So, yeah, I had started typing this as a new topic, but then I thought that I should probably search for it just in case. Lo and behold, it was already discussed, so *BUMP!*
Let me just preface this by stating that I do not have any kids of my own. I've had a hand in helping raise some friends' children (who lovingly refer to me as Auntie "Vodka") and now am looking forward to being there helping with raising my newborn nephew. My people tend to roll with the whole "It takes a village" thing.
Anyway, I look back to how I was raised and nothing was sugarcoated. If something didn't go my way, that's how life is kiddo. If I didn't achieve something that I was aiming for, try harder next time. In retrospect, small town life did have it's ups because it instilled in me the drive to give my absolute all to get what I wanted. I don't see that being done to this younger crop of kids. Instead I see parents eliminating and all proverbial bumps in the road in an effort to make little Jimmy or Becky feel absolutely great about themselves, forgoing the instances that should make the child reflect on what they did and how they can improve on it. Without this, kids are lead to believe that the world is nothing but sunshine and unicorns. I'm not saying that all parents are raising their offspring in this matter, but an alarming number are.
I don't see merry-go-rounds in parks anymore. Everything's made out of soft, molded plastic in case they hit their little heads. And no one would dream of putting 8 foot high monkey bars on concrete like was the norm in playgrounds when I was growing up. I'm all for making sure that wee ones don't get hurt, but FFS, at least let them have a few battle scars to let them know that they are alive. I see childhood being completely sanitized from failure and bruises, pilfering identity, perseverance, and any sense of true success. We learn through experiences - good and bad. The ability to cope comes from failures. The youth today are coddled more than previous generations and aren't really chastised for wrongdoings. And if they do, expect that visit from the po-po and CYFD (or whatever it's called in your area), as happened to Tommy Jordan - the father who shot up his daughter's laptop because she was being totally disrespectful. I, for one, applaud him for doing some goddamn parenting.
If "I want my kid to have a better life than I had" is your credo, I've got your back. However, don't compromise the values that you were given in an effort to make your kid feel better about his or herself.
Sorry about the rant, but saw something today that really set me off.