What number of sexual partners is too much, in your opinion?

[AcidityLiquidity]

Ideally anymore than 1 is too much with how pair bonding works, and everytime you bone someone else it messes with your noggin]

But realistically, the majority of women will have boned someone in HS- so anything above 2-3 is too much

For guys, I'd say anyone with a notch count pushing something crazy like 50 plus doesn't seem husbando material

 

[sleepy-jezza]

For guys, I'd say anyone with a notch count pushing something crazy like 50 plus doesn't seem husbando material

Agree. However, most guys find life-long partner (long) before they get to sleep with 50 women.
Men who have notch count 50 or more, and are only looking for girls to have sex with, are basically just sex pests, but they are quite rare and people don't like them, especially if they brag about it.
Also, single guys age 40-45 (depending on their social status) are on the same boat as single 35 yo women.

 

[Daughter of Cernunnos]

gay poopy disease sex

More than 20 is too much.

 

[Dread First]

For me, it's not so much the number of partners you've had over the course of your life that matters to me but rather the frequency at which you've gone through partners that bugs me. I don't care if you had 10 sexual partners in your life if you're my age. That more or less amounts to 1 person a year on average. If you had 10 sexual partners within a narrow stretch of time like some women who end up on Maury, that's a fucking problem. Do you guys see where I'm coming from with that?

 

[Hollywood Hulk Hogan]

I've been with a lot of women so I don't care if the woman I am banging has been with a lot of men. Seems like it'd be hypocritical. If they're clean, who cares?

 

[stares at error messages]

If I were asked I would lie.

I would assume if I asked I would be lied to.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

More than me.

 

[Crazedking]

Their age divided by 7. (21yo = 3, 28yo = 4 and so on). The fewer the better and preferably fewer than me.

 

[Sriracha]

I like men that are virgins/low count because I find that it's easier to communicate exactly what I want and how I want it because they are eager to learn.

 

[Andy Bandy Man]

As many as it takes to find love.

 

[Mnutu]

Their age divided by 7. (21yo = 3, 28yo = 4 and so on). The fewer the better and preferably fewer than me.

Damn, getting laid at 7? Kids are getting started earlier and earlier.

 

[LonesomeDud]

I've disappointed myself by having pre-marital sex with more than one person, so it's not really fair for me to demand that of someone else. That said, it needs to be fewer than you can count on a hand. I want my life partner, regardless of her age, to cherish intimacy and have learned from past mistakes, and ideally be better than me in that area.

 

[Sage In All Fields]

So long as you were married to each, there's no upper limit, although 0 partners is preferable for your first partner it's not a deal breaker by any stretch

 

[LonesomeDud]

So long as you were married to each, there's no upper limit, although 0 partners is preferable for your first partner it's not a deal breaker by any stretch

A much bigger deal for me, although admittedly easier to find in a female partner, is someone who doesn't view porn. (I don't care if someone engages in erotica; I'm talking about actual fucking on camera for money.) Modern porn is terrible and the femi nazis are right: You have to hate women in some capacity to spit on them and hurt them, and it's unfortunately common. I don't want to be with someone who wants me to hurt them or thinks that's sexually ideal.

It's not my job to police what other people like and do, but sexual degeneracy isn't something I want in a relationship. I don't want to be with someone who wants to be a baby or an animal. I do think the more partners someone has had or the more pornography they've viewed, the more debauched and debased things are going to appeal to them. I'm just not interested in compromising my values for a cheap thrill.

 

[lemme ASS you a question]

i was with a girl who said she legitimately slept with 8 different guys, half of them from pubs and twice her age. She was 19 and i was 21 at the time. She slept with more people than i even knew personally, truely and canonically a b r u h moment imo

 

[Enoby Way]

Doesn't matter how many are on the list before you, as long as you're the last one on the list.

 

[Just_A_guy]

I don't think there's an upper limit on how many people you could sleep with in the totality of your life. The only issue comes when you decide you wanna try to fuck around with multiple people at the same time.

Polyamory only works in very very few cases and usually just means the dude is a cuck.

 

[sleepy-jezza]

I don't care if the woman I am banging has been with a lot of men. Seems like it'd be hypocritical. If they're clean, who cares?

The more sexual partners girl had the more likely she is to cheat. Promiscuous girls usually have some personal issues, either they've been molested, or they have daddy issues... No matter what, it's always a red flag.
As people say "you can't turn a hoe into a housewife".
Guys are a bit different... As long as they don't turn into sex addicts.
Also it's not a bad thing to make your girlfriend/wife jealous from time to time, just to remind her that you still have value and that there are other women interested in you, so she doesn't get too cozy.

 

[Whatsup bud?]

I had so many (mostly half-drunk) conversations with both my female and male friends about this subject IRL.
So:
girls age 18 and under - expected/(ideal) number of partners 0-2
girls age 18 - 23 - expected/(ideal) number of partners 1-4
girls age 24 -28 - expected/(ideal) number of partners 2-6
girls/women age 29-35 - anything below 10 is still fine
women over 35 - don't date them no matter what. Normal, healthy emotionally mature woman is perfectly capable finding long-term partner/husband before she turns 30, no matter whether she has career or not.

If you are a guy, if you had 2 or more sexual partners by the age of 24, you are still OK. If you don't get married by 25 you will be able to "work those numbers" later in your late 20s and 30s.
There realy isn't to such thing as "too much sexual partners" for men. Women/girls can have sex whenever they want, with whoever they want, men have sex when they earn it, or when they get lucky.

Straight men, maybe. Finding sex as a gay dude is easy as hell. Does that change the appropriate number in your mind?

 

[sleepy-jezza]

Finding sex as a gay dude is easy as hell.

It probably is, especially today with dating apps.

Does that change the appropriate number in your mind?

I suppose it's ok to sleep around if you are young dude as long you don't become a pest. I don't know the numbers. Ultimate goal is the same, find long-term partner to grow old with.
Gay men make up for relatively small population, especially outside big cities and metropolitan areas. I only know few openly gay guys, but we never talked about sex and dating and what it's like for them.