Women who quit dating and are single , what are your reasons?

[MerriedxReldnahc]

I love guys, but my problem is that I like the ones too damn old for me to be dating. Not that I'm wildly opposed to finding a crusty old sailor to make into a sugar daddy that buys me nice Scotch, but when a guy is older but also single, you have to ask *why* he's still single.
I think guys who like much younger women can be immature in a lot of ways, a few men in my family date chicks that are way too young for them while also not acting their own age.

Also work/side gig stuff takes up a good deal of my time, so I need somebody that is going to be worth re-arranging my whole schedule over. I do understand that makes *me* the issue, since you don't want to date someone who is difficult to get time with.

I might also be slightly fucking autistic about dating because on multiple occasions I've had to have a third party explain I was being flirted with, while I was fully convinced the flirt-er actually wanted to beat me to death with a rock. This is not even a men-specific thing, I've had lesbians do it too. That does lead to my next issue, which is that I attract crazy people

 

[Otterly]

Dating around wasn't a thing in the UK? (Dating around is distinctly different than sleeping around.) So everyone just always went steady? What about High School?

It wasn’t a thing, no. If you went out with more than one person concurrently you’d have been seen very poorly (men and women both.) high school being 16-18? Honestly it wasn’t very common to even have a boyfriend or girlfriend at that age. But yeah, people had ‘a boyfriend/girlfriend’ and that was one person. Changing them too often would also be seen very negatively. The idea of ‘dating’ as I’ve seen it from American media would not be accepted, for either sex. Sleeping around was absolutely definitely not done. Things have changed a lot. Hookup culture as mass market is not normal.

 

[OrionBalls]

Sleeping around was absolutely definitely not done. Things have changed a lot. Hookup culture as mass market is not normal.

Oh, I'll agree to that. It was a foreign concept for most here, as well, for a very long time. Meeting a guy or gal just to sleep with them was always considered dangerous and gross. I remember the "No glove, no love" campaigns very well. But even a condom isn't 100% protection.

 

[DickMain]

but when a guy is older but also single, you have to ask *why* he's still single.

Usually it's something like this:

Also work/side gig stuff takes up a good deal of my time

I've had to have a third party explain I was being flirted with, while I was fully convinced the flirt-er actually wanted to beat me to death with a rock.

It's more common than you think that both of you are just thinking the same thing and being respectful of each others' space. Sure, you hear about creeps in Man-Hate, those are the obvious ones, but you don't hear the things you're not being told. People are generally busy, and more often than not trying to remain polite and never bring it up.

 

[Cringe Poster]

I'm married but I think that I got lucky, personally. Most young men are psychopaths these days. And the younger they are the more psychopathic they are because the algorithm feeds them a healthy diet of alpha male manosphere podcasts and right-wing political sperging that they never learned to be critical of. Not to mention all the disgusting, violent porn they are consuming from a shockingly young age. My ex tried to choke me, completely unprovoked because he thought I'd like it. A lot of my girlfriends don't date anymore because of shit like this, and I support them. It's better to be alone than to date creeps.

 

[Merton J. Dingle]

My ex tried to choke me

Stuff like this never ceases to amaze me. Are they so fucking retarded that they need someone to explain to them that sex does not make someone suddenly want to be choked?

 

[DickMain]

Stuff like this never ceases to amaze me. Are they so fucking retarded that they need someone to explain to them that sex does not make someone suddenly want to be choked?

I was asked to do this once. Weirded me out and I didn't do it, but I'm glad that some women at least don't consider it normal, because I felt bad about not doing something I was asked. Kind of a relief to hear honestly.

 

[Cats]

If you date men you have to touch them and get gross man smell on your hands, plus do you know how many germs those things carry? Nasty!

eww, yucky!

 

[Red flag]

I was asked to do this once. Weirded me out and I didn't do it, but I'm glad that some women at least don't consider it normal, because I felt bad about not doing something I was asked. Kind of a relief to hear honestly.

If a guy does this, he's eventually going to kill you.

If a woman asks you to do it, she's a certified basket case and you should promptly cut all contact asap.

Well adjusted people just don't do this kind of stuff, no matter how much MUH KINK they try to dress it up as.

 

[glitterglue]

Wow yet another man hate thread, populated by basically the same people as every other one. What a surprise.

Not dating men = manhate?

 

[LimeRikki]

Not dating men = manhate?

He's one of those types who thinks his weiner going untoched by a wahmen is a hate crime.

 

[DickMain]

He's one of those types who thinks his weiner going untoched by a wahmen is a hate crime.

It's gonna fall off otherwise, everybody knows this.

 

[Lidl Drip]

Not dating men = manhate?

Every time you don't have sex with a whiny incel you are committing a hate crime in their eyes. Don't you know he's a nice guy?

 

[Garlic Salt]

I’m going to powerlevel a little to offer a bit of context as to why a lot of women are put off by dating in this age.
I recently attempted to start talking to men my age after my marriage of 10 years fell apart, mostly due to us changing drastically during the covid period. I knew I wanted someone I could speak openly to and have nuanced discussions with. I thought I could find like-minded men, but no. Just fucking no.
The types you run into as a women openly seeking a partner are: men who just want to fuck and forget, broken guys looking for a replacement mommy, dudes looking for a stepmom for their kid they don’t have full custody over, hobby spergs and then, the most prominent I’ve noticed, the troglodytes. Trogs clearly have never spoken to any woman beyond their mother and typically look as dysgenic as their personality is.
None of that is very appealing for a truly equal effort relationship. Makes a lady feel like cats are the best option possible.

 

[grimacefetishist]

Too few are like him. And they're all dead. Want some rye?

 

[Otis Mallebrok]

Stuff like this never ceases to amaze me. Are they so fucking retarded that they need someone to explain to them that sex does not make someone suddenly want to be choked?

It is very depressing to read such things. I wonder if these people were always perverts or if pornography has rotted their brains.

 

[Otterly]

My ex tried to choke me, completely unprovoked because he thought I'd like it

It seems to be a thing these days. I’ve heard some absolute horror stories from women trying to get back into a relationship after divorce. Choking, anal and BDSM stuff seems to be de rigeur. The effects of widespread hardcore porn have been terrible

 

[Dysnomia]

I'm extremely introverted so relationships with others don't really work out. I am not good at making lasting connections with people. It's not that I'm cold or unfriendly. I'm very passive and quiet and not that interested in socializing. People take it the wrong way and think I'm being rude or not emotional enough. And that upsets me. I try to explain it to people and mostly they don't get it. Cats get it though. I think it's why I connect so well with them.

I'm also the kind of person that doesn't want to go anywhere. But I guess if you want a cheap date that's a bonus.

My father was a horrible person. My mom divorced him when I was five and slept on the living room couch with the lights on because sometimes he'd come back around to steal stuff and cause problems, including trying to drown my infant sister. My mom wanted to be ready to get up and call the cops at any time at night. She still kept this habit after he died in 1996. And she did it all the way up until she got remarried in the mid 2000s. Those kinds of scars and fears just don't leave you sometimes.

My sister, who never even knew our father, ended up in relationships with the same kinds of guys and royally fucked herself. After seeing that I was afraid I'd end up the same way. I know that sounds ridiculous. But sometimes you never know who people really are.

I don't think I'll ever get married. Maybe in old age I might give it a whirl if the right guy pops up. But as of now I'm happy with cats. There's nothing wrong with being a cat lady or dog lady or whatever if you are content with that and aren't using it as a cope because you desperately seek love. That's why I hate the whole "Dead egger" stereotype so much. That's only sad if you wanted to be a mother but for whatever reason couldn't or didn't get a chance.

Men that reduce women to baby factories who have no other purpose is a huge turn off to me.

 

[DickMain]

He's a weird guy.

What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I'll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I've been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I'm the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You're fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that's just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little "clever" comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn't, you didn't, and now you're paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You're fucking dead, kiddo.

 

[crazedaze]

The porn and the womanhate online, not to mention the absolute infinite coddling they receive in patriarchal society, make moids too crazy and just plain bad people for dating. I'm seeing someone who uses the internet sparingly and is anti-porn too, and if it doesn't work out, I won't be seeking moid another again.
They're actually just not worth it generally and are only a drain on your life. They only want someone to provide what they want while offering nothing and are selfish, awful, materialistic people. Spontaneously women talk to me about "let's just live with other women and cut out this man bs from our lives??". I think that's the way, and omg does that sound like more fun than the vast majority of moids. Plus there's way more shit out there to do.