"Markass the Worst" (I don't know why he is the worst) said future stuff about LW people should go here so I am doing that.
Here's an example of an email exchange between himself and a site moderator because the site didn't work in portrait mode:
https://pastebin.com/raw/e2wp95L8
This hits. Like, I feel this guy. I've had this exact kind of exchange with them, and I've tried to articulate why it's flawed and I've done my best but I am only one guy.
Most of the IRL people come from an upper middle class background; I know this because I polled them. If we combine upper middle class and upper class into a single category (I call this "comfort class") then my pulled out of ass estimate is at least 70% come from that background, maybe 80%.
They're extremely used to polite norms, even in subtle ways. I usually type with all-lowercase and I'm not doing it here because I know what I type will be read by a general audience. The lowercase thing was something LessWrongs complained about until whenever Twitter and/or Aella/Eigenrobot made them get over it. (As in, "you should capitalize properly because Halo Effect." It took everything in me to resist saying "yes well you should be less ugly because Halo Effect.")
This is their Achilles.
Like, comedians can call it like they see it. There is an epistemology to this that relies on more subtle social dynamics and they just haven't figured it out — but that means any pro comedian would be banned eventually in their space. Tom Segura would be banned. Probably even John Mulaney! I don't put stock in any community that would ban either of those two.
And I know this isn't insensitivity, because the more empathetic people in the group were able to figure out when I was joking vs when I wasn't. I don't think it's an autism spectrum thing either. I really think they've just taken themselves too seriously
and developed a model for it to conform to so that they reinforce this behavior.
so, TLDR: Gwern was ridiculous in that exchange. The guy went ridiculously out of his way to provide good feedback. LessWrongs have an extremely poor tolerance to perceived hostility.
And btw — my ex fiancée was a black woman and we A/B tested this tone thing by posting replies I'd think of under her name. You don't even need me to finish this story — you know how it turned out, lol. She coined a term for this called "formality blanket", i.e. people who enforce formality because it's comfortable.