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Everybody loses people, loses parts of their life, loses part of themselves.
What's the best way to deal with the pain of loss?
What's the best way to deal with the pain of loss?
What's the best way of dealing with grief?
- Thread starter Lemmingwiser
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You just deal with it. It really sucks but life goes on. It's a day by day thing. It is going to hurt like hell for a long time, but it lessens. Never goes away completely, but eventually you can think of them fondly.
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Music. For real. Classical- Bethoven's 7th, country- Hank Williams, Patsy Cline, jazz.. Billie Holiday, Charlie Parker, n blues- delta shit.
Stuff from times of struggle- depression music. "Hard Times Come Again No more" compilation is awesome.
"Nothing lasts but everything lingers in life." - Parquet Courts. My favorite mourning quote, true and comforting.
And make a holiday. We had a once in a life time cat who loved ham, and now we eat ham on the anniversary of his death.
Stuff from times of struggle- depression music. "Hard Times Come Again No more" compilation is awesome.
"Nothing lasts but everything lingers in life." - Parquet Courts. My favorite mourning quote, true and comforting.
And make a holiday. We had a once in a life time cat who loved ham, and now we eat ham on the anniversary of his death.
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Going to the gym.
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Acknowledging it. Trying to ignore it just leads down a shitty path sooner or later, when it creeps back up on you.
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Ride it out. It comes in waves and hits you at unexpected moments and there's really nothing you can do about that but progress through it in a healthy manner. It diminishes over time and you get better handling it in a general sense as you age and experience additional losses. Avoid unhealthy 'coping' mechanisms that are more like deferrals and deflections. Drugs, withdrawl from routines and responsibilities, denying the reality of the situation. All of these don't help you move through it so much as shove it aside and allow it to return at a later date un-processed.
Acceptance is the most important aspect of all of this. Be glad that you had the time before the loss, but accept that that time has now passed and it's something different now. Ultimately, this is the way of all things, including your own existence.
Acceptance is the most important aspect of all of this. Be glad that you had the time before the loss, but accept that that time has now passed and it's something different now. Ultimately, this is the way of all things, including your own existence.
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It's hard to say. I've lost both parents and many close childhood friends. Whatever the case may be, drugs and alcohol are not the way.
I think Mark Cuban said something about only letting so many things in life get you down and not letting anything KEEP you down.
I think Mark Cuban said something about only letting so many things in life get you down and not letting anything KEEP you down.
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I don't know. I've never lost a close family member, but I'm absolutely horrified at the thought of losing a parent, and I have no fucking clue how I'll survive it or how anyone survives it. Losing someone who has obviously been in your life since the day you were born is incomprehensible. I'm not even that close to my parents anymore since they've both become unstable elements in our lives, but I don't know how I won't just drink myself to death when I lose one of them. It's a really scary thought.
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It feels like true loneliness when your parents are gone. Then, the only person that cares about you, is you. It hardens you and blackens your heart if you let it. It can either break you or you start to enjoy the darkness if you're spiritually ill like me.
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Become a mad scientist and reanimate the dead, probably starting a zombie apocalypse.
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Here is something I can answer. You need to find what that particular person lived for, and embrace that. Unless it was suicide, or rape, then do not embrace those things. I lost my Mum recently, and although she is dead, I know her spirit, or memory, or whatever, wouldn't want me sitting around being a sad sack Annie. If you value the person you lost, do not insult their memory by grieving endlessly (Unless they themselves grieved endlessly, then by all means). Embrace life. Learn to laugh. Dig them up and have sex with them. If you aren't a Christian, then you must believe we only have one life. Theirs is complete. Yours is not. Buck the fuck up and live.
Day Walker
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My family tells jokes and funny stories about the ones we lost. We laugh and cry it helps. The saying time heals all wounds, isn’t exactly right but time eases the pain without it ever really going away.
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Me and my family learned to cope with memories and laughter. We'll think of something horrible my grandmother would do and laugh because she no longer has the opportunity. We'll think of how we miss her and what we wish she could still be around for. I'm so much like her it's almost as if she's still with me.
I think it helps to have people in your life who intimately feel the same loss. Then there's always a part of the person with you, be it mentally or physically. I can look in the mirror and see the traits I took after her. There's always that imprint a person leaves. They change you in a way and you might not be able to appreciate it until they're gone.
I think it helps to have people in your life who intimately feel the same loss. Then there's always a part of the person with you, be it mentally or physically. I can look in the mirror and see the traits I took after her. There's always that imprint a person leaves. They change you in a way and you might not be able to appreciate it until they're gone.
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When you feel grief course through you, call the grief a nigger.
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I know how you feel, fren
Trying not to PL too much, but I witnessed the incredibly untimely loss of my boyfriend's (at the time) mother a few years ago and seeing that stuff really makes you come to terms of the mortality of your parents and how quickly it can come. Shit was hard, and it wasn't even my mother. I've been trying not to take any moments with my parents for granted anymore.Best things to do is to keep your mind occupied. It's really easy to lay in bed and rot away in grief. Allow yourself to feel emotions, but don't wallow.
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This is why you make your own family. You, hopefully, got unconditional love from your parents, once you are grown you now give that unconditional love to to the family you create. You received and now you should give.
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