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- Aug 27, 2019
I lean more into you line of thinking because I like it when someone gives me something I know I'll have an immediate purpose for instead of something that might end up collecting dust and taking up space before eventually being donated. Added benefit of people buying me practical things that I could buy myself means I don't have to buy it myself and can use the freed up money to spend on my more specialized hobbies that are harder for people to shop for because it can be confusing.That's where I'm at. If there's something I want, I just get it. I didn't have that option for most of my life, so I'm enjoying it now, but it feels even better to get things for other people.
That said, though, I have found myself in a very weird situation the other day and wanted to know if any of you guys have run into the same thing.
Specifically: I had a friend of mine actually stop me while out shopping and tell me something I'd grabbed for friend-B wasn't something friend-B would enjoy because, and I quote: "They don't like practical things, that's something they'll buy for themselves. Get them [X] instead."
If it's something they'd get themselves, isn't it good I get it for them? Am I exceptional?
Like I always ask to get the most practical gifts from my grandparents because it's far easier for them to find that stuff around where they live (no internet and rural) and I can use those things for years. They may think buying me a bunch of coffee beans isn't much of a gift since they don't know any fancy kinds, but usually what I get for Christmas will last me a good chunk into the next year so I don't have to worry about buying any myself for a bit.
To get around this I always try to mix it up and get them something practical I know they'd get themselves along with something I think they'd like, bonus if I can find something that's a little bit of both. It really depends on the person you're shopping for.You should give people something you think they would want. For a lot of people that's something they wouldn't buy for themselves, which is usually something unpractical.
It's a common meme; husbands buy their wife a vacuum cleaner because it's practical, something she's going to use, and last month she said she needed a new one soon! Wife is unhappy because she wanted a pair of earrings, she left jewelry catalogs around the house with the ones she liked circled, she talked about how nice it would be to have new earrings, but he got her a stupid vacuum cleaner. She got him the new toolbox he mentioned in February.