The Friendzone does it exist?

[Russtard]

The friend zone exsists but it’s totally your fault for staying in it. To me, the friend zone is an incel invention to continuously bitch about women and keep themselves from bettering themselves. It’s exactly like telling themselves that no women will ever love them because they don’t have Chad chins so why even bother?

You have no responsibility to be friends with anyone. If you only want to fuck, that’s fine. But if she isn’t interested, it’s not healthy at all to stick around and torture yourself. She didn’t “do” anything to you except not want to fuck you—everyone has people they don’t want to fuck. Cut contact. Move on.

 

[Fek]

Hoo boy, this shit.

I think you're asking the wrong question entirely. You're already setting yourself up for failure even thinking like this.

Alright, let's just get to the root of the issue entirely:

Dear younger fellas,​

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Don't keep spending so much of your goddamn time around women if you aren't fucking them. Yeah even that one you think you're just bestest of friends with (you know damn well you just want to fuck her but can't/won't). ​

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Also, stop pissing yourself away worrying about the shit women say to you.​

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Take all that wasted energy and focus on your damn self. The more you become a healthy functional educated man with money in the bank, the less you'll act like a boy and get yourself stuck playing "the backup plan" to some woman who isn't yours.​

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..and never waste another goddamn second on this ridiculous "friendzone" shit. All that ever means is that you're still somehow useful to her but not remotely desirable. Cut that shit out.

 

[ProgKing of the North]

Are you literally fucking saying that men and women can’t be friends?

 

[Fek]

Are you literally fucking saying that men and women can’t be friends?

I don't know why you're asking me. You clearly read my post before responding..

..right?

To be frank: you should strongly consider knocking that fallacious shit off.

 

[ProgKing of the North]

Okay, let me rephrase that then

If you think it's impossible to be friends with a woman you're a fucking retard autist

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

You all are fucking retarded. "Friend zone" is a common term and I've heard it used by people of all circumstances, even the most alpha of Chads.

Friend zone: You want to date someone but they don't, so they tell you they want to be friends.

Also, if a woman says she wants to just be friends, they probably don't actually want to be friends earlier.

 

[SpergPatrol]

You all are fucking exceptional. "Friend zone" is a common term and I've heard it used by people of all circumstances, even the most alpha of Chads.

Friend zone: You want to date someone but they don't, so they tell you they want to be friends.

Also, if a woman says she wants to just be friends, they probably don't actually want to be friends earlier.

Found the incel

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

Found the incel

I'm just reporting what I've seen. I was at a wedding once (guy was getting married shortly after his college graduation), physically fit, going into the military as an officer, pretty girlfriend, student athlete, student government, etc. All of his equally-successful friends were making jokes about him having been in the "friend zone."

Have heard numerous other social, fit people use it too.

If you never leave the house and spend all your time on the Internet, you might think it's just a term for "nice guys." Those of us who live in the real world have a bit more nuanced take on it.

 

[Guts Gets Some]

I'm just reporting what I've seen. I was at a wedding once (guy was getting married shortly after his college graduation), physically fit, going into the military as an officer, pretty girlfriend, student athlete, student government, etc. All of his equally-successful friends were making jokes about him having been in the "friend zone."

Have heard numerous other social, fit people use it too.

If you never leave the house and spend all your time on the Internet, you might think it's just a term for "nice guys." Those of us who live in the real world have a bit more nuanced take on it.

I've been waiting for another @Tfw_sid to join.

 

[Grotesque Bushes]

The friend zone exsists but it’s totally your fault for staying in it. To me, the friend zone is an incel invention to continuously bitch about women and keep themselves from bettering themselves. It’s exactly like telling themselves that no women will ever love them because they don’t have Chad chins so why even bother?

You have no responsibility to be friends with anyone. If you only want to fuck, that’s fine. But if she isn’t interested, it’s not healthy at all to stick around and torture yourself. She didn’t “do” anything to you except not want to fuck you—everyone has people they don’t want to fuck. Cut contact. Move on.

This nigga is correct.

I was put into the friendzone once, and that was the exact term used by the woman in question. She liked spending time with me, but wouldn't get to know me biblically for her own reasons. Solution? Go out with a different woman once or thrice, don't be a lapdog. Either she'll come back to you herself, or she won't, but there's no point to wasting your time on such shit.

 

[Fek]

Okay, let me rephrase that then

If you think it's impossible to be friends with a woman you're a fucking exceptional individual autist

You should be a magician for how easily you pull shit out of thin air.

This bullshit seems habitual from you, too. No one enjoys humoring strawman after strawman.

This part here:

Don't keep spending so much of your goddamn time around women if you aren't fucking them. Yeah even that one you think you're just bestest of friends with (you know damn well you just want to fuck her but can't/won't).

Does not once mention either of the things you seem to read from it. If you require clarification/affirmation from both sides of a statement in order to not read so far into something you end up bent over with your head lodged up your ass, then you probably shouldn't internet.

I'm not about to clarify my statement with faggoty shit like "b-b-b-b-but that doesn't mean you should never be friends with women! I have plenty of female friends myself! See I'm not a bad guy!" because it's unnecessary basic bitch behavior.

I want to humor everyone's posts on this site and I fully expect many of those posts to not be gems of wisdom (mine included). That being said - for the love of kiwifarms (or failing that: yourself), try to work on how quickly you jump to conclusions.

This finishes my hand in derailing shit any further by humoring you. If you really want to continue, PM away.

 

[Nadeko]

Hoo boy, this shit.

I think you're asking the wrong question entirely. You're already setting yourself up for failure even thinking like this.

Alright, let's just get to the root of the issue entirely:

Dear younger fellas,​

​

Don't keep spending so much of your goddamn time around women if you aren't fucking them. Yeah even that one you think you're just bestest of friends with (you know damn well you just want to fuck her but can't/won't). ​

​

Also, stop pissing yourself away worrying about the shit women say to you.​

​

Take all that wasted energy and focus on your damn self. The more you become a healthy functional educated man with money in the bank, the less you'll act like a boy and get yourself stuck playing "the backup plan" to some woman who isn't yours.​

​

..and never waste another goddamn second on this ridiculous "friendzone" shit. All that ever means is that you're still somehow useful to her but not remotely desirable. Cut that shit out.

I think I kind of understand what you mean? Like implying there is a friendzone then it means that you're automatically just being used, if I'm understanding right. Which is true, if you say you're in the "friendzone", you probably don't mean that you're friends but that whoever is using you and there's no mutual feelings, even friendly ones. But if people simply didn't focus on things like that and worked on themselves, the friendzone wouldn't exist, and you could find a woman who cares about them.

Sorry if I'm reading too deeply btw

 

[edibleBulimia]

It doesn’t exist. You need to make your intentions clear from the start or, if you develop these feelings when you’re already friends with the person, you gotta tell them somehow.
If you treat me like a friend, I’ll obviously think we’re friends. Confess your feelings, ask them out, I dunno. If you get rejected, shrug it off, it may even deepen your friendship with that person.
Most of the times friendzone is a term used by people who feel entitled to a relationship just because they’re friendly with someone.

 

[Medicated]

The friend zone exsists but it’s totally your fault for staying in it. To me, the friend zone is an incel invention to continuously bitch about women and keep themselves from bettering themselves. It’s exactly like telling themselves that no women will ever love them because they don’t have Chad chins so why even bother?

You have no responsibility to be friends with anyone. If you only want to fuck, that’s fine. But if she isn’t interested, it’s not healthy at all to stick around and torture yourself. She didn’t “do” anything to you except not want to fuck you—everyone has people they don’t want to fuck. Cut contact. Move on.

I agree with this. The friendzone is something that you say you are in when the only motivation you tried to get close to someone, is sex. By saying you've been friendzoned, you make your intentions clear that you never intended to be friends and are only sticking around at some chance to get some. But that would require that you be honest with yourself, and I doubt these people are.

 

[Info Neutral Agency]

A concept created by men who have the prince syndrome thinking that they are the almighty of people even though they are horribe assholes that the person they are talking (for example) wants to bash their head into the curve.

 

[Smaug's Smokey Hole]

Everyone here has friends and I assume everyone has many friends or coworkers they don't think of sexually, don't want to sleep with or want to be in a relationship with because it would be weird, they are your friend. Congratulations, you have created a friend zone, it is perfectly natural and rational and I don't see why it is controversial. This is not Dragon Age where every party member can be romanced if the player puts in enough time in the dialogue tree.

If your response is "I would absolutely fuck/date anyone of my friends if they just let me but they don't", congratulations, you're likely to complain about the friend zone while failing to understand basic human relationships.

So it absolutely exists but complaining about it is something incels do and that includes women of that variety as well.