UtadaWasabi2
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why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game
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Useless(?) Boomer
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I'm very recently not single (as of last week...we'll see), but i'll tell you what kept me single or pseudo-single for the three years prior: Women not wanting to commit. Due to them either not wanting to do basic things necessary for a relationship out of an overabundance of individuality, or just flat out wanting to keep their options open, whatever the case, that is what kept me single. I took it as a signal I needed to improve myself to become more appealing as a partner (after cursing women and seething for a while).
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Because I don't deserve love, duh.
Bloody Kotex
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Your relationship lack communication. Not you, but her. If she has something she is not happy with, she can express it but she does not show it. She doesn't trust you enough and a healthy relationship requires communication on both sides and trust.
If one day you think you can go back to playing the love game, the first criterion you need in a girl is her trust in you.
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Religious reasons, attachments are one of great illusions
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shit i’m in the same place too. the reality probably is that the past really doesn’t affect much how people think of you but damn it sure doesn’t feel that way. sometimes i think my fear of getting to know people deeply is just assuming by default that everyone knows every fuckup, embarrassing moment, or intimate detail of my life.
it’s easy to forget sometimes that people around you only know a small fraction of your personality and life, and aren’t as critical of yourself as you are. it’s still so frustrating though being afraid of getting too close to someone and thinking of all the ways it could go wrong
same here, it’s worrying too to see all the stories of people who’s partner hurts them, cheats on them etc. just makes it even more intimidating to try to interact with someone with the fear that they will end up being one of those people
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I'm just not capable of having a relationship, for multiple reasons. Sometimes I think it might be nice, but I just don't have the ability right now. Maybe if...
... but there's always a maybe, isn't there?
... but there's always a maybe, isn't there?
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The last time I genuinely dated someone, she was a schizophrenic who broke up with me after a month due to her no longer taking her meds. I don't go outside nor am I good with actually talking to women that aren't much older than me. Plus I fear being exploited cheaply. Plus I crave my freedom too much even though I do nothing with it.
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Yeah, I think that fear is always there for me too, especially since my first relationship was full of that. But if I really click with someone I try to make an effort to pursue the avenue in the chance that it might lead to something greater. If we just end up friends then I have another friend, but if it becomes more I'm pleasantly surprised but open to it. It's just reminding yourself that there are some good men and/or women out there, which can be understandably difficult to grasp if you have some kind of trauma or anxiety tied to the opposite sex.
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That's what I hold on to. As weird as it sounds, I relish talking to strangers because it means I can be someone new. Past me was rejected or has rejected so many people and my family has so much bullshit attached even if I need them. But, the well dressed, clean smiling me didn't. I can talk to someone for at least a short time without all the biases, failures and insecurities.
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i do too. unfortunately the worry is still there and probably always will be until i end up moving somewhere new. people are probably forgiving hopefully, especially since it’s not high school anymore.
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Romance is too much work and I like my personal space and freedoms.
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mental illness and the fact that I am completely nocturnal.
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It's not my fault every rich chick I marry somehow falls off a cliff, or wanders into the Florida swamps to get eaten by aligators. I have so much love to give to the right women, so long as they have daddy issues and a big, fat bank account.
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Typical nerdy/autistic social awkwardness combined with the fact that I'm still somewhat reeling from the fallout of my marriage's disastrous ending and the realization that I'm quite a bit older, fatter, and grayer than the last time I dated anyone and I really have no idea how single people socialize and meet people in current year. Bars were never my scene and dating apps just feel so gross to even think about. I've tried other types of social activity but nothing serious come of it quite yet.
I haven't given up, though. Don't you dare put that "incel" sign around my neck.
I haven't given up, though. Don't you dare put that "incel" sign around my neck.
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Celibacy. Bad experiences. Self loathing. The usual shit.
DumbDude42
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nobody wants to be found by the likes of me
Ibisanzwe
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I don't talk to women. I stay at home most of my time, and when I go out its either for work, if it isn't work I just focus on doing whatever i'm supposed to do and don't bother to talk to strangers.
I'm not a very sociable person.
I'm not a very sociable person.
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Yes. I've realized that my interests are esoteric and bizarre. And that further interactions with Females in the hope of finding someone similar would only hurt others and myself. So it's better this way. I have nothing left in me after past relationships anyway.
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