacy and investigate. She wants an "investigator" who can't legally violate people's privacy to decide on a case, presumably from the standpoint of belieb wammen.

or protect them from their assaulters. They won’t change their class schedule, never mind take action against retaliation.
How would a schedule change protect a woman from moar raep? Do rapists just charge their targets in the lecture hall in full view of everyone else? What kind of retaliaion, do they want bodyguards?

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For a feminist, being a victim is the ultimate feel good moment. Why would they deny that to other women? That's just selfish!
A man wishes someone would rape him and projects his desires onto women, example #947472.
When's your dick chop surgery date, tranny?
 
Olivia chose not to go to the police to avoid more trauma. But she still found she was caught up in a legal battle that lasted for years.
"I was actually sued by the perpetrator of my assault, for defamation."
Okay so no police investigation occurred proving their guilt but you went around saying they sexually assaulted you?

Yeah you are going to get sued.
After reporting the incident, the university launched an investigation and took action against the alleged perpetrator.
Oh yeah I am sure that was a real thorough investigation.
"You can connect with yourself as much as you connect with others," she says.
Yeah totally not a hug box.
Olivia had suffered a physical assault, but victims of online abuse
No, she alleges she was assaulted. And victim of abuse online? <tyler_the_creator.jiff>

Also this article is a fucking ad for her gay app.
 
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