Sorry for delayed response, midterms week and working on new track.
Would losing your virginity be something you view as bad? Is it in your opinion a negative thing? Would you avoid sex were you ever in the position to have it, or would you simply embrace the opportunity and go with the flow?
It is neither good nor bad. It simply is the way it is. But it's not like I'm going out of my way to avoid it. I'm just living my life and making the decisions that I find best for myself. And if those decisions end up putting me in a position of no females, so be it. I'd get more into the desire aspect, but I'll leave that for another time.
So you would say the fact that he lost his virginity is the first place is not betrayel to the site, but the way in which he handled the affair was shitty? Or was there a sense of betrayal for you too?
It was a shitty move on many levels. But I was primarily pissed of how he handled it and turned it into a publicity stunt just to further his own personal agenda. We knew each other pretty well at that point and it was disturbing to see how he used it as a means of promoting his new site.
How much do you personally identify with the userbase, and it's more bitter segments?
There is plenty of relatable material. I find that a very large percent of it tackles feelings and issues that people would otherwise be too afraid to speak up about in any other setting or community. As for being bitter? Well part of that again is being able to let this out in a setting where they CAN vent and not be ridiculed or bashed immediately. These are very real thoughts that most people would otherwise suppress out of correctness/politeness despite it being their true feelings on it.
Do you think that the site's particular focus on unwanted virginity is part of what creates the more toxic parts of the community? If the site was branded to have more of a focus on, say, social anxiety, or even celibacy as a life choice, do you think some of the "Biggest-NEET-contest" issues would've been resolved from the start? Or would that change the fundamental concept of the site to the point where it would be unrecognizable and something you wouldn't have wanted to take part in?
Ideally I'd like to see more of what you described. I think the fundamental concept is in fact taking that spotlight off of relationships and social life and being able to discuss other matters without these topics popping up. And part of that should be not discussing virginity itself to death. That is still putting focus on women.
We temporarily tried adding the rule "no discussion of women" to /v9k/ and I actually liked the results. It allowed for more discussion anxiety, social issues, and personal depression discussions, and actually resulted in less bait/troll threads to boot. It was really nice. We had a lot of complaints though so we took the the rule off. People still want to vent about that aspect and I understand that.
Glaive,
Have you enjoyed coming here and talking to us? I know Wizardchan holds the stigma of not interacting with anyone else from other communities, but you seem like a well-adjusted guy and there's been some nice dialogues from the messages I've seen in this thread thus far.
I wouldn't say there is any stigma against interacting with other online communities. It's not like I am attending the CWCki 3rd annual sock-hop. (would actually attend/10).
But yes, I enjoy posting here and using the chat. I find the communities quite similar on a conversational level. Obviously the WC board is far different topic-wise. But...I get this feeling there is a ton of crossover just in the demographic. There are obviously girls here and plenty of socially adept individuals, but they both have that erm, internet-fringe-community-tight-nit sorta feel. It's exclusive. I don't know how to describe it better. Anyone kinda see that too? But yeah, you guys are swell.
You don't seem to like the dick measuring contest that goes on at Wizardchan, so if you had it your way, what kind of direction would you want the board to go instead?
Please see my answer to Protoman. Basically more focus on personal depression, hobbies, and other discussions while simultaneously keeping romantic/relationship topics out of the picture, and just trying to cut back on the hollow >twfnogf topics. Harshly enforcing rules 1+2+3.
Especially when you take into consideration that there's really no other forum for 30+ female virgin fuckups to go to. If they want to join the pity parade why not let them? Preserving the chemistry only really makes sense IMO when said chemistry is actually healthy. Whereas wizardchan is a place for people to dwell on their misfortunes without looking ahead or improving themselves, and as such quite an unhealthy place to reside in. So why not shake things up a little? It wouldn't hurt anyone. Hell, wizards may even benefit from broadening their horizon a little. 
