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[Sleazy Car Salesman]

Where do you live? pretty sure it’s legal in most places in the US as long as you don’t cause injury. I think we can all agree if you’re sending the kid to the hospital that’s abuse.

That wasn't at all what he said, now was it?

 

[MetalParakeet]

I'm over the abuse excuse. The issue fucking these people up of course relates to the abuse but the bigger factor is that they're no longer pushed to better themselves. You just claim daddy touched you and you get a life long free pass to be a piece of shit.

 

[Blarmed&Dangerous]

I think the spanking has less to do with Aella's...Aellaness than the autism.

I've always said, every polycule contains an autist, a sociopath, and a victim.

 

[ghjoigcbn]

I'm over the abuse excuse. The issue fucking these people up of course relates to the abuse but the bigger factor is that they're no longer pushed to better themselves. You just claim daddy touched you and you get a life long free pass to be a piece of shit.

The reading comprehension in this thread…
It was possible an explanation of why she ran away from home, and why she hates her parents, not an excuse for her shittiness. Children usually don’t run away from home unless there is something wrong at home, no matter how shitty they are.

It’s like as soon as you mention spanking you get all these people jumping in that need to tell you how great spanking is, how they turned out just fine, etc etc, and it’s totally irrelevant to the discussion here. And if you mention abused you get the people saying how they were abused and they arent shitty, good for you. I was specifically trying to avoid an autistic spanking debate in this thread.

Once again, since apparently people aren’t following, my point was, she probably ran away and hates her Dad because he physically abused her ( we know the family spanked but I’m not saying that spanking was the abuse).

 

[Sleazy Car Salesman]

The reading comprehension in this thread…
It was possible an explanation of why she ran away from home, and why she hates her parents, not an excuse for her shittiness. Children usually don’t run away from home unless there is something wrong at home, no matter how shitty they are.

It’s like as soon as you mention spanking you get all these people jumping in that need to tell you how great spanking is, how they turned out just fine, etc etc, and it’s totally irrelevant to the discussion here. And if you mention abused you get the people saying how they were abused and they arent shitty, good for you. I was specifically trying to avoid an autistic spanking debate in this thread.

Once again, since apparently people aren’t following, my point was, she probably ran away and hates her Dad because he physically abused her ( we know the family spanked but I’m not saying that spanking was the abuse).

How long do you get to act like a piece of shit for while saying "Yeah well bad things happened to me years ago"?

 

[MetalParakeet]

How long do you get to act like a piece of shit for while saying "Yeah well bad things happened to me years ago"?

He sounds like he'd be an expert in this field, if ya know what I mean

 

[The Demon Pimp of Razgriz]

I feel like it is pretty clear she was physically abused by her father. The blog she wrote for wanted to keep the discussion centered on religion. She also states on reddit she didn't want to hurt her family who still “supports” her father. That explains why she left it out and claimed it wasn’t “pertinent”. It makes sense for the fear of being beaten again to be the inciting incident that caused her to flee.

I honestly don't believe their was physical abuse. Psychological abuse? Sure. Corporeal punishment? Most definitely. But if she really was physically abused, I don't think at all that she would hide it, considering the unflattering picture she already paints of her household (the original article is down, have a web archive instead).

It was possible an explanation of why she ran away from home, and why she hates her parents, not an excuse for her shittiness. Children usually don’t run away from home unless there is something wrong at home, no matter how shitty they are.

I mean, we don't have to jump to any conclusions on the home front. She's painted a stark enough picture. I say she was possibly sexually assaulted. Not by her father, but by someone else. Maybe a close family friend or another family member. Maybe her father didn't believe her when she came forward, which is a common enough issue. It would explain her earlier crippling fear of sexuality or even romance (she outright asked for an arranged marriage), which is extreme even for a sheltered girl like her, and why she's so hypersexual now.

 

[DumbDude43]

Where do you live? pretty sure it’s legal in most places in the US as long as you don’t cause injury. I think we can all agree if you’re sending the kid to the hospital that’s abuse.

it's criminalized entirely in almost all of south america and europe

 

[Mr. Hedgehog]

I honestly don't believe their was physical abuse. Psychological abuse? Sure. Corporeal punishment? Most definitely. But if she really was physically abused, I don't think at all that she would hide it, considering the unflattering picture she already paints of her household (the original article is down, have a web archive instead).


I mean, we don't have to jump to any conclusions on the home front. She's painted a stark enough picture. I say she was possibly sexually assaulted. Not by her father, but by someone else. Maybe a close family friend or another family member. Maybe her father didn't believe her when she came forward, which is a common enough issue. It would explain her earlier crippling fear of sexuality or even romance (she outright asked for an arranged marriage), which is extreme even for a sheltered girl like her, and why she's so hypersexual now.

"I don’t know how my dad reacted to my deconversion; I haven’t spoken to him since I left home."
But, she did contact her mother and other unspecified family members, possibly through social media. Could this be centered around the father's blood relatives? It's weird that she came out as an atheist to her mother and other relatives, but didn't contact her father at all.

 

[Amber the Hedgehog]

It was possible an explanation of why she ran away from home, and why she hates her parents, not an excuse for her shittiness. Children usually don’t run away from home unless there is something wrong at home, no matter how shitty they are.

Not really true. Sure bad homes are more likely to create run aways but kids run away from perfectly fine homes too. Kids aren't the most rational creatures and can have really screw up priorities. Especially if they have mental health issues but even normal kids can get bad ideas that they go with. Sometimes that's running away, usually because there is a guy/girl the parents don't like for a good reason.

 

[The Demon Pimp of Razgriz]

But, she did contact her mother and other unspecified family members, possibly through social media. Could this be centered around the father's blood relatives? It's weird that she came out as an atheist to her mother and other relatives, but didn't contact her father at all.

She came out as atheist publicly on Facebook. Her article isn't clear on who she spoke to, if anyone, from her family. It says she's "pretty sure" she broke her mother's heart. Its pretty noncommittal, so maybe she never spoke to her mother directly but was told of her reaction by others. Considering how strict her father is, its possible he made a point to not contact her after her "coming out" and she never made an attempt to reach out either. He disowned her in other words.

 

[Maldavius Figtree]

Her dad 100% did not molest her. She has deliberately worded her text in a way that makes it seem like he raped her and she, out of the goodness of her heart, isn’t telling the world, while giving her the defense of „I never said he did anything???“. Seen this play out more than once before.

 

[Blarmed&Dangerous]

She is reconciled enough with her parents to visit them over this past Christmas and talk to her dad about AI after he read her blog.

I'm honestly surprised she doesn't have her own thread. She's currently in the middle of her own love quest, trying to find a heartsweet through mass surveying - and discovering to her shock that it's apparently extremely difficult to find a guy who's fabulously wealthy, comfortable with extreme rapeplay, wants kids, AND doesn't mind her fucking around and doing OF.

 

[Markass the Worst]

I'm honestly surprised she doesn't have her own thread. She's currently in the middle of her own love quest, trying to find a heartsweet through mass surveying - and discovering to her shock that it's apparently extremely difficult to find a guy who's fabulously wealthy, comfortable with extreme rapeplay, wants kids, AND doesn't mind her fucking around and doing OF.

She also showered 37 times for the entirety of 2022. Looks like lolcow.farm has a thread and is having fun with her, they got plenty of material for a potential thread here. I might write the OP if I have time, no promises though.

 

[Markass the Worst]

She also showered 37 times for the entirety of 2022. Looks like lolcow.farm has a thread and is having fun with her, they got plenty of material for a potential thread here. I might write the OP if I have time, no promises though.

I have started writing an OP. God help me.

Edit: https://kiwifarms.net/threads/aella...ael-antier-slick-redverse-knowingless.144410/

 

[Freya]

Even more unbelievable is that her name is Rachael Slick, and her father is Matthew Slick, founder of CARM.

The sad testimony of the daughter of a Calvinist apologist

Rachael Slick, daughter of Calvinist fundamentalist Matt Slick, explained why she gave up her faith and became an atheist having no longer any contact with her parents. I was born in 1992. My paren…

lotharlorraine.wordpress.com

Quite an upsetting story, to be frank.

Oh, her home address is 1004 E 44th St, Austin, TX 78751.

One is pro sex trafficking , the other is pro harassing women going to clinics. Interesting. Two sides of the same coin.
>he convinces women not to abort their babies so his daughter can traffic them later

Street Preaching at Abortion Clinics

Street Preaching at Abortion Clinics is difficult. Tony Miano provides practical tips on how to preach, plea, and minister at Abortion Clinics

carm.org

Here is her dad Matt talking about his experience in the occult.
What an interesting thing to say. Isn't that Aella's whole brand? I wonder if he sees his dead mom in her lol

My involvement in the occult

As a Christian researcher and defender of the faith, I delve into many areas of the occult, world religions, and Christian-based cults.

carm.org

 

[Wyzzerd]

All this needed was a time skip to two weeks later when the entire poly group implodes.

 

[Markass the Worst]

All this needed was a time skip to two weeks later when the entire poly group implodes.

Archive in case it gets taken down by troons:

Spoiler: archive

The comments are all based:





(archive)

 

[The Judean People's Front]

Hey all, I have been working my way through this thread as a close friend recently had her marriage implode because of Polyamory. I was resisting posting about it as it's not an r/polyamory post, but it seems anecdotal is appreciated here.

Spoiler: Spoilered in case you don't want story time

This story stars my long-time (20+ years) friend, we'll call her May, and her husband who I've known nearly as long as her - we'll call him Luke. They were both raised uber religious in a very small cult-like Christian group where sexuality was beyond repressed and shamed, and started dating around sixteen. They adamantly avoided sex (minus the occasional shameful handy) for around 5 years while engaged, and once they got married she confessed to me that they didn't have sex for weeks because they had repressed that desire so much they couldn't get into it.

Both of these folks are weird. The kind of weird that comes from growing up in an insular fundy community, but he is much more classically attractive than she is. He's not hot, but he's good looking - tall, athletic, and lean. He regularly does week-long hiking trips through rough Backcountry. She, on the other hand is homely at best. I love her, she's my friend, but she's not a looker. She is also very lazy and. . . Not a hiker. Also, fat. Quite fat.

Anyway, they got married over a decade ago and everyone thought they were one of the friend group's more stable couples. I never asked about their sex life because I'm not one to do that with friends, and I kinda didnt want to know. Anyway, apparently it was abysmal. Turns out that two people who were shamed for horniness and taught nothing about sex and relationships are shockingly bad at both.

I guess when the Pandemic hit they discovered they didn't like each other much after over 15 years and decided to "try Poly online." They both made FetLife profiles and stuff, and they engaged in Long distance roleplay shit with others. May told me that Luke is a "wimp" and he just "jackhammers" during sex and wanted a stronger, tougher guy "with a backbone."

Unlike a lot of poly scenarios I've read on here, May had the issue finding partners while Luke was immediately drowning in pussy. He hooked up with a 20 year old who is petite, pretty, and extremely hot for Luke. We will call her Sarah. May acted like it was all good and that she and Sarah liked each other and it was all a happy Poly family. She told me she (May) had a Dom who she wanted to have visit in the future, so it was all good. Luke and Sarah have one of those fucking creepy DD/LG things going, too.

Fast forward about three months and Luke abruptly moved out of his and May's house. He told her he had to figure things out. But another month later he's now living with Sarah and stringing May along for crumbs. Now he and Sarah are planning a family (he and May never had kids, said they didn't want them), while May is probably too old to have a kid if she wanted one.

May knows she needs to divorce him but is so financially entwined she doesn't know what to do. She also had her "Dom" come visit and he basically beat the shit out of her and then went home and is now ghosting her. This just happened last week. May is now borderline suicidal and just wants her husband back.

Anyway! Just another poly success story!

 

[DumbDude43]

Hey all, I have been working my way through this thread as a close friend recently had her marriage implode because of Polyamory. I was resisting posting about it as it's not an r/polyamory post, but it seems anecdotal is appreciated here.

Spoiler: Spoilered in case you don't want story time

This story stars my long-time (20+ years) friend, we'll call her May, and her husband who I've known nearly as long as her - we'll call him Luke. They were both raised uber religious in a very small cult-like Christian group where sexuality was beyond repressed and shamed, and started dating around sixteen. They adamantly avoided sex (minus the occasional shameful handy) for around 5 years while engaged, and once they got married she confessed to me that they didn't have sex for weeks because they had repressed that desire so much they couldn't get into it.

Both of these folks are weird. The kind of weird that comes from growing up in an insular fundy community, but he is much more classically attractive than she is. He's not hot, but he's good looking - tall, athletic, and lean. He regularly does week-long hiking trips through rough Backcountry. She, on the other hand is homely at best. I love her, she's my friend, but she's not a looker. She is also very lazy and. . . Not a hiker. Also, fat. Quite fat.

Anyway, they got married over a decade ago and everyone thought they were one of the friend group's more stable couples. I never asked about their sex life because I'm not one to do that with friends, and I kinda didnt want to know. Anyway, apparently it was abysmal. Turns out that two people who were shamed for horniness and taught nothing about sex and relationships are shockingly bad at both.

I guess when the Pandemic hit they discovered they didn't like each other much after over 15 years and decided to "try Poly online." They both made FetLife profiles and stuff, and they engaged in Long distance roleplay shit with others. May told me that Luke is a "wimp" and he just "jackhammers" during sex and wanted a stronger, tougher guy "with a backbone."

Unlike a lot of poly scenarios I've read on here, May had the issue finding partners while Luke was immediately drowning in pussy. He hooked up with a 20 year old who is petite, pretty, and extremely hot for Luke. We will call her Sarah. May acted like it was all good and that she and Sarah liked each other and it was all a happy Poly family. She told me she (May) had a Dom who she wanted to have visit in the future, so it was all good. Luke and Sarah have one of those fucking creepy DD/LG things going, too.

Fast forward about three months and Luke abruptly moved out of his and May's house. He told her he had to figure things out. But another month later he's now living with Sarah and stringing May along for crumbs. Now he and Sarah are planning a family (he and May never had kids, said they didn't want them), while May is probably too old to have a kid if she wanted one.

May knows she needs to divorce him but is so financially entwined she doesn't know what to do. She also had her "Dom" come visit and he basically beat the shit out of her and then went home and is now ghosting her. This just happened last week. May is now borderline suicidal and just wants her husband back.

Anyway! Just another poly success story!

if this thread teaches us anything, it's that lukes new relationship with sarah will be short lived at best, and afterwards all that remains will be three broken lonely people