what is an ex-gay?

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I actually know an ex-gay.

The story is kind of hilarious. He was one of the least attractive people in high school. What a big fat teenager was like in the mid 90s. He and the least attractive girl in the school decided they should date because they could not do any better than each other. She was fat, gross and ugly. They dated for a year or so. Everyone was just grossed out by this couple, but people understood and kind of respected the "can't do any better" aspect. I recall one girl telling me the main thing that repulsed her about the couple dating was that during the summer when the girl had her legs open there was a strong pee smell.

They broke up. The guy then came out as being gay. Back then there weren't really gay people so...
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I actually know an ex-gay.

The story is kind of hilarious. He was one of the least attractive people in high school. What a big fat teenager was like in the mid 90s. He and the least attractive girl in the school decided they should date because they could not do any better than each other. She was fat, gross and ugly. They dated for a year or so. Everyone was just grossed out by this couple, but people understood and kind of respected the "can't do any better" aspect. I recall one girl telling me the main thing that repulsed her about the couple dating was that during the summer when the girl had her legs open there was a strong pee smell.

They broke up. The guy then came out as being gay. Back then there weren't really gay people so he was just gay, no one cared. He had no one to be gay with. He went off to college and joined whatever gay societies there were. Was a gay dude. Banged dudes for a few years I assume. Through that other gay guys encouraged him to get into some fitness. He then lost most of the weight and suddenly had a little bit of female interest in him. He decided he wasn't gay at all. Started dating chicks. Is now married with kids and never went back to being gay. Literally says it was just a phase and now has zero attraction or interest in guys.

Says he can't explain it, but we all know. He was too gross for girls he could find attractive. Dated a girl so gross it put him off all women. Just went to dudes for sexual pleasure until he could get girls that weren't repulsive. Chose dudes over gross chicks. He'd probably just be a furry incel tranny if he grew up a decade or two later. Where he'd never get the encouragement to better himself by losing weight.
 
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Another good example of this is the Lesbian Until Graduation phenomena you see (Used to? I ain't running around a campus to ask) a lot amongst college age women. Born out of a desire to be rebellious, try out new things, and just kinda putz around. I doubt its as common anymore but its basically just the equivalent of trying something for the experience of it.

Some may be actually bisexual but I've met a number who just admitted they 'tried it and decided it wasn't for them'.
 
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Agarathium1066 said:
Another good example of this is the Lesbian Until Graduation phenomena you see (Used to? I ain't running around a campus to ask) a lot amongst college age women. Born out of a desire to be rebellious, try out new things, and just kinda putz around. I doubt its as common anymore but its basically just the equivalent of trying something for the experience of it.

Some may be actually bisexual but I've met a number who just admitted they 'tried it and decided it wasn't for them'.
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Shit, this reminded me, I also used to know a former lesbian. Another yestergay.

She was straight, but in her early 20s, she became super best friends with a lesbian. The lesbian basically bullied and wore her down into being in a lesbian relationship with her. She felt like she had no choice, it was be gay with her or lose the really strong connection and friendship with her best friend. They officially dated for a few years. She came out as gay to everyone. Yet she said she never actually was gay. It was just a strong, close friendship. Even though they'd have sex, she said she'd think about dudes when receiving or giving sexual pleasure to the other women.

Apparently, she could go down on the chick, while thinking about dudes.

Then when she got out of the bad relationship, she was straight and a bit confused about how she let that women make her be gay.
 
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Even though they'd have sex, she said she'd think about dudes when receiving or giving sexual pleasure to the other women.

Apparently, she could go down on the chick, while thinking about dudes.

Then when she got out of the bad relationship, she was straight and a bit confused about how she let that women make her be gay.
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Knew people who claimed the opposite as well (thinking of women/men while fucking or performing oral sex) and more than a few who were in abusive relationships that used that as a coping mechanism. Really all there is to it, that lesbian bullied them into doing what they wanted until they finally tore free.
 
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Screamer said:
Shit, this reminded me, I also used to know a former lesbian. Another yestergay.

She was straight, but in her early 20s, she became super best friends with a lesbian. The lesbian basically bullied and wore her down into being in a lesbian relationship with her. She felt like she had no choice, it was be gay with her or lose the really strong connection and friendship with her best friend. They officially dated for a few years. She came out as gay to everyone. Yet she said she never actually was gay. It was just a strong, close friendship. Even though they'd have sex, she said she'd think about dudes when receiving or giving sexual pleasure to the other women.

Apparently, she could go down on the chick, while thinking about dudes.

Then when she got out of the bad relationship, she was straight and a bit confused about how she let that women make her be gay.
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I knew a girl that was sexually abused, so she instinctively reacted badly to Men, came out as a lesbian at a young age. Was even the leader of the gay alliance in university. About ten or so years later, she got together with her best friend. A guy.

I wonder if it means some peoples sexuality are malleable.
 
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Screamer said:
Shit, this reminded me, I also used to know a former lesbian. Another yestergay.

She was straight, but in her early 20s, she became super best friends with a lesbian. The lesbian basically bullied and wore her down into being in a lesbian relationship with her. She felt like she had no choice, it was be gay with her or lose the really strong connection and friendship with her best friend. They officially dated for a few years. She came out as gay to everyone. Yet she said she never actually was gay. It was just a strong, close friendship. Even though they'd have sex, she said she'd think about dudes when receiving or giving sexual pleasure to the other women.

Apparently, she could go down on the chick, while thinking about dudes.

Then when she got out of the bad relationship, she was straight and a bit confused about how she let that women make her be gay.
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If a dude had pestered her like that, he'd have been charged with rape.

Anyways, do we really need another Milo thread?
 
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People's sexuality is a lot more fluid then people have been told. Used to be "all gays are genetically programmed and won't have sex with women", now we know that most people have the capacity for bisexuality but choose not to pursue gay relationships due to societal constraints and because they have a strong preference for one over the other.

A dude may have had a bad experience that turned them off women and made them more inclined to try out men for awhile. Then they got bored of it or met a woman they liked and decided they would go back to women. Being straight is easier in a lot of ways and the drive to procreate hits harder as we enter the 25-40 range.

Most people have the capacity for bisexuality, they just don't explore it often. Its becoming more common as sexual norms are changed(and because women #metoo'd themselves out of good men and the men who stuck around are weak soyboy cucks). The "ex-gay/straight" phenomenon is just people switching back to their natural preference.
 
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sexuality is fluid, every single girl i know has found a female celebrity sexually attractive at least once in their lives.

before i knew what bisexuality was, i always wondered why i found both katy perry and a guy at my school hot.
 
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Most people have the capacity for bisexuality, they just don't explore it often.
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That's really the shortest way to explain why you may 'quit' being gay. There's plenty of women I find attractive alongside men yet there's also the cultural issues or personal issues that may come from it. If it appeals enough they'll pursue them. If it doesn't they won't.
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oh and a lot of men are also bi, they are just too insecure to admit it
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Yep. It's significantly less acceptable which is why you don't see 'gay until graduation' sampling of the lifestyle. Promiscuity in that age range is expected for both men and women, but mercy be upon the men who explore it.

Even better there's still a very serious bisexual stigma no matter man or woman but that's not on topic so I'll leave it at that.
 
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