Translation: "I have no reliable sources of narcissistic supply. I'm not going to get the specific kind I want—the kind in which I am the leader others respect and look up to— because I disgust other people and whatever skills and knowledge base I once possessed have atrophied."
All the historical costuming groups I've observed in blue cities/states are flamingly liberal. Go on YouTube, and the most successful costumers all confidently spout SJW stuff. The few conservatives I know in the scene around here are really good at keeping quiet, cultivating their own groups of friends, and hosting their own private gatherings.
Kelly may indeed be too far out for even the progressive types that attend these groups, given how politicized her fatness is, and just how out-of-touch she is in general. She's spent far too much time socially isolated, reading shitty hot takes on oppression on social media, and her brain is just a hateful, blame-flinging bag of mush. Or maybe she's not that far out, but her particular emphases and manner of expressing herself just makes others uncomfortable (hence her dismissing them as "too neurotypical").
And then she follows it up by mooing about how much she misses being a "social leader...admired...important...desired." She doesn't miss friendships, socializing over a shared interest, or engaging in any kind of exchange of knowledge (unless, we can assume, it's from her at the top to others who look up to her).
So it looks like she tried to push her way up the hierarchy of the costuming group right away, and got rebuffed. Maybe she tried to appoint herself the resident photographer, and drum up business. Maybe she showed up in her shitty Christmas-fabric sack and insisted she knew all about sewing, and was obviously impervious to any suggestion that her skills weren't equal to the equal to the best-dressed women there.
Who knows. But I read this as Kelly getting into the group, and wanting to be seen as a Queen Bee—only to get the sting of rejection, which she is now trying, in classic Narc style, to reframe in a way that makes the group bad and wrong, not her.
So she was probably asked not to bring her kid (who is likely a socially- and emotionally-stunted mess, like so many kids are after two years of masking and isolation and schooling via Zoom, on top of being Kelly's child) along to outings designed for adults. That's because sane adults, even when partaking in a wholesome activity otherwise suitable for kids, feel they have to watch their language and behavior when kids are around. They get together, as adults, to hang out and talk freely about adult things, and a kid puts a serious damper on that.
So she's retreating behind, "My family needs me, and this group doesn't have room for that." PLUS, re-iteration of the fact that nobody wanted her as a leader. Damn, what I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall when Kelly was present, just to see what kind of shit she got up to.
Similar complaining on Twitter. This particular crisis seems directed quite specifically at the historial clothing recreation group she’s been going to, which is otherwise solely populated by women 15-20 years younger than her.
Many of those women 15-20 years younger than her are already superior seamstresses and far more knowledgeable about historical dress—and accomplished at living life in general—than Kelly could ever hope to be. The last thing they either want or need is the likes of Kelly showing up with her kid, in terrible clothes, and trying to insert herself into the top of the group hierarchy, while mooing about the oppression of fat, self-diagnosed autists like herself.
This is weapons-grade cope, and I am totally here for it.
I have a difficult time believing Kelly has ever been any type of leader or much more than superficially involved in any irl community. You have to have some people skills for that and no facts in evidence.
And if your people skills aren't the greatest, you at least need a level of expertise and skill no one else has, plus the ability to communicate that clearly and keep everything organized and running smoothly.
Maybe, when Kelly used to do interpretive history of farm life, she was skilled and knowledgeable enough to train newcomers, and got some respect for that. And maybe, back then, her personality wasn't such hot garbage. She still had a future ahead of her then, with other possibilities besides being stuck dependent upon an undesirable spouse of convenience, with no friends, growing ever fatter and more repulsive, and forced to show some basic level of care for children she clearly resents.
Jesus. Is she about to openly embrace her NPD, and use it as a new, extra-special identity? At this point, I wouldn't put it past her.
What can I say except 
