I think the more obvious answer is she's lying for attention. I can't see a DCFS worker telling someone that they are there because the mom is "very very disabled". I have no doubt the visit happened, but it was likely routine and Alex is assuming that it was nefarious.
I think Alex isn't above lying, but I believe her.
She wouldn't make this up it doesn't fit her perfect little family narrative.
In Sweden there is a concept called "barnvagsbio", meaning that you can take the stroller to the cinema. It's more for the mom (parents), than for the baby ofc. I think it's great. It allows parents to get out of the house and sometimes you just can't/don't want to find a sitter. I probably wouldn't take my new born, but once the baby is a couple months (6 months). I probably would.
Many theaters in America have a special matinee on a certain day for little children and intellectually disabled people. If someone cries, it isn't a crisis. I think it's great.
Someone told him grey Jersey jogging pants make your dick look big and he's waiting patiently for it to work.
Quick, someone tell him being a loving dad & caring for your child will make his dick look big!
No, women figured that one out already. Now the girls know it's a warning sign you're hung like a hangnail.
Slight PL but even as someone who has had children previously, when my youngest was born prematurely I was horrified to hold him too. He was about same age as Ari, just a bit bigger. I can’t even imagine holding a little 4 pounder
Newborns in general are scary to hold. You can feel all of those little bones and how soft they are and they all just seem to float around inside their little bodies looking for an excuse to break.
She doesn't "need" social services. She can afford - if she wants to - to pay for the right kind of people to provide the care her child needs. Just bc she's cheaping out on that in order to color-coordinate baby clothes with the nursery doesn't mean she doesn't have the means. And if you can afford it, there's no reason to use overburdened social services and make everyone else pay for it. That said, expanding an adult caretaker's job to include newborn care is wrongheaded, to put it mildly.
Reddit doesn't have exclusive rights to pearl-clutching and moralizing. Plenty of that available everywhere, including here. But agree, there's a huge contingent of people who don't understand what is required in order to warrant state intervention (whether childcare monitiring/intervention or, in other contexts, criminal legal consequences) and think that every appalling situation means someone should be/is going to jail or should/will lose their child or be shut down, etc.
That was the first thing I thought of too. It's definitely not unheard of for medical staff to notify child services about the possible issues going on in regards to a newborn (even when completely unecessary). No normal person would look at these two and think ''yeah this'll work out fine''.
Child services will tell you what the complaintant said and the contents of the complaint, just not who filed it. For them to have come so quickly it was most likely multiple calls. When the call is unfounded they get relly butt hurt when people waste their time.
I think this might be right on. Another thing with BPD that doesn't always come up when it is mentioned is how intensely toxic BPD relationships can be when it comes to positive emotions. The sense of "love at first sight" and "this love is the strongest thing ever" is strong and can often result in love-bombing or not being able to see a relationship for what it is, especially in the beginning stages. It is entirely possible that from his standpoint, he fell for her hard and she got pregnant which is the most amazing thing ever!! But BPD is obviously also full of whiplash in regards to emotions and anything he may have been feeling at that point has likely changed.
