Why do crybullies do what they do instead of plainly asking for help with whatever their problem is? - Bottom text

[Glory To Arztotska]

I get the feeling I'm overlooking an obvious answer here.

 

[We Are The Witches]

For one, because it's an easy way to manipulate idiots.

You see it with politics and the fallacies that are put forward, which are version of "crybullies", e.g: emotional manipulation by arguing that you don't care about immigrants' kids, women, etc. How many times have you seen stuff like this?

Appeal to emotion, that's the core point.

 

[wtfNeedSignUp]

There's a meme for that

 

[Vibromatic Heart Bed]

Crybullies were crybullied as children, they are simply copying what was modelled to them and they never learned the right way to communicate their needs. If they ever asked for help, they were ignored or ridiculed or made to feel ashamed in some way. Somwhere along the way they learned that crybullying and other passive aggressive tactics work in getting their needs "met"; the behavior gets reinforced and they will keep doing those things.

As far as dealing with these people... you have to make it so these tactics *don't* work on you. If they're not asking you for help, then don't help them. Don't try to anticipate their needs or fill in their communication gaps. Disengage when they play victim.

 

[Grub]

What's a crybully?

 

[Skeletron Prime]

Not to get into much PL but I've been dealing with a student at my college for the past two years who is pretty much the definition of crybully. They recently had their group for our term end project implode because they accused another student of being "transphobic" aka he rightfully thinks that the troon is deeply retarded. Now that group has been disbanded and the students disseminated into other groups. Same student also reported me for making threats when I made a joke in class.

They crybully because they're damaged people who are, for lack of a better phrase, entirely afraid of EVERYTHING. Everything is a threat to them, word and deed both. They react like a feral cat to any stimuli with spitting and hissing. I once said hello to this troon in the hall and she looked at me and immediately shrank into herself. How are you gonna manage when every external stimuli sets off warning bells?

 

[Glory To Arztotska]

What's a crybully?

Oxford official definition sez:
someone who intimidates or harasses others while claiming to be a victim of ill treatment.

...Slightly different than how I remember it but still relevant I think.

 

[(((I am NOT a jew)))]

Because they don't want an answer. They have the answer.
A: They're faggots.
Metaphorically but also mostly literally. These people have no real higher power to answer to and no moral code except how to react to the perceived way the universe is treating them. At least back in the day they used to be beaten to death but now you can't do that as easily so they have free reign until someone technically commits a "hate crime".
The honest truth is they love the "problems" they create for themselves. Being an addict or pushing people away by being a cunt is a weird turn-on for a lot of them.
I'm almost positive most people know what the problems are in their life. It's just a good chunk don't really regard them as problems. It's just free expression. Being on pills, not going out of the house, endlessly consuming cheap shit they know doesn't make their life better, constantly going for toxic partners, ect. They know it. They know you know it. But that's besides the point.
The issue isn't that. It's that they're not getting attention.
So if you ever actually tell them the obvious answer, you become enemy number one.

My heart goes out to people who find themselves in difficult situations without the means to get out of them. But most crybullies are literally just sociopaths that need to be lined against the wall.

 

[Sailor Kim Jong Moon]

Not to get into much PL but I've been dealing with a student at my college for the past two years who is pretty much the definition of crybully. They recently had their group for our term end project implode because they accused another student of being "transphobic" aka he rightfully thinks that the troon is deeply retarded. Now that group has been disbanded and the students disseminated into other groups. Same student also reported me for making threats when I made a joke in class.

They crybully because they're damaged people who are, for lack of a better phrase, entirely afraid of EVERYTHING. Everything is a threat to them, word and deed both. They react like a feral cat to any stimuli with spitting and hissing. I once said hello to this troon in the hall and she looked at me and immediately shrank into herself. How are you gonna manage when every external stimuli sets off warning bells?

They’re not afraid. They grasping for power over you and their peers.

 

[Not A Bunny]

There's a meme that's been going around lately about how if someone tells you that you hurt them, you don't get to tell them how they should feel, and that you need to think about it.

No, sorry, I will not cede power in a dynamic just because someone says they're hurt.

But that's what crybullying is. Control by appearing weak and appealing to someone's sense of sympathy. "I'm hurt and you need to do something about it to my satisfaction."

 

[Sparkletor 2.0]

What's a crybully?

It's one of them newfangled dog breeds, I think.

 

[Skeletron Prime]

They’re not afraid. They grasping for power over you and their peers.

It's a bit of column A and B. These people have convinced themselves that the world and everyone in it is an entity out to get them and smash them down, so they react by wielding bureaucracy and social leverage to punish dissenters and protect themselves. And because institutions like colleges have to take every fucking complaint as seriously as a heart attack and capitulate due to emotional damage being practically equal to physical damage now, they can get away with it. Every grievance is trauma to them, and they respond with the nuclear option.

If I had to summarize my first conflict with this person, I'd sum it up as: I gave a folksy compliment on their enthusiasm for our program, they proceeded to declare war on me. Pure insanity.

 

[DefinitelyNotMe]

Its not my job solve retarded people problems. Especially when answer is quite simple.
Stop gooning. Get a job. Log off. Stop misplacing your flesh and gaslighting everyone that it is normal.
Edit. Oh crybullies, i read it as cyberbullies. Disregard me

 

[Sargon's wife's son]

Because they are generally afraid of actual confrontation I had one of those guys and I threatened to literally beat the **** out of him and then he cried to my superior after spending 40 minutes insulting me.
Bring back dueling and these people would stop existing when you have to back up your passive aggressive snake with your life generally people will hold their tongues.

And not all cry bullies are not successful I knew plenty of cry bullies were the most successful people my old boss was one of them he would short people's checks and then complain when people did it back to him he would complain about unethical practices stealing people's tools and then do the exact same thing the guy was the epitome of scum.

I also used to work in game design with this guy who was the King of Cry Bullies he would complain anybody being harsh language to him and complain to our head guy and then do the exact same thing.

The biggest cry bully I've ever met was this black woman who was made to a friend of mine who would complain about white privilege make blanket statements about the Catholic Church and generally be nasty to every one around her but if you said that she is a hypocritical person who hates blanket statements except when it applies to people she doesn't like.

I think there was a white nationalist piece of fiction that said it the best there's no consequences any more for being a ass

 

[skykiii]

What's a crybully?

A miserable little pile of secrets! But enough talk, have at you! [throws away a wine glass]

 

[Celestial Peace]

I'll be careful not to powerlevel too much but I live with a relative like this. Has aggressive tendencies and made life for everyone hell.

Not to mention said relative is the kind of person to be stupid enough to throw away opportunities just because he had his fee-fees hurt. Motherfucker is the type of person to fuck everything up and make his life worse for pure ego. Can't take blame for anything, wants to solve his issues picking up fights, always making up stories and putting himself as the sole victim but he also likes to play macho man. A total manchild.

Growing up and living with someone like this can fuck up your self-esteem in ways that'll be hard to fix. The amount of damage this kind toxicity brings is what makes all of this overbearing.