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I started this in the Polissa thread, but I'm going to rewrite and expand a bit.
tl;dr - Even if you're living on almost nothing, value your dignity.
Being poor sucks. You have no time and no money and because of that it's easy (and feels natural) to not prioritize beauty. I argue, however, that one needs to do so, not just for themselves, but especially if you have children. Everyone deserves a sense of dignity and it's a lifesaver during the dark times to be able to say things like "At least a home a comfortable bed." or "It's not much, but it's nice for what it is."
These effects scale. There is, absolutely, a psychological impact that comes from going into your bathroom at home and seeing a crusted bottle of Softsoap and a stained toilet; and I guarantee you your children will notice when they visit friends' homes. (No, isolating them so they never see other people's houses also isn't ok.) It can take years or even decades for children raised like this to learn how to "fix" the uncomfortable feeling that comes from this, especially if they don't have any mentors to teach them.
If you are that adult, we're lucky enough to live with access to the world's knowledge. There are places you can learn tips and tricks to make things even a little bit nicer, and little bits add up.
Example channels:
"Do it on a Dime" is kind of consoomer-y, but she's got some great "hacks" and DIY projects:
DearModern is very good at arranging small spaces:
This philosophy applies to food, too, but honestly, sometimes food just needs to be fast and wholesome. You're better off learning general "make life easier"/"make outcome nicer" tips than individual recipes.
tl;dr - Even if you're living on almost nothing, value your dignity.
Being poor sucks. You have no time and no money and because of that it's easy (and feels natural) to not prioritize beauty. I argue, however, that one needs to do so, not just for themselves, but especially if you have children. Everyone deserves a sense of dignity and it's a lifesaver during the dark times to be able to say things like "At least a home a comfortable bed." or "It's not much, but it's nice for what it is."
These effects scale. There is, absolutely, a psychological impact that comes from going into your bathroom at home and seeing a crusted bottle of Softsoap and a stained toilet; and I guarantee you your children will notice when they visit friends' homes. (No, isolating them so they never see other people's houses also isn't ok.) It can take years or even decades for children raised like this to learn how to "fix" the uncomfortable feeling that comes from this, especially if they don't have any mentors to teach them.
If you are that adult, we're lucky enough to live with access to the world's knowledge. There are places you can learn tips and tricks to make things even a little bit nicer, and little bits add up.
Example channels:
"Do it on a Dime" is kind of consoomer-y, but she's got some great "hacks" and DIY projects:
DearModern is very good at arranging small spaces:
This philosophy applies to food, too, but honestly, sometimes food just needs to be fast and wholesome. You're better off learning general "make life easier"/"make outcome nicer" tips than individual recipes.
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