In my PL, most of the fun of scouts was making new friends and sharing the excitement of trying new, sometimes challenging activities with them, so of course Kev managed to hate and fail at it.
Can't speak to Current Year GSUSA because I'm an adult and not a parent or a pedo:
In the '80s-'90s, Girl Scouts
had the Scouting Try-Its/Badges/Interest Projects. Knives, fire, camping, survival, hiking and orienteering. But they were only one facet of the badges available, and not the program focus. Individual troops could self-direct what kind of things they like to do together, and Councils usually had day camps and summer camps, but Girl Scouts had a
lot more emphasis on social skills. (Gathering a bunch of pre-teen and teen girls together and trying to do group activities is pretty good practice, in retrospect; it's like an immersion class in social engineering, especially if you're a weird kid at school.)
Also this was back in the day, so there was a lot of push for "girls can do anything" STEM stuff before it was called STEM, and adult skills stuff like money management and local politics and yeah, cooking. You could just do the badges you wanted to do--you could have the bootleg Boy Scout experience and just do outdoors and tech stuff, tag along for your troop's activities but not complete all of the badge work for things like communicating. There was one where we learned about makeup and HABA, but it had a lot more self-esteem and health stuff and less "get your slap on and twerk."
Nowadays I worry that if you're a mini autist too interested in knife safety and tying knots and soldering together a crystal radio, they gently remind you that that means you're really a boy. I refuse to investigate this because I don't want to find out the answer.