When did it become socially acceptable to just not show up?

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At some point in my life, I started noticing more and more cases of people just not showing up for scheduled events. This isn't just one or two people. This is like, everybody I know. Younger people seem to be worse about it, but it's not JUST them.

Some have kids or whatever, but a lot of them don't. Whether it's a regular thing like work, a big event, or something as simple as getting lunch together, they just don't show up.

No warning, no excuse, not even a reason given. Just, "lol oopsy woopsy 🙃". And if pressed, it's DSP-level "bugged showing up mechanics, nuffin' I could do".

How hard is it to keep your agreement to be in a specific place at a specific time? Is it just me? Why is this okay?
 
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people have always been flakes but if you think it is happening more than usual perhaps i might ask you what would you describe your usual gathering or event would be. thank you
 
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What kind of events are they flaking on? That’s kind of weird if it’s happening a lot and they’re not even texting or calling.

The only people I’ve had straight up no show is contractors.
 
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I have little social life (surprise) so I can't speak on that subject. I see the same trends in work absenteeism, at least in construction. Our apprentices are spoiled fkn rotten these days and many of them don't even bother to show up for 40 hours. I know journeyman who show up once a week on a major construction project I'm on now. They don't get let go because supply isn't even close to meeting demand so they hold on to anybody with a pulse.

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The only people I’ve had straight up no show is contractors.
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Construction is a hell of a business. I can't believe how much of our economy is dependent on inveterate drunks, flakes, drug addicts, fuck ups with no self control, etc. But hey, they're my people and I love 'em.
 
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I blame the social distancing we've been doing over the last two and a half years. Anxiety is a real thing, and can definitely be acquired by being isolated for so long. Anxiety isn't an excuse, the behavior is shitty, but it is a reason. The way to work through anxiety is to do the thing(s) that make you anxious, so they're hurting themselves by doing this.

If this pre-dated Covid then ask yourself if they're avoiding the event or people at the event. Remember the old saying about assholes and running into them all day. I'm not saying you're an asshole, I don't know you so how would I know? I'm saying if you're not sure why people avoid times when you're around to do some self-reflecting and maybe ask some people who do know you for their opinion. It may not be you, it may be a friend of yours they're avoiding. Or find new friends, because yours are shit.

Doesn't matter what the cause is, just not showing up with no prior warning or excuses is shitty behavior.
 
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I noticed it really took a turn when cell phones became ubiquitous. Beforehand if I called you to say "I'm coming over, I'll be there in fifteen" and I showed up ten minutes later and you were gone, you looked like a dickhead. I might have to chase you around for an hour before I catch up with you.

Now you can text me (or call and leave a message) while I'm driving over and then blame me for not pulling over to see that you've decided to be a cunt. It's functionally no different except it allows people to pretend they're not flaking because they're still in touch with you.
 
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Because nobody takes anything seriously anymore, or they think that they are above something. Truth is, most people who think that aren't above shit.
 
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I've noticed that progressive women tend to do this, not to me but to everyone, most blame anxiety. One girl would have plans on Monday and she'd find me Thursday expecting to do them and her friends said I couldn't be mad because she does that to them too.
 
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I think this happens more to low social status individuals. People tend not to flake if they hold you in high regard. If they don't warn you that they aren't coming, they probably don't respect you.
 
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I blame the social distancing we've been doing over the last two and a half years. Anxiety is a real thing, and can definitely be acquired by being isolated for so long. Anxiety isn't an excuse, the behavior is shitty, but it is a reason. The way to work through anxiety is to do the thing(s) that make you anxious, so they're hurting themselves by doing this.

If this pre-dated Covid then ask yourself if they're avoiding the event or people at the event. Remember the old saying about assholes and running into them all day. I'm not saying you're an asshole, I don't know you so how would I know? I'm saying if you're not sure why people avoid times when you're around to do some self-reflecting and maybe ask some people who do know you for their opinion. It may not be you, it may be a friend of yours they're avoiding. Or find new friends, because yours are shit.

Doesn't matter what the cause is, just not showing up with no prior warning or excuses is shitty behavior.
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I'm pretty sure it was a problem even before the pandemic.
 
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Bad manners and high levels of selfishness. We all forget a commitment sometimes but there are people who consistently make no effort to follow through. Being a solid and honest person isn't just about meaning things when you say them, it's also about keeping your word afterward. Over time, you learn which people around you can be counted on to show up and those are the people you ask to pick you up at the airport.

Ubiquitous cell phones are a factor, I think. People who grew up without phones seemed to have more respect for the significance of blowing someone off; it feels different now that everyone you know is accessible via your pocket.
 
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If it is them meeting with you, you would be the common denominator, and pointing your finger inwards rather than toward other people would be appropriate.

Did you troon out and become insufferable or, perhaps, just turned into a fucking faggot?

Do share...
 
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I dont understand people who sign up for college courses and just never show up. People who have to work a shift, it rains, and they never show up. Literal NPCs who exist to cause traffic, slow websites, click subscribe and like on youtube videos and when they die they'll just fulfill a statistic somewhere. They're all numbers. The actual human population is a lot lower than it seems because "people" like those are padding to add zeros. We need abortion, plague, and wars to curb these parasites.
 
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