Young men reveal why so many of them are single: ‘Dates feel more like job interviews’

From: https://nypost.com/2023/03/01/rate-of-single-men-in-the-us-looking-for-dates-has-declined/

They’re single but they’re not mingling.

New data from the Pew Research Center has shown that 63% of men under 30 are single – up from 51% in 2019.

COVID isolation and women’s high expectations for something serious are the main reasons they’re avoiding going out and coupling up, young guys say.

“Dates feel more like job interviews now. Much more like ‘What can you do for me and where is this going?'” said Ian Breslow, a 28-year-old high school teacher who lives in Astoria.

“The ‘getting to know you’ period is gone and that doesn’t feel so great after coming out of isolation.”

He recalled a recent first date that went quite well until the woman interrogated him on their walk home.

“She literally asked me, ‘Would you rather our kids go to public or private school?’ Followed by several more extreme questions about getting married. I just started responding with what I knew she would hate the most to get her to leave,” Breslow told The Post.

Experts agree that women are certainly wanting more than ever before.

“The overall picture [is] that if a woman is going to go on a date with a man, chances are it’s not for a casual fling,” Ronald Levant, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Akron, told The Post.

“Especially if the woman is kind of getting close to 30, [she’s] thinking about the biological clock and wants to have a family,” he added.

Breslow isn’t looking to settle down and get married anytime soon, so he’d rather have casual flings.

“The way dating is currently just makes me want to hook up locally with no stress or strings attached,” he says. “Fortunately that part comes very easy … I’m unmotivated to search for something serious for the time being.”

Ian Breslow said the face of dating has changed greatly since COVID.
Andrew Bruno, a 28-year-old nurse from Bellmore, NY, says flirting in the post-COVID era just isn’t as fun as it once was.

“Being able to naturally approach people while out isn’t like it was pre-pandemic. People are still much less likely to leave their groups or cliques at a bar,” said Bruno. “They’re certainly less talkative and that’s lowered my incentive to put myself out there.”

He also said the pandemic, more than ever before, made dating apps the central means for meeting people — and he’s not a fan.

“That just really isn’t my style. Like there is a weekslong prerequisite before you can think about getting involved, even for casual things,” Bruno said. “I’d rather take all that effort and put it towards my career.”

And, like Breslow, he’s in no hurry to get hitched.

Andrew Bruno feels that people have become less approachable while out since COVID.
“I’m also still very young,” Bruno said. “I don’t feel the need to rush, especially if people don’t act as naturally as they did before COVID. Why would I put it all out there for someone who can’t or won’t hold a conversation?”

For Mike M., a 25-year-old in Queens, it’s his — not the opposite sex’s — social skills that are still battling a bad case of long COVID.

“I definitely can’t walk into a room and go talk to someone I’m interested [in] like I used to be able to. It feels like my outgoingness has suffered some atrophy,” Mike, who withheld his last name out of embarrassment, told The Post.

He’s also having less sex than he did pre-pandemic.

“I have definitely been going online to take care of my urges more than I have by seeing people,” Mike admitted.

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He feels as though he lost two prime years in his early 20s of being able to date and have fun without worrying about being in a serious relationship.

Now, he’s under pressure to find a long-term commitment, but can’t put himself out there.

“I also feel like I’m caught between two worlds,” he said. “Ultimately I’ve just been crashing and have had neither lately.”

 

[anustart76]

I have 13 matches on Tinder right now. 6 list themselves as "genderfluid," four are bisexual, 7 are heavily tattooed, and 5 are single mothers.

It is fucking dismal out there. Where are the normal people?

At least you have matches.

Live with any woman. See how often they clean the toilet. Turn gay.

They expect you to do it. You have to work, provide the income, do the chores, take care of everything, so she can look for other guys to fuck while you pay her bills. Because the mentality of these women is "why should I bring anything to the table? I am the table!" They don't even value themselves as much more than a moist hole, but they think that moist hole is somehow more valuable than anything else.

 

[Standardized Profile]

At least you have matches.

It's pretty easy to get a few if you swipe right on thousands of "genderfluids" (men), heavily tattooed, and single mothers.

 

[Billy Bob Dick]

Once the novelty of sex wears off, it's like having one friend who you're OBLIGATED to spend lots of time with and under the implicit assumption that you'll eventually live together and spend every waking moment with unless you have some specific reason not to.

I have been in several relationships, and in all honesty living alone and jerking off occasionally is by far the preferable situation

 

[Matt Damon]

I have been in several relationships, and in all honesty living alone and jerking off occasionally is by far the preferable situation

Hell, I've never even lived with any of the women I've been with. I truly don't know how anybody anywhere tolerates that.

For one thing, I sleep much, much worse when I'm next to somebody. But more importantly, I cannot be "on" 24 hours a day. I need time alone to relax and recharge so I can endure social interaction. If somebody is always there, I end up progressively more edgy and exhausted and cranky until I start fantasizing about strangling the other person to death with my bare hands.

Finding a partner and having a life together is supposed to be THE defining, life-affirming, existence-justifying peak human experience and it seems like some kind of medieval torture to me.

 

[DamnWolves!]

Women still cannot demonstrate any agency with choosing what to eat what so ever beyond not liking what you choose for them. This confuses me given how fat many of them are.

Sometimes I wonder how they get so fat, despite so many of them being "vegan" or "vegetarian". I'm not talking about the paunchiness that a lot of us have in our 30s; I don't find that particularly unacceptable, to be honest -- life gets busy. I'm talking about full-on, 50 lbs or more to lose, fat.

I know how I got fat; it was those 11 hours a day in a chair grinding my ass off, which I am attempting to fix now that I have "made it" in my 30s... but a lot of these women work for the government or some non-profit. A lot of them start work at 9 and get out at 3 or 4. I think they are just feckless when it comes to health, a lot of the time.

I have noticed that regardless of claimed vegan status, a lot of these women love cheese. I'm sure that has something to do with it.

To get a car, you need to cultivate some level of mechanical knowledge so you don't end up getting constantly ripped off whenever something breaks.

I guess? I can check the fluids and I know what the different parts of an engine do, and I'm generally pretty handy (I'll do outlets and pot lights all day long)... but if they tell me I've only got 2mm of brake pad left when I've got 20, there's really not a lot I can do about their outright fraud. And I dunno when the last time you bought a new car was, but even just changing the HEPA filter on mine basically requires you to disassemble the entire passenger side dash.

The reality is that even if I do get ripped off, it isn't worth spending the limited time off I get worrying about it... for the most part, we're talking about a couple hundred bucks here or there. At some point, I'm gonna have to trust someone to either make those decisions on my behalf, or I'm going to have to go to mechanic night school.

Only cost me a half tank of gas and now we're going steady.
Stop making excuses.

Most cities have like a "Shakespeare in the Park" event at night in the summer -- bring a couple blankets and it makes for a killer date.

It also turns out truly smart women tend to be happy and not looking for long, if they are at all.

A lot of women mistake smart for abrasive or accomplished, but curiously, only when evaluating themselves. A lot of the bitchiest lawyer women would never put up with that same behavior coming from some Finance bro, for example.

If you can afford it, the best semi-smart women to pick up in their mid-late 20s are the eternal grad students. Easy enough to transition them from "eternal student" to "eternal homemaker", if that's what you want. You'll never hear the end of that fucking Masters in Archaeology or whatever, but it's a small price to pay for not having to deal with a woman whose personality has been overwritten by competing in a male-dominated field.

Of course, dumb, idiot, retard waitress girlfriends can be very sweet too, but you'll have to get your intellectual companionship elsewhere.

it's because the user was too stupid to figure out Tor and are not worth your time to "debate" with.

The Tor version doesn't work so hot with iOS; specifically not with KiwiFlare, which throws a Web Assembly error at you.

Your overblown concerns about there not being enough Doctors isn't related to the birthrate in this country you fucking loser, it is due to the fact the education system here is turning out imbeciles and they struggle to find persons even smart enough to become doctors. Jesus, in some countries you need to be educated to be a teacher and here all you need is a fucking pulse.

There are probably 50 people, virtually all of whom have 4.0 GPAs and impeccable credentials, waiting in line for each medical school slot. Acceptance is less than 2% in most cases.

Why is this? Well, because in the 1980s, everyone started going to college after high school. The number of people eligible to make pretty good doctors increased exponentially, and a lot of them applied and were accepted to be one. What happens when supply of a good or service increases? Naturally, the price goes down.

Who might not like that? Well, how about the contemporary slate of medical professionals who were used to making $200-800k per year? Since the AMA is essentially the doctor's union masquerading as a professional association, they lobbied hard to limit the number of new medical school matriculants going forward:

And look what happened to physician pay as a result. Note how that increase coincides with the drop in per-capita graduates from medical school. What used to be a "good job" then becomes an instantaneous path to multi-millionaire status:

And because America is basically controlled by cosmopolitan elites who hold a great deal of disdain for normal people (those people you referred to as "gutter genetics white trash"), we've effectively gone along with this scheme ever since.

As for foreign doctors... well, the USMLE (medical licensing exam) pass rates speak for themselves:

There's a reason we make all those fucking Pajeet "doctors" drive cabs when they get here, and that reason is that they're retarded.

Sorry if that doesn't quite fit with your "white people are too stupid to compete with people who have designated shitting streets and/or civil wars every 8 years" narrative, but hey, maybe this will finally make you shut the fuck up -- you're a very unpleasant person.

 

[Mewtwo_Rain]

They expect you to do it. You have to work, provide the income, do the chores, take care of everything, so she can look for other guys to fuck while you pay her bills. Because the mentality of these women is "why should I bring anything to the table? I am the table!" They don't even value themselves as much more than a moist hole, but they think that moist hole is somehow more valuable than anything else.

The problem is many guys put up with that, women are encouraged to do that which they are allowed to do in relationships (What I mean is what isn't discouraged will by the same token be encouraged). Any woman that isn't acting grateful or starts to get disinterested I walk away from. Too many guys won't do that and end up at that point. I knew a guy who was an older gentleman his wife cheated with a pastor in another state who was wheelchair bound, got hooked on drugs and still took her back and allowed her to control the money flow of his household just because he didn't want to be alone. Shit is surreal what some guys put up with just to not be alone, or chastised in society.

Sometimes I wonder how they get so fat, despite so many of them being "vegan" or "vegetarian". I'm not talking about the paunchiness that a lot of us have in our 30s; I don't find that particularly unacceptable, to be honest -- life gets busy. I'm talking about full-on, 50 lbs or more to lose, fat.

Because most women sit on their asses all day or do little to any strenuous activity, and when getting overweight refuse to cut down on how many meals they have. The other thing is when outside of relationships many of them let themselves go and only get in shape for a guy they're with and even then that's pretty rare these days.

Take into account how many women will constantly snack, eat more than they need too, or will eat the shittiest junk food that makes me look like a healthy eater in comparison and you have the perfect recipe for obesity. Not that men aren't doing similar things in society but women are far more noticable these days.

time alone to relax and recharge so I can endure social interaction. If somebody is always there, I end up progressively more edgy and exhausted and cranky until I start fantasizing about strangling the other person to death with my bare hands.

Many people these days due to social media (and especially women) do not understand boundaries or personal space. Most men (I know I do) need alone time or we get a little unhinged or upset without it.

 

[Matt Damon]

Many people these days due to social media (and especially women) do not understand boundaries or personal space. Most men (I know I do) need alone time or we get a little unhinged or upset without it.

I'm not sure it's a gender-related thing - I think it's just the inherent nature and expectations of a romantic relationship.

I wouldn't want any same-sex friends either if they had the implied time demands of a relationship, rather than the looser, casual, at-will nature of friendship.

 

[quaawaa]

Sometimes I wonder how they get so fat, despite so many of them being "vegan" or "vegetarian".

Keep in mind that Oreos are vegan as is most of the junk food aisle. Ice cream is vegetarian and so is everything in a bakery.
Fruit is nature's candy and has a lot of sugar, which is only offset by high water content making it voluminous and difficult to eat too much.

Most vegetarians/vegans eat a lot more processed food than fresh vegetables.

 

[MightyMorphin'Willbender]

If you can afford it, the best semi-smart women to pick up in their mid-late 20s are the eternal grad students. Easy enough to transition them from "eternal student" to "eternal homemaker", if that's what you want. You'll never hear the end of that fucking Masters in Archaeology or whatever,

Ew dude. Eternal students just keep pushing their partners to keep funding their education. You don't really get a "eternal homemaker" from that (they will also prefer to study over do chores).

Sure they might play homemaker for a while but PhDs every year don't come cheap.

For one thing, I sleep much, much worse when I'm next to somebody. But more importantly, I cannot be "on" 24 hours a day. I need time alone to relax and recharge so I can endure social interaction.

That's what king sized beds (or completely separate rooms) are for tbh.
The one couple I know personally that slept separately was the wife's idea from day 1 of living together and my general impression of her is that she was missing a few screws on her head. Dunno how "on" they were to each other on a daily basis, but being with someone that wants a separate room must mean it's an easy arrangement to agree to enjoy solitude.

Also the concept of mancave exists and generally it's not too frowned upon for husbands to hide away in them unless it's a den of pornography/ childish hobbies.

Lots of people might idealize the idea of being with a person at all times but really the main point of relationships is about that everyday grind that's easier if you are sharing a house with a few people. Childwearign with one pair of adult eyes/arms is hard. Cooking for one wll make you hate eating (unless it's tasty snacks/takeout). Having to clean a good house alone in the frequency it deserves will easily eat all of your free time. Even just making sure you didn't have a sudden heart attack and died every other day is a nice thing to have.

 

[Matt Damon]

Lots of people might idealize the idea of being with a person at all times but really the main point of relationships is about that everyday grind that's easier if you are sharing a house with a few people. Childwearign with one pair of adult eyes/arms is hard. Cooking for one wll make you hate eating (unless it's tasty snacks/takeout). Having to clean a good house alone in the frequency it deserves will easily eat all of your free time. Even just making sure you didn't have a sudden heart attack and died every other day is a nice thing to have.

If you're not in a relationship, you certainly don't have to worry about childrearing. And I cook and clean on my own without much issue - when you live alone (and especially without any kids around), things don't get dirty nearly as quickly anyway.

As for the heart attack thing, I file everything after I'm dead in the "somebody else's problem" drawer, pretty much by definition.

 

[Omen_Sulk]

As for the heart attack thing, I file everything after I'm dead in the "somebody else's problem" drawer, pretty much by definition.

I remember someone mentioning the Men in marriages who died of a heart attack typically did so within a few years of retiring. As if their work was the only thing still keeping themselves held together.

It's like once they felt they had no real purpose anymore, they just keeled over.

 

[doodoocaca]

Regarding women and fat:

The way a woman is treated when attractive and young creates the expectation they will always be treated that way. They don't want to admit they're no longer attractive because they're fat hunchbacks, or for that matter, can't carry conversations like one would expect out of someone in their 30s.

For women who can get over their bullshit and stand up straight, eat right, and learn how to be interesting, the world is, yet again, their oyster. For those who keep going "I WISH I WAS STILL YOUNG" while getting fatter, well, lol.

 

[Omen_Sulk]

For women who can get over their bullshit and stand up straight, eat right, and learn how to be interesting, the world is, yet again, their oyster. For those who keep going "I WISH I WAS STILL YOUNG" while getting fatter, well, lol.

I had a Mom tell me she wished she was a kid again. "I don't like all this responsibility." "I don't why I'm still with my guy, I would've left him already if we didn't have kids"

 

[doodoocaca]

At least you have matches.


They expect you to do it. You have to work, provide the income, do the chores, take care of everything, so she can look for other guys to fuck while you pay her bills. Because the mentality of these women is "why should I bring anything to the table? I am the table!" They don't even value themselves as much more than a moist hole, but they think that moist hole is somehow more valuable than anything else.

My last tinder match, many years ago, was a cheater.

 

[Long Tongue Silver]

Yeah they want you to be an emotional tampon while she's browsing Tinder for Chads. Seriously it's a miracle that humans have not gone extinct because of this garbage.

Some cultures put their collective foot down on this shit, even if it means putting that foot on women's figurative necks.

 

[Falcos_Commisar]

A few other options:
-State enforced monogamy
-Gor like existence where all rape laws are removed and women are treated like property
-Soft harems for the top 10% of guys while the rest of incels or slaves.

Ohh man I totally forgot about Gor. Need to re read it.

Sadly the soft harem stuff will probably be the default standard, women will happily share men if they're all getting what they want.

i dont know if this is just because of my area or what but one of the biggest issues i have found when dating is that it feels like more and more women are having kids super young and then something happens and they become single parents and its at this point now where 9 times out of 10 any woman you talk to that even makes an attempt at trying happens to have a kid and its very off putting.

it just feels like young women are getting involved with guys that are very obviously taking advantage of them and the second a kid comes into the picture they get left alone and are cast back into dating but as a single mother who while still young still has the responsibility of raising a kid all because they felt the need to fuck around with some dude they met at a bar or whatever.

i blame the culture nowadays if anything but i am not surprised to see reports like this one and others talking about how hard it is for young men to date especially when half the dating pool has some extra baggage you may not be ready for and the other half is either overly demanding or some type of sjw type who want a guy they can beat down so they can brag about it to their friends. like how anisa treats idubbbz

It's because they're stupid and let losers get them pregnant and they think a baby is the PERFECT addition to their trashy relationship with a trashy deadbeat.

This is definitely one modality, I have seen this too. Seemingly normal, cute girls in their 20's who.... have a kid, often multiple kids, and are now desperately on dating apps or whatever (good luck with that). When I was growing up teen preggos were on the way out, even in my shithole town, so I dunno what happened there. It's impossible to know what's causing the relationships to fail without empirical data collection, literally asking both partners what went wrong. I'd be interested in hearing anecdotes myself, but remember that if you only hear one side of the story you can't claim to know anything.

Another modality is the eternal couple. People are in committed relationships for YEARS and fail to have kids. I have no idea what they are even doing. If you're over the age of 25 and in a serious (functional) relationship, you may as well just shitcan it immediately if you're not gonna have a kid like, yesterday.

The eternal couple is for people who are scared of marriage but like their live in or permanent fuck buddy. Or whose families HATE / disprove of the other person but are ok with a "casual" relationship. Oh and they usually both don't like children or have a "fur baby"

I've talked to a few single mothers in their early 30's and the impression I got from them is the guy they were with was a hot asshole, which they percieved at the time as an alpha. They attempted to lock him down with a family in their early 20's. But due to hypergamy, there's no incentive for the hot asshole to stick around, there's unlimited teens and 20 somethings throwing themselves at him. Even now the single mom complains to me the father of their kids is in their 30's now and still pumping and dumping teens and 20 somethings. Who are probably attempting the same thing she did at 20. Attempting to lock down what they perceive as a top tier guy.

Ahaha yep. They become another one KF his castoff toys and can't get over it and take out that rage and jealously on every other man.

Gotta love it when people toss out these empty platitudes in that "see? it's so simple, why doncha just do that?" type of way.

Those people are stupid and either sheltered or old as hell.

From my experience, the general population of girls typically are interested in:: Average clothes/makeup shopping, a band they like are in town on tour, their favorite Netflix series at the moment, a movie they saw advertised everywhere they want to see, maybe a big story happening in the news, maybe a new activity they want to try once, craft class/parasailing/a new restaurant. Oh and they want to travel to other countries.

If you move out of that zone, you are looking at hyper competent Women that are out of your league, or you are looking at damaged/divergent Women that have a whole host of crazy issues and baggage.

At least that's my perception from my experience.


Not that I'm trying to find someone, I'm just trying to make sense of the dating landscape.

Yep, so many similar yet equally vapid interests. The biggest ones are shopping (like almost all women), eating out (and drinking like a fish while out) and of course, travelling (on a man's dime). I like all three but I don't consider them a personality trait like many seem to.

But muh tingles tho. Women consume a lot of porn and shlickfic and now a lot of thots have to have some sexually aggressive Christian Grey daddy figure or else they’re out the door.

That is primarily due to their crippling addiction to social media. They like binge watching Friends and The Office because it’s background noise while they’re on Instagram, TikTok and their dating app(s) of choice. Time spent on a hobby is time away from the phone and that just ain’t happening with a lot of girls.

Funny because before smartphones became ubiquitous, millennial girls took up tons of hobbies that were pointless but in hindsight is much better than being addicted to upcummies. For example they’d have pottery class on Monday, Spanish class at a community college on Tuesdays and Thursdays, acoustic guitar lessons on Wednesdays, and would thot it up on Fridays and Saturdays. Between all that they would talk about the novel they were writing (but never finish) and volunteer on occasion. A few of these girls still do that but most are just on their phones instead.

Such a damn shame. I remember when you could invite people out to a wine tasting or a painting class and have a great time.... Now everyone is just slurping down TikTok trash and IG thottery.

You left out wine and "hiking" (read: taking Instagram selfies outdoors)

Ahaha yes ..... Hiking to a scenic overlook less than a mile from the trailhead the driving to the closest winery or wine bar.

Tell me about it, I was with a girl that became a total lazy slob, would leave her used maxipads in the bathroom trash and it would stink up the place to hell, I was dry heaving and she refused to take that shit out.

Ewwww. An ex of mine was in the bathroom making typical girl noises then she comes out, tee hees her way over to me, snuggles up and says "TEE HEE I JUST TOOK THE BIGGEST SHIT AND CLOGGED THE TOILET ". She had a literal shit eating grin and everything...... A 103lb 5'4" woman clogged a 5 gpf toilet..... Wtf was she eating????

 

[George Floyd Sneed]

Sometimes I wonder how they get so fat, despite so many of them being "vegan" or "vegetarian".

The vast majority of the time it’s liquid calories, often from sugary coffee drinks. The mixed drinks they have at the bar every week add up fast too. But yeah the vegan who has oat milk with her coffee will forget to mention there’s a half cup of sugar as well. The few vegans I know look sickly or are obese, depending on how well the can process the pounds of sugar it takes to make their garbage food taste remotely edible.

Hell, I've never even lived with any of the women I've been with. I truly don't know how anybody anywhere tolerates that.

For one thing, I sleep much, much worse when I'm next to somebody. But more importantly, I cannot be "on" 24 hours a day. I need time alone to relax and recharge so I can endure social interaction. If somebody is always there, I end up progressively more edgy and exhausted and cranky until I start fantasizing about strangling the other person to death with my bare hands.

Finding a partner and having a life together is supposed to be THE defining, life-affirming, existence-justifying peak human experience and it seems like some kind of medieval torture to me.

I’m married yet I feel the same way. Our solution is that we have separate, independent hobbies. I enjoy shitposting, she volunteers at an animal shelter. I’ll play the occasional vidya while she tutors to scratch her teaching itch. Having children complicates that a bit but her mother enjoys watching the kids and that gives us some alone time. So it can be done, not easy but it can be done.

 

[Matt Damon]

So it can be done, not easy but it can be done.

Oh, I'm sure I could've worked something out if I'd really put forth the effort. But I'm at the far bottom end of the bell curve in terms of my socializing needs and I don't want kids, so eventually I realized it was so much easier just to forego the whole thing.

It'd be nice to get laid now and then, but then I look at the constant, endless obligations hanging over the heads of so many of other dudes and realize it's a small sacrifice to make.

 

[Duke Nukem]

I have been in several relationships, and in all honesty living alone and jerking off occasionally is by far the preferable situation

If you're past the age of thirty, this is a likely scenario. Anyone worth being with is already taken and the remainers are single moms or substance abusers.

At least you have matches.


They expect you to do it. You have to work, provide the income, do the chores, take care of everything, so she can look for other guys to fuck while you pay her bills. Because the mentality of these women is "why should I bring anything to the table? I am the table!" They don't even value themselves as much more than a moist hole, but they think that moist hole is somehow more valuable than anything else.

The worst thing about the modern dating scene is that many would-be partners expect the man to have everything ready for them (house, car, job, etc.) and don't hold themselves to any standard instead of just accepting the guy isn't perfect but willing to work with him to build a life together. Do the types who would like to do this still exist? I doubt it.

At least you have matches.


They expect you to do it. You have to work, provide the income, do the chores, take care of everything, so she can look for other guys to fuck while you pay her bills. Because the mentality of these women is "why should I bring anything to the table? I am the table!" They don't even value themselves as much more than a moist hole, but they think that moist hole is somehow more valuable than anything else.

>be me
>be lonely normie guy
>crave the company of a normie gal
>download Tinder
>put best recent photos up
>mfw I actually got a few matches
>mfw I find out they're all tattooed landwhales, enby weirdos, and dudes in dresses
>fuckthisshit.jpg
>mfw being an incel is a preferable outcome

Hell, I've never even lived with any of the women I've been with. I truly don't know how anybody anywhere tolerates that.

For one thing, I sleep much, much worse when I'm next to somebody. But more importantly, I cannot be "on" 24 hours a day. I need time alone to relax and recharge so I can endure social interaction. If somebody is always there, I end up progressively more edgy and exhausted and cranky until I start fantasizing about strangling the other person to death with my bare hands.

Finding a partner and having a life together is supposed to be THE defining, life-affirming, existence-justifying peak human experience and it seems like some kind of medieval torture to me.

Well there's one way to make Clown World more outrageous, state mandated marriages between people who don't even like each other.

Having to engage in social interaction with others is already Hell on Earth for me. I DO NOT WANT this sort of thing 24/7.

Some cultures put their collective foot down on this shit, even if it means putting that foot on women's figurative necks.

It's not their fault, it's the soy golems' fault for allowing it to get as bad as it has. Being a "good listener" doesn't translate to her wanting to jump your bones or even see you as anything more than a dancing monkey.

Oh, I'm sure I could've worked something out if I'd really put forth the effort. But I'm at the far bottom end of the bell curve in terms of my socializing needs and I don't want kids, so eventually I realized it was so much easier just to forego the whole thing.

It'd be nice to get laid now and then, but then I look at the constant, endless obligations hanging over the heads of so many of other dudes and realize it's a small sacrifice to make.

I've talked a little bit about it in previous posts but I got the dating bug out before I hit a certain age, sex is literally the only thing that a woman can bring into my life that I'd actually want, assuming that I get the usual baggage. It's very unlikely we'd have anything in common let alone feel much sexual attraction for one another to begin with.

Women DO NOT WANT spergs.

 

[Omen_Sulk]

Women DO NOT WANT spergs.

It's hilarious when a Female friend visits me, and all I have to do is act like Mad Max out of Furiousa, and they have grand old time just unloading. Just throw in a tease about something they did and their face lights up and they laugh at themselves. You just have to listen to them talk about how they have to get their tires rotated next week or how something totally crazy happened when they went out clubbing.

Then I suddenly remembered from a week ago, I was out having a smoke. And a Dad was walking his 8 year old Daughter home from school, she was just endlessly going on about what happened that day was and her favorite cartoon character, while the Dad occassionally grunted to confirm he was listening.

Probably don't want to bring up that comparison around Women.