Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[LonesomeDud]

Alex has added another few stories, intended to make us see just how much she loves her man guise!
Look how secure in their relationship they are, only secure people show off their relationships right?

Also, when did she get a dog? That's not going to be an extra burden at all for her caregiver, with a severely disabled adult and a newborn to look after...

Edit: cropped photo

What an interesting post! Where is the, "informative, but I hate it" sticker?

 

[Trombonista]

Does Alex know about this thread? If not, I hope she doesn't find out until the baby is at least three months old.

 

[Jane Eyre]

Alex showed some of the baby's clothes on IG stories. I hope she washed at least the clothes she's planning on using right after the baby is born before putting them into the dresser but I guess that's .

Sorry I don't remember who brought up that her tubes should be tied up, but today Alex answered why she doesn't want to do that plus if she and Alex want to marry and if Noah is bi.

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

You can still use your eggs with tied tubes, they don't extract them via the tube lol.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

She is delusional in thinking that there can be any kind of routine with a newborn. It takes months to start establishing a routine. They don’t have a day/night schedule, they get hungry, sometimes every 20 minutes, sometimes every hour all day and you have to be available. Especially if breastfeeding, which she won’t be able to do for long as even if she can hold the baby (X) it won’t be for hours. Diaper changes 10x a day, messy runny shit that has to be wiped. Sometimes they’ll only sleep being held, or they have to be bounced to bed, or driven around. Moms all remember going a day or two with not enough time to even brush teeth or shower.

This is the time when she needs to pony up for a professional nanny. Her caregivers all seem to be some friend or friend-of-friend who don’t really have experience. She is going to be overwhelmed and they will too. Caring for a newborn is a hard job for everybody, and if this child ends up with problems, that’s multiplied.

And I can’t really blame her, none of us really understood exactly how hard it would be first time around but if she has people telling her this and is ignoring them, that’s just stupid. And not good “planning.”

Is her mother an alcoholic? I hope for the baby’s sake she’s not.

Yep. Babies literally have no circadian rhythm which is why they are up 24/7 for the first few months and sleep training shouldn't start until around 4 months of age.

Regarding the tubal thing, they do fail, so there's that.

 

[CaseyTatumm]

Alex showed some of the baby's clothes on IG stories. I hope she washed at least the clothes she's planning on using right after the baby is born before putting them into the dresser but I guess that's .
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Sorry I don't remember who brought up that her tubes should be tied up, but today Alex answered why she doesn't want to do that plus if she and Alex want to marry and if Noah is bi.
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“Identifies as straight”. So gay AF,

 

[SpiceyHuman]

Shit, one of mine is nearly 2 and still wakes up multiple times a night. Alex is totally delusional to think a baby will be on any sort of schedule. There is no such thing as "an evening" or "daytime" routine with a newborn.

As others have said, I truely hope she is one of those lucky women who are able to breastfeed easily. Breast feeding for the majority of women is hard as fuck. Even if it is easy for her, she needs to realize she will be either nursing or pumping for her baby for 20-30 minutes at a time, every 1 to 3 hours for the first couple months. This includes waking at night to nurse/pump. This isn't even taking into account random cluster feedings that can happen every 20 minutes.

Struggling with breast feeding can be a real emotional rollar coaster for a woman who is already dealing with post partum baby blues.
It can give you a real sense of failing as a mother. Multiply these feeling especially if your a first time mom. She has my sympathy. Shit is not going to be easy for her.

 

[AssignedEva]

Saw her on TikTok a few weeks after she announced the pregnancy, sent the video to a friend questioning this woman's future parenting skills and they said I'm encouraging eugenics.
The thing is, as many of you have pointed out, it's not eugenics to point out that some people just should not have kids.

Alex being a severely disabled alcoholic is one thing, Noah being an addict and borderline is another. They both should not breed, even if their partner was a stable, sane individual. I think Noah being bordeline has been overlooked in favour of the more.... obvious problems with their situation.

Spoiler: Sperg: BPD info

A lot of people call BPD the "crazy bitch disorder", since 75% of people diagnosed with BPD are women and the BPD loved ones subreddit is full of these scenarios. Important to note that men are just as likely to have BPD as women are, it's just less diagnosed in men.

It is, despite the jokes and stigma, a serious and sometimes chronic mental illness. Personality disorders can be helped through therapy, but a lot of the time people with BPD won't do therapy or will change therapists too often due to splitting for it to be effective. Let alone trying to find a therapist that will want to treat you, since the diagnosis alone makes caregivers avoid you like the plague.

Some symptoms and statistics:

• Plunging headfirst into relationships (pregnant after a short time?)
• A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones. (the assault charge on his own father, his mother calling the cops on her own son indicates she felt sufficiently threatened by this)
• A distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self. (speculation, but a lot of you have suggested he might be a closeted gay because of his OF, it might be his distorted sense of self.)
• Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating.
• Intense and highly variable moods, with episodes lasting from a few hours to a few days.
• Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger. (again, the assault on his dad. also: shaken baby syndrome is a very sad but very real possibility in someone with anger issues and lack of impulse control )
• Feelings of dissociation, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside one’s body, or feelings of unreality. (awful if you're the sole caretaker of a newborn child)

Why is this relevant?

Not only would BPD be the underlying cause for Noah being an unfit parent (substance abuse, fits of rage like the assault on his father, general emotional instability), but BPD isn't all just nurture or a trauma response. As mentionned in the OP, if you have a direct family member with BPD, you're up to 5x more likely to develop BPD in the future. Alex's disability might not be inheritable by her child, but chances are high that this kid will inherit BPD from dear old dad.

Very sad that this unborn child was dealt quite possibly one of the worst hands in life, and we're watching it all unfold in real time. It makes me so powerlessly MATI.

Disordered sleeping significantly impact the severity of some BPD symptoms such as impulsivity, paranoid ideation and emotional dysregulation, to the point that a recent longitudinal study in Nature suggested that BPD treatment programs should incorporate measures to address insomnia.

Although I suppose "depriving an emotionally unstable crazy person of sleep makes them more crazy and emotionally unstable" is a bit like saying "water is wet", but the point is while a screaming newborn constantly keeping you awake can make you a weepy, irrational angry mess, with BPDs it will have ten times the impact and they're already starting off Cuckoo Bananas.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Shit one of mine is nearly 2 and still wakes up multiple times a night. Alex is totally delusional to think a baby will be on any sort of schedule. There is no such thing as "an evening" or "daytime routine with a newborn.

As others have said, I truely hope she is one of those lucky women who are able to breastfeed easily. Breast feeding for the majority of women is hard as fuck. Even if it is easy for her, she needs to realize she will be either nursing or pumping for her baby for 20-30 minutes at a time, every 1 to 3 hours for the first couple months. This includes waking at night to nurse/pump. This isn't even taking into account random cluster feedings that can happen every 20 minutes.

Struggling with breast feeding can be a real emotional rollar coaster for a woman who is already dealing with post partum baby blues.
It can give you a real sense of failing as a mother. Multiply these feeling especially if your a first time mom. She has my sympathy. Shit is not going to be easy for her.

Can we stop with the "breastfeeding is hard as fuck for the majority of women" shit? It really isn't.

Some numbers?

About 82-83% of women who give birth attempt breastfeeding that child. So that's 17-18% we'll never know about. By 6 months, the numbers are down to about 55%. Assume that almost everyone with truly serious ("hard as fuck") issues has dropped by then or near then, plus a LOT more who just don't like it, have to work, did it as long as planned, supply diminished, don't want even minor inconvenience, want their boobs back, or whatever. Less the 17-18% who didn't attempt it, that's a total max of 27-28% who drop in the first 6 months for any reason whatsoever. However you slice it, that doesn't add up to "the majority of women" finding it "hard as fuck."

Maybe "a number of" women "struggle" with breastfeeding or to get it right (at least at first), or find that it is inconvenient, time-consuming, etc., but a) "struggle" is subjective, and b) there is ALWAYS more info out there about what might be/could go wrong, or building up minor difficulties into terror-inducing calamities, than about what doesn't/isn't.

Very glad there are resources, etc., but recognize that a disproportionate amount of energy and information is spent (generally speaking) on things that don't work well, don't work as expected, or don't work as is typical. And exaggerating a not-uncommon-but-also-not-universal-or-even-mostly situation to a generality, whether by extrapolation from a lived experience, gleaned from what is promoted/accepted in the name of trying not to make people feel bad, or based on facts and figures that lump minor adjustments with major struggles, helps no one (and tbh, encourages people to give up at the furst bump in the road; this was one of the early snowflake topics 20 years ago, even if arising out of sincere interest in improving support/info and normalizing that it may take some effort).

Jesus. Life comes with tears. Tears are not the same thing as true trials.

TL; DR: Sensitivity to common or unique challenges or issues is great, but there's no point in elevating all "issues" to "Issues." Having an adjustment period or questions or a learning curve does not make something "hard as fuck."

 

[SpiceyHuman]

Can we stop with the "breastfeeding is hard as fuck for the majority of women" shit? It really isn't.

Some numbers?

About 82-83% of women who give birth attempt breastfeeding that child. So that's 17-18% we'll never know about. By 6 months, the numbers are down to about 55%. Assume that almost everyone with truly serious ("hard as fuck") issues has dropped by then or near then, plus a LOT more who just don't like it, have to work, did it as long as planned, supply diminished, don't want even minor inconvenience, want their boobs back, or whatever. Less the 17-18% who didn't attempt it, that's a total max of 27-28% who drop in the first 6 months for any reason whatsoever. However you slice it, that doesn't add up to "the majority of women" finding it "hard as fuck."

Maybe "a number of" women "struggle" with breastfeeding or to get it right (at least at first), or find that it is inconvenient, time-consuming, etc., but a) "struggle" is subjective, and b) there is ALWAYS more info out there about what might be/could go wrong, or building up minor difficulties into terror-inducing calamities, than about what doesn't/isn't.

Very glad there are resources, etc., but recognize that a disproportionate amount of energy and information is spent (generally speaking) on things that don't work well, don't work as expected, or don't work as is typical. And exaggerating a not-uncommon-but-also-not-universal-or-even-mostly situation to a generality, whether by extrapolation from a lived experience, gleaned from what is promoted/accepted in the name of trying not to make people feel bad, or based on facts and figures that lump minor adjustments with major struggles, helps no one (and tbh, encourages people to give up at the furst bump in the road; this was one of the early snowflake topics 20 years ago, even if arising out of sincere interest in improving support/info and normalizing that it may take some effort).

Jesus. Life comes with tears. Tears are not the same thing as true trials.

TL; DR: Sensitivity to common or unique challenges or issues is great, but there's no point in elevating all "issues" to "Issues." Having an adjustment period or questions or a learning curve does not make something "hard as fuck."

Lol calm down

 

[Trifecta]

You can still use your eggs with tied tubes, they don't extract them via the tube lol.

You'd think Alex would understand that getting her tubes tied has no impact on surrogacy in the future given that she's listening so carefully to the advice of her specialized medical care team... oh wait.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Congrats to the women in this thread who have made breasts uninteresting. No one is a bad mom for chosing either option of their sanity or the benefits of breast milk. Both are valid choices, and the truth is it doesn't really matter.

 

[Jane Eyre]

Alex's C-section is scheduled for the 17th of March, St. Patrick's day.

On IG stories she talked about the extubation process. After the delivery Alex's team want to keep her sedated and intubated overnigh because they think she'll be in too much pain to breath on her own (because she mainly uses her stomach muscles for breathing and those will be affected by the C-section). But this made Alex concerned because it's a known fact that people with SMA should be sedated/intubated for as little time as possible so she advocated for herself.

So now the doctors are going to try to wake her up earlier than originally planned and they'll lighten the sedation right after the C-section. She gave her consent for them to take the tube out if she's breathing without too much abdominal pain, otherwise they'll sedate her again and try to extubate again the following morning. The doctors also said that they can give Alex a shot in the belly in order to block the pain. Alex also mentioned the risk of tracheotomy with sma/intubation but her pulmonologist thinks that unless some unforeseen complication happens, in her case it's very unlikely because she's doing so well. (I'm not a medfag so please forgive if I've gotten something wrong)


It looks like the baby's name will start with an A.

 

[A tree]

Noah has been strangely absent the last few days. Reddit found his finsta prompting yet more speculation.

 

[Oracular Slug]

Alex's C-section is scheduled for the 17th of March, St. Patrick's day.

Damn, if she goes that long my guess of 33 weeks is out. Did anyone call 35?

 

[Jimmy Dean Bowl]

Of course Alex knows better than the professionals who will be extubating her. Jeezus wept.

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

Of course Alex knows better than the professionals who will be extubating her. Jeezus wept.

advocating for herself as if none of them were aware of how SMA works and what a nightmare she will be to extubate. I hope they keep her tubed and awake for a while.

 

[LonesomeDud]

advocating for herself as if none of them were aware of how SMA works and what a nightmare she will be to extubate. I hope they keep her tubed and awake for a while.

I'm pretty sure most people at every level of medicine would want a tube out of a SMA patient ASAP, but yeah, if Alex needs to do thi

Lol, you don't want Alex tortured. It would just make her distracted from what should be her biggest focus: That baby's well-being and however she can contribute.

Of course Alex knows better than the professionals who will be extubating her. Jeezus wept.

I think a lot of doctors are nervous smilers and tend to be people pleasers, so she's had a number react in a way that Alex mistakes as appreciation or gratitude.

On the other hand, sometimes you learn things from the dumbest people.

Spoiler: my retarded joke amused me greatly and I feel like that woman from the Delicious Dish skits on SNL; please don't hate me

For example: You can remove a difficult to open lid by breaking the vacuum seal with a teaspoon. See?

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

I'm pretty sure most people at every level of medicine would want a tube out of a SMA patient ASAP,

I wouldn't. I would want to know she has a patent airway until I'm certain she doesn't need resp support, because retubing her would be another nightmare. They can have her awake, tubed, on minimal support (CPAP only) for an extra day if needed. She can get up in her chair and interact and do whatever else.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

All I can say is god help those drs and I’m sure every resident would be quaking in their boots at the whole idea of this.