RE: Tyler's new GF.
Ashley used to be married to Dallas. They divorced at the end of last year. She started dating Tyler. Cue baby drama.
During that time, Dallas dated Maddie. Allegedly, he wasn't very serious about it and tried to end it when Maddie started asking for something more official. When the baby drama happened, Maddie started talking to Tyler.
Ashley and Dallas re-married. Maddie is Tyler's new GF.
There's a pretty good chance Tyler's being abusive to her since he has a history of it, including not one but two exes (besides Ashley) who can confirm he is not a good person. But from the looks of it, Maddie is not exactly sane either. I don't know how else to explain her choice to date her ex-boyfriend's ex-wife's abusive boyfriend.
Hey, this is M and this is coming from my pov. I was dating A's ex-husband at the time we met via tinder. He lived an hour away so I really didn't get to see him but on the weekends, he had work and kids. This was like April-June of 2022. Things were "eh" considering we matched on tinder. I wasn't really wanting anything serious but he gave me the impression that he wanted something serious like meeting his kids/family, he already met my family that's how they know about my dad, etc. But he kept making excuses for why I couldn't meet his family/kids.
The one reason I couldn't meet his kids was because his ex-wife had to meet me in order to meet the kids which was 1000% understandable I wouldn't want a random ass bitch meeting my children without meeting me first. But every time I tried to meet his ex-wife he would say she wasn't ready to meet me even though he told me she was in a new relationship but everyone moves at their own pace I wasn't going to rush it.
Fast forward a little bit, keep in mind I'm an hour- hour and a half away. I found out that his ex-wife, his current wife now, destroyed all my belongings he had in his possession and got into a domestic violence situation with, she hit him in a rage while destroying my stuff saying "why are you showing another girl the love I deserve." It was very sentimental stuff stuff stuff to me. He didn't tell me until I asked about it because I left something in his car and he finally said yeah my ex destroyed all your stuff. Including a DND painting, I worked my ass off on and spent so long making.
After that day it was off things felt weird. I asked him did ex still have feelings for him and he said "idk" which evidently meant yeah she does. He started falling back and essentially ghosted me. I tried to contact him because I had some meaningful belongings in his possession that I wanted to salvage and I wanted to know why out of the blue are you doing this. I tried calling him, dm, text now, etc but he never answered. Until one day his ex-wife started following me on tiktok and laughed reacted a post I made on Facebook.
I messaged her because I didn't want to go back and forth with her on social media. She replied I just think it's funny how you think D wants to be with you. Keep in mind I was under the impression that she had a whole boyfriend that she had been dating for about the same time I and D got together.
I finally stopped contacting him I was in a deep depression. I wasn't eating or sleeping my grades were falling I was just surviving. Our relationship was short-lived but at the time I really had feelings for him. The manipulation and love bombing from him was heavy. Not to mention he would constantly gaslight me into believing his ex and him were over, which they're remarried now so I guess that was a lie. I was lost and desperate.
I reached out to J "shithead" for answers to why he may be cutting contact with me. We talked for a bit I told him upfront who I was and what I was there for answers. Was in a great headspace no and i admit that but it wasn't anything spiteful or had hateful intent. We were just people who got involved in two other people's lives and had no intention of wanting to be with us just to make the other jealous.
Fast forward I and J are talking we're on and off because we were very hesitant about being together. We both got out of pretty shitty relationships. We were playing it slow we told people we were talking but we weren't "official" until around July. Even then we were scared of the outcome but at that point, we were going to try if things got iffy we would cut ties. It was rocky with his ex being pregnant. She was stressed, he was stressed everyone was stressed.
They only dated for like 3 months and she got pregnant so I can see how that would be stressful on top of already having 2 kids, not above 5yrs old. I'm not trying to invalidate his ex's experience or situations with him.
He's taken accountability for his actions. The day his ex came to the apartment with the cops and he was fucking with her to get in her head by saying something about the good time they had in his car that was the day he swore he was going to change because he saw how much it hurt me. He said he never wanted to hurt me again. He's admitted to having a drinking problem and he's on the right path to sobriety. He went to the doctor for his mental health and got prescribed antidepressants/anti-anxiety meds. He used alcohol to cope with the miscarriage. Now he's trying to find a healthy coping mechanism. He and I both are trying to get better.
His ex hasn't been around him or his family since Jun/July of 2022 and only was a part of it for like 3 months. She put a restraining order on him but trust me he isn't who she says she is. He's not once laid hand on me. We're working on talking through our issues and his medication is helpful a fuck ton.
As for his family, they've always been kind to me. Invited me to Thanksgiving, and Christmas gave me gifts, and birthday parties, and made me feel like family. Where we live isn't as urban as where she is so yeah there's going to be poor/lower-class people here. You get good jobs based on who you know or daddy gets you in a plant somewhere. It's the rural south it's a backwards ass state and it's probably not going to change anytime soon.
I'm not obsessed with her I want her to leave me alone I've begged her to leave me alone. I've contacted her to stop making tiktoks/social media posts about me on multiple occasions. She's screenshotted posts I made and manipulated and twisted them to use them to make her look like the victim.
I've been asking her for months to leave me tf alone. The reason we had beef is because of her when she destroyed my stuff, got between my relationship, and started rumors about me being pregnant. I got her phone number from mail that was sent to the apartment, not from my current bf and I already had her address from when I was seeing her ex/now husband. She messaged me first on D's behalf because he is just as much as pos as she is and couldn't be a decent enough human to message me how he felt himself.
She and D have a track record of spitting up fucking other people and inevitably getting back together. Like the girl D was seeing in Auburn or the bumble/tinder people they were seeing months before they met J and I. They did this to countless people. The only difference is this time it backfired and she got pregnant. I can answer questions to the best of my ability like I said I was an hour away when she was dating T. I've been part of the family longer than she has. I just wanted to clear up rumors about me.
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