I liked your post, but I'm going to push back a little on this point, or maybe it's not pushback, but I do want to add some detail that people tend to overlook. By all means, please bring recess back to elementary and shop back to secondary ed, however, let us not forget that boys can, in fact, sit down and shut up.
I'm not going to get into what my connection to American secondary education is and who I am, but please understand that in the past decade there has been massive change on the national level not only in content standards but in teaching practices as well. The old stand-and-deliver style teachers are retiring in droves and are quickly being replaced by teachers brought up in the new practices. Teacher induction programs may focus attention on at-risk students and girls, but as a byproduct of that, you end up with strategies being used that attempt to appeal to student interests, break up long lessons, reduce breadth of content to make room for depth, and also provide more hands-on activities.
So why can't boys thrive in those environments? I've been told group work and collaboration is gay and therefore boys are suffering tremendously when made to collaborate. I call bullshit because although males have a propensity to compete, we wouldn't have team sports and we wouldn't have gotten to the moon if collaboration was stultifyingly faggy. When I've seen teachers develop lessons involving blowing shit up and the same group of boys who are always tuned out are still tuned out it makes me think something other than the teaching is the problem. I'm seeing the kind of lessons from teachers these days I would have loved, but I didn't have a smartphone when I was 15 and there's no competing with porn and the games that are programmed like video poker.
Furthermore men of my father's generation and my generation seemed to do fine and come out as moderately educated articulate people in an era where teachers mostly lectured and assigned readings. This was the era of male academic supremacy when boys were expected to sit down and shut up under threat of getting whacked with a ruler or paddle. We all love to chant Pink Floyd's lyrics in The Wall as it reflects our personal experience with education, but I find it ironic because I would argue the likes of Gilmour, who was put through a strict education regime, are far more intellectually interesting and educated than whatever the hell is going on with this current crop of creatives.
So is it the influence of too many female teachers? This conversation can devolve into the same finger pointing that goes on as to whether societal problems are the fault of the single mothers or the absentee fathers. A significant proportion of male teachers I have interacted with fall into two categories. One type will teach for the mandatory four years and then go get his admin credential to become a principal or work in the district office. The other type is the embarrassed would-be professor. For some reason men are not attracted to the profession even though, against popular belief, in many places the pay is appropriate and comes with great benefits. There used to be more male teachers. We need them to come back.
Anyway, I'm not making a case that education isn't a problem, but it certainly isn't the problem as our educational system is a reflection of our society.
One last point, I would encourage families to keep pushing back on this trans shit in schools. It doesn't have quite the backing that it seems too. Woke teacher trainings are being implemented without much thought, and teachers are silent because they are afraid of the maybe two retard purple hairs soapboxing at the staff meeting. You are guaranteed a free and public education in this country and you should demand it be of quality and appropriate content.