This development is very interesting. Derrick Sobodash realizes that he doesn't have first-hand proof that Byuu is alive or dead, but he does give us interesting insight into the marriage of David and Patrick. Specifically -- did they ever end it?
Byuu and his husband were living parallel lives. They sold their house, and Byuu fucked off to Japan while the husband lives in Ohio. I assumed that they would have settled their affairs long before Byuu bought his plane ticket. However, there doesn't appear to be any record of a divorce -- and it appears the husband was holding out hopes for a reconciliation. Unfortunately for him, Byuu was holding some secrets of his own . . .
Now we learn that the husband was apparently out of work with three children to support. Byuu realizes that it's only a matter of time before Patrick starts looking in earnest for where David might be -- and if he doesn't like what he sees and serves him with divorce papers, I could see Byuu being slapped with
spousal support. (I don't know about whether he'd be stuck with child support, but non-payment of that can have
implications for your passport.) And if they had any joint communal property that Byuu helped himself to under the guise he was managing the couple's finances (proceeds from the house sale, investment accounts, etc.) I could see him on the hook for that as well. We all saw what happened to Lowtax during his rather contentious divorce. The only difference between Lowtax and Byuu is that Lowtax left a verifiable corpse.
This also explains why there's a cookie jar with Byuu's name on it. If the husband paid for the funeral, he would probably want pictures of the event at least -- especially if he couldn't attend due to travel restrictions. The urn was never meant to fool us -- it's to fool the husband. With travel restrictions, a language barrier, and Japanese privacy laws it would be rather trivial to stonewall the husband, and just send him notifications that the case is tied up in "probate" until he either gives up pursuing the matter, or accepts 15 pages of Japanese text with a check attached for a measly amount of money.
Assuming Mr. Sobodash's recollection of the marriage is correct, he's just provided yet another motive for Byuu to pull this stunt -- making sure he's not on the losing side in divorce court. This is not the first time a troon has abandoned their family or has squirreled away money from a joint account for transition expenses. And it certainly won't be the last.