A few observations on Aella's broken brain and it's understanding of relationships:
1). Psychedelics can permanently change personality, particularly by dramatically increasing the "Openness" trait. Even one psychedelic trip has been found to have a permanent affect in this area.
Articles:
Recreational use of psychedelics is associated with elevated personality trait openness: Exploration of associations with brain serotonin markers
Effects of psilocybin therapy on personality structure
Serotonergic psychedelics and personality: A systematic review of contemporary research
Whether or not you believe in the Big 5 as a useful typology for personality, psychedelics clearly have some impact on an individual's personality. We know that Aella didn't just take psychedelics once or twice, like in these surveys, but rather did
40 acid trips in 10 months (as mentioned in OP), I think it may be that she genuinely fried her brain so she doesn't quite understand what is a "normal" belief at all.
So she went from an intensely religious, sheltered upbringing straight into sex work and psychedelic use that even drug users found over the top. It's no wonder she has zero barometer of what normal is. This is a nice segue into the next point.
2.) I finally got around to reading Aella's piece on how escorting was good for her in the OP.
She begins by explaining she was in a poly relationship with a guy who wasn't really having much sex with her at all, but was bringing home and banging literally "dozens" of other women who were younger and prettier than her. He also straight up told her that he wasn't sexually attracted to her

and she grew to feel an intense self-loathing.
In contrast to this relationship, she found that escorting helped her have casual sex where "the meaningfulness of the choice of who I was banging was completely removed from me." Furthermore, she didn't have to worry about whether she was enjoying sex or not, and could just compartmentalize it.
So what she's comparing is 1) a relationship with a dude who says he's not attracted to her and bangs dozens of other hotter girls, and 2) having paid sex with strangers. She finds the latter wasn't as bad as the first. Both sound pretty nightmarish to me.
FFS, Aella. If only you'd given a normal relationship a chance instead of just polyamory and sex work. Relationships can actually be fun, you know, when you're not a paid prostitute or your partner isn't banging 20 other people.