behindyourightnow
kiwifarms.net
- Joined
- May 17, 2021
100% agree. If you want a great example of female speech, r/ftm is ironically one of the best places on the internet (maybe because the user base is mostly teenage girls who only talk to other teenage girls, maybe also because the hugbox environment amplifies a lot of the "analyzing emotion" elements). And it sticks out even more because they stick "bro" and "dude" awkwardly into every second sentence.I love clocking ftms via text so here are the things I noticed:
- Women apologize in their posts. A lot. They apologize the post is too long, too short, too emotional, badly formatted, chaotic, anything goes. Sometimes they do that "oh I know it's boring to read, feel free to skip, sowwy" spiel.
- As you said, emotions, talking about them, overanalyzing them, worrying overtly about hurting someone's feelings.
- Softening their points with phrases like "I think", "It seems like...", "I guess maybe we should...". I noticed women at work do this constantly while proposing something (and I used to do it too), ftms are no different.
Hell, browse r/ftm for a minute. I'm a true and honest female and I couldn't write that girly if I tried.
Another thing I didn't see mentioned yet when it comes to male speech is that men tend to be cruder about describing bodily functions (not just sexual ones). You can see that on trans twitter a lot where the AGPs are always talking about "pissing" or "taking a dump" in women's bathrooms. Not that women never use words like that, but when they do it's usually for shock/humor value, it's not standard speech.
Bringing it back to FTMs, I actually went to r/FTM and did a quick search for "peeing" vs. "pissing" to test out this hypothesis. FTMs on a whole are obsessed with achieving "male" urination, and yet they still cannot bring themselves to use anything but gentle euphemistic words to describe it 90% of the time:

