I think people generally weigh looks more than they think and much more than they should.
feel, a lot of peoples ideal relationship is being near 100% the same and always doing everything together. honestly i think there should be a balance personally i like my alone time to be able to have a break and think, but a bf would be the person to share those thoughts with and hear his too. a relationship shouldn’t mean having to spend every minute together, i think people feel held down in their relationships is that they don’t acknowledge them and their partner have differences and that it’s okay.
i had said earlier in this thread that i like kwf cause you can be completely honest about what you think and not have to self censor. i think a partner should be like that too and being able to show a part of your personality and thoughts that you don’t show normally.
This.
Groyper? Nope. Incel? Yes, but only technically and not ideologically. I wanted to make that clear because I know there are guys who have turned being an incel into some weird political ideology and use it as a form of identity politics. I don't let silly shit like that define who I am.
Yeah I dont want my significant other to be my best friend, but I want them to have the same morals so we can have a strong foundation together.
shit like this is just a cope for people that aren`t willing to put in the work to get them in a position to have a relationship.
You are actually on the right path. Women's most marketable period as a romantic partner is early in their lives: 18-35. For men it's older, probably 28-45. It feels rough now because your competition at the moment is often men with established careers and years of confidence/wealth building. If you keep on the path, as you get older you'll find you start to stack up better against your competition, who increasingly becomes younger and less established/confident than you. Just give it time and remember the right woman will fit into your life, not ask you to blow it up.
This is absolutely the correct approach.
You've already lost the battle with that attitude. You don't have to be in the top 1%, you have to be better than their last ex or appear to be.
Leftism tends to infect those who were already unsuitable partners. It's the fact they are outcasts that makes victimhood attractive to them.
let me put it to you this way: you are guaranteeing that your worst fear (rejection) will be realized by not even trying. I recommend talking to potential interests with the mentality that you are practicing. Don't expect anything to happen, expect that you are learning/experimenting with conversation. It helps take some of the anxiety away because you're focusing on a task and not the outcome. Also remember that Ron Perlman got laid, so even if you were ugly it's not necessarily a dealbreaker. Just don't expect anything to come of any flirting or conversation you have. You tend to succeed once you stop caring about the outcome and just be yourself.
This 100%!
I think I actually do want my hypothetical wife/GF to be my best friend. Is that a bad idea?
Yes. When you need to vent/seek advice about your wife/GF or situations you're in, you've already taken your best friend off the table. Also, if you lose said wife/gf you also lose your best friend.
A wife is so much more than a best friend. You need to be devoted to each other and any hypothetical offspring. Friendship water downs the true nature of the relationship.
Ah... Ron Perlman: America's Caveman. I actually never thought of it that way... looking at it more of an experience than a test. Thank you for this <3
it’s true, social status and wealth mean nothing if you are a good person/partner yeah there’s vain women who won’t date a man who isn’t “at the top” but those types aren’t worth wasting your energy on
i’ve been trying to do this too, it’s good also to try to “separate” yourself from these interactions, what i mean is don’t take rejection or a bad interaction personally or as a reflection on your character. way easier said than done though
100% you get back the energy you put out there. if you look for negativity you’ll find it, if you have a positive attitude that energy will come to you naturally. one bad event only makes a bad day if you let it
Woman here. Looks are okay, but everybody goes saggy in some way eventually. It's a part of life. You're at your peak physical form for the first 35 years of your life, and that leaves you with about 40 years left and the fine lines turning to wrinkles. The only exceptions are people that make enough money to get laser treatments and surgeries done on the regular but even that ends up looking worse than just letting yourself age.
I wish I could keep my head shaved, it feels nice, but it makes me look like McNugget.
