why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Milwaukee Macho Man]

I haven't met anyone worth wasting an extended amount of time with in like 6 years, and most women seem content on just putting out and hooking up.

 

[Gravityqueen4life]

its mostly trust and honesty issues. back in the old days it was less effective to be a two faced bitch/asshole because the word would spread and when you live in a small community or town, a bad rumor is the last thing you want under your belt. now with social media, you can easily create a new persona and date people far and wide with little consequences, more and less control the negative information of you to some extend. social media has really turned people selfish and spoiled, trying to find someone above your grade instead of settling down with someone around or below your level.

sure, im not exactly a looker or have that much money in the bank but if that is a deal breaker for most, why even bother trying?

with recent events that has been happening in my personal life, it has really destroyed my trust in family.

 

[Sandraker]

I'm coming back to this thread to ask another question and maybe another tangent for the thread to follow: do most people actually just date/marry people just on the basis of their looks? I get ogling at a hot woman, but I never thought I'd want to spend the rest of my life with her or really interact with her just on the basis of the likelihood that we have compatible personalities is slim. Maybe it's because I am a bit more eccentric than most, but that seems like a shite foundation for a relationship. Of course, I'd appreciate if a woman looks attractive and keeps up her appearances but personalities also matter in a relationship and it seems like the dating market is explicitly there to basically force you to put on a mask so you can ape your way into someone's bed rather than to have an actual connection. I might be wrong and I would be willing to learn from anyone that has been/ is in a relationship for a long period of time.

Looking for a relationship based around looks is too flimsy of a foundation and really should only be the basis if you know its not going to be something serious which at that point might as well be a pump and dump.

Its nice to have good face to look at in the morning and taking care of yourself does matter, but real relationships should be built of two compatible people who's willing to work with each others flaws. The problem is modern social interactions expect people to have very few if not any flaws. Everything is expected to be good at face value and if you don't fit the criteria they can just find another person or profile to throw their expectations at.

Too many people try to skip the process of knowing another person cause of the instant gratification they're so used to is plentiful even if its hollow. The process of getting to know someone is much more satisfying even if it isn't as glamorous but it does let you build the foundation of how far you're willing to take it with someone.

 

[Ingmar Aspergman]

Aspergers, moved town a few times and transferred schools enough times to where the most time I spent at one was three years, I tried dating online early in 2020 and it completely soured my perception of the opposite sex. I know that’s not particularly fair but those profiles are real people and the way they act and interact is seen as completely normal, and they were the same despite being in two different parts of the country. I have really niche interests but I don’t need someone who is interested in them, at least as some form of original opinions and perspectives which I just don’t get from most people. Bad body dysmorphia, actually got cosmetic surgery a month ago and I’ll see how that turns out, I feel as if I have to compensate for my specific traits because there are so many alternatives without. Why the hell would anyone waste their time with me when they can get someone who is objectively better in every regard with minimal effort.

 

[Lord of the Large Pants]

Not sure. Best guess, combination of bad luck and crippling autism.

 

[Skitarii]

Probably because 100% of people replying to this thread have a kiwifarms account

 

[AngryItalianAmerican]

Because I am low level trash with no money and no future. And seeing how my family panned out made me realize that at least, by myself, there is no possibility of ruining an innocent child's life.

 

[The Emperor Skeksis]

Fell in love with an autist who didn't want me. Then fell for a guy who was sort of like him, but turned out to be gay after he strung me along for 8 months. Never fell in love again.

I decided a long time ago that I'd rather be alone than with someone I didn't love, and I guess my lizard brain is picky. Also still pretty much in love with the first guy, unfortunately.

 

[Meat Target]

Lack of effort, mostly.

 

[Skitarii]

Fell in love with an autist who didn't want me. Then fell for a guy who was sort of like him, but turned out to be gay after he strung me along for 8 months. Never fell in love again.

I decided a long time ago that I'd rather be alone than with someone I didn't love, and I guess my lizard brain is picky. Also still pretty much in love with the first guy, unfortunately.

Hey lady, female dating strategy is over on your left

 

[The Emperor Skeksis]

Hey lady, female dating strategy is over on your left

What did I say that made you so butthurt?

 

[kickingstones]

I'm a chubby little wallflower and work weekends it makes it hard to meet people. But it's worth it because I'm making serious money.

I bike every other day so I've already shed the winter weight just need to cut down on the belly fat, then I'll get an app and try my luck.

I got a fuck buddy last summer without even putting myself out there. We were insanely compatible she had a great sense of humour. But she had daddy issues, and she wanted me to treat her like a slut, i wanted us to commit to each other, she ended up ghosting me. Oh well.

 

[SandyCat]

Take a guess

 

[kickingstones]

Take a guess

you're a quadriplegic mix race furry?

 

[Ruin]

It takes a very extreme amount of time and money to hook up if you're an average man and your reward is an orgasm that lasts 2.5 seconds.

I'm better of and richer with vidya and booze.

 

[CWC-in-the-minds]

Came back to Mexico to find a woman and settle down with her in my Catholic hometown. What could possibly go wrong? I've learned my lesson abroad, and have gone back to religion after looking at the consequences of straying away from it.

.... The the plandemic happened. Every woman (and I venture, man, as we beaners don't question daddy government nor its multinational pharma deals) I know has injected herself with the clot shot, which has raised multiple questions that make me uncertain about my (or everyone's?) future.

• Could the clot shot batches sent to Mexico affect people the same way they have in the US and Europe? What if the woman I find ends up becoming infertile, or our offspring is?
• Could a Mexican woman fall in love with a freak that doesn't trust daddy government and ((( transnational corporations ))) ?
• Would she accept to consider not forcing vaccinations on our children?
• Why doesn't the Catholic Church raise any questions about the plandemic? Is every priest not named Juan Sandoval Íñiguez a drone that doesn't look at the obvious propaganda from the Synagogue of Satan?

At this point I wouldn't mind America taking over our country, there's not much to defend anyway.

 

[Demonslayer1776]

Any time I make any progress the women disappears into the bottom of a swamp 20 miles out of town. Idk what their problem is but fortunately nobody has found any of them yet.

 

[Car Won't Crank]

Any time I make any progress the women disappears into the bottom of a swamp 20 miles out of town. Idk what their problem is but fortunately nobody has found any of them yet.

Did you call Shrek?

 

[Ultrapenguin]

But what does it mean to be single? In the incel thread I questioned what it means to be "in a relationship" and if most people these days even can be in a relationship.
Like do you just have to screw regularly and say you're dating? Does it matter if you can't stand talking to each other otherwise? What if you're one of the weird soy boys who live with a woman but never actually sleeps with her? Is a Jonah Bex situation where she has two cucks she doesn't bang living with her (one of which she's legally married to) and who kind of financially support her and kowtow to her whims, is she in a relationship? Can they be long distance? Even if the two people meet up and fuck once in a while? Kevin Gibes claims to have "girlfriends" all over the place since they occasionally talk on Twitter and put it in their bios, if we accepted that as real then you're a Lothario for sometimes flirting with that one girl who works checkout at the liquor store.
Hell, at least there's an understanding that you're mutually attracted to each other, which is already more than you can say for half the dudes on Twitter and Reddit who are in "relationships".

What is the minimum threshhold of involvement with another person to be in a relationship? These days people are in "relationships" because being "single" is a sign there's something wrong with you. It's become a vague check box you can decide to mark at your whim, that's it.

Stop making these threads.

Bro, what are you talking about? Why would you give up an opportunity to learn about other users' fears, insecurities, and shortcomings?

 

[TFT-A9]

Why would I buy a bag of crummy-looking oranges when I can get fresh juice for free anyhow