What's the best way of dealing with grief?

Take a day or two off and get back to life. If you are bored the first day off, go back to work the next day and have some four day weeks instead of the full five.

It works. Lots of dead brothers and sisters and my uncle owned a funeral home I worked at during summers. Been around it all my life.

Life is your answer.
 
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Time. After enough has passed, you'll be less sad that your loved ones are gone, and be gladder that they were part of your life.
 
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May I also recommend "Watertown" by Frank Sinatra. That album will give you that so painful yet so refreshing cry.

And call up your most ReRe friend to have some fun. Vegas, sports, cigars, strip club, whatever. Do something off the wall.
 
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I like to write a long melodramatic exposition about whatever dilemma I'm having and then it just sort of goes away when I realize how silly I feel.
 
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To grieve means that you once loved. Not everyone is capable of deep grief, for there's many with desensitized emotions. Be proud of your heart's sincere compassion and longing for the lost.

I lost a friend to suicide earlier this year and one piece of advice I can give you is to channel some of those feelings into those you still have in your life. If you regret (like I do) that you didn't show the lost enough appreciation, show someone appreciation. If you feel like you didn't spend enough time with your loved one or make enough effort to re-connect with them, give it a try. Its one way to give the lost a positive impact on the present, that their life touched yours, and in turn helped you touch someone else.

Jesus taught about mourning in his beatitudes sermon (Matthew 5) “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." I encourage you to seek Christ out if you don't know him, for the true spiritual healing and uplifting he offers is unrivaled.
 
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It hurts, but whenever you think of them, think of a good time. Whenever you remember them, remember a funny moment. Let them be a joy in your life even in death. They would want that.
 
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There are two types of people: normal healthy people, who feel sad and cry, time passes and lessens their pain, they accept and move one.

And non-normal, unhealthy people, they feel sad and never stop feeling aggrieved, with high probability of this turning into more destructive habits, time passes and lessens their pain but they are forever damaged, they don't accept and they don't move on.

Which type are you? Act accordingly.
 
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I don't know, but I could definitely tell you what not to do if I didn't mind power leveling too much.
 
Face it. Feel it.

Allow yourself to feel the grief. Talk through it. Paint, write, recite about it. Build something using its melancholic power as impetus. Sing a song from a fond or bittersweet related memory.

Once you've allowed the feeling to wash over you, then forgive and/or love who or whatever (most importantly: yourself) lurks at the root of your feelings of grief.

Face, acknowledge, forgive, and love.

So long as you face it? Life will be seen as beautiful again. I promise.

My sincerest condolences, friend.
 
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Wailing and the beating of the chest and the tearing of clothes. Shave your head and your beard and for 101 days do not cut it again. Wear black rags and do not wash yourself for the duration.
 
I give mine to God, and let Him do with it what He will.

I don't think that makes it hurt less, but being able to say with Job that "the Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” stops me from being self-destructive over things that happened a long time ago, and frankly have turned out to not be all bad. That doesn't mean they were a net positive, but like when you are in a fog bank and you can't see out, it is easier to be overwhelmed by grief when that's all your day is. And that's not wrong, but the bigger picture betrays that actually not everything is always a catastrophe forever.
 
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