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- Feb 14, 2021
Absolutely no woman anywhere has ever (you cannot convince me otherwise) looked forward to going to a baby shower that isn’t her own. It’s all just social politeness and pretend.
This man being sad about not going to a baby shower just shows him as a male who doesn’t understand the female social world… and he is gross for wanting to use some woman’s pregnancy as a validation tool.
You know the guy is creepy af when even the men are hesitant to share a bathroom with him.
Mum is not happy that her attempted leftist indoctrination of her daughter has ultimately failed and her daughter sees right through the gender bullshit. I hope the daughter goes full blown Conservative and has lots of beautiful white children who she keeps far away from this groomer.
This man being sad about not going to a baby shower just shows him as a male who doesn’t understand the female social world… and he is gross for wanting to use some woman’s pregnancy as a validation tool.
You know the guy is creepy af when even the men are hesitant to share a bathroom with him.
Coworkers who are against me using women's restroom have effectively forced me to use it exclusively.
So this is a bit of a long story, but I'll keep it short as I can. I came out at work in early February this year, about 4 months after starting hrt when the effects were getting harder to hide. Two months after that, both of my supervisors quit and were replaced by two women who were immediately much more supportive and protective than the two guys before them. They pulled me aside and asked me what issues I was facing, and what they should be on the lookout for.
During this conversation, the topic of bathrooms came up, as it always does, and I let them know that, until I pass a lot more, for the comfort of the women on our team (and for my safety), I would be using the single person family restroom exclusively. They both made sure I was aware of company policy and state law saying I'm allowed to use the women's if I want. But I'm a people pleaser to a fault, and was looking out for coworkers who hated me over my own comfort. So i would only use the women's room if it were an emergency (spirolonactone is not nice to me) and the family bathroom was being cleaned.
Well, we quadrupled our team size since then, and most of the crew, both men and women, are uncomfortable with even the idea of being in the same restroom as me (as I found out from another coworker who's much more supportive when I commented how often the room is taken) and they have begun to use only the family restroom since management refuses to tell me to use the men's room. This, of course, has led to me having to only use the women's room because of how often it's taken, often even having a couple of people waiting on it.
Now, I'm completely desensitized to the anxiety of accidentally making coworkers uncomfortable with my existence and don't care anymore. Probably where I should have been from the start, but it's okay...
I don't know what I'm expecting out of this post, I guess I'm just amused about the whole ordeal and felt like sharing.
So this is a bit of a long story, but I'll keep it short as I can. I came out at work in early February this year, about 4 months after starting hrt when the effects were getting harder to hide. Two months after that, both of my supervisors quit and were replaced by two women who were immediately much more supportive and protective than the two guys before them. They pulled me aside and asked me what issues I was facing, and what they should be on the lookout for.
During this conversation, the topic of bathrooms came up, as it always does, and I let them know that, until I pass a lot more, for the comfort of the women on our team (and for my safety), I would be using the single person family restroom exclusively. They both made sure I was aware of company policy and state law saying I'm allowed to use the women's if I want. But I'm a people pleaser to a fault, and was looking out for coworkers who hated me over my own comfort. So i would only use the women's room if it were an emergency (spirolonactone is not nice to me) and the family bathroom was being cleaned.
Well, we quadrupled our team size since then, and most of the crew, both men and women, are uncomfortable with even the idea of being in the same restroom as me (as I found out from another coworker who's much more supportive when I commented how often the room is taken) and they have begun to use only the family restroom since management refuses to tell me to use the men's room. This, of course, has led to me having to only use the women's room because of how often it's taken, often even having a couple of people waiting on it.
Now, I'm completely desensitized to the anxiety of accidentally making coworkers uncomfortable with my existence and don't care anymore. Probably where I should have been from the start, but it's okay...
I don't know what I'm expecting out of this post, I guess I'm just amused about the whole ordeal and felt like sharing.
Mum is not happy that her attempted leftist indoctrination of her daughter has ultimately failed and her daughter sees right through the gender bullshit. I hope the daughter goes full blown Conservative and has lots of beautiful white children who she keeps far away from this groomer.
I'm AFAB NB. On trans day of visibility, I'm invisible in my family. I told my daughter a couple of years ago but she was put off so I've never brought it up again.
Today out of the blue, she said "if I have kids you'd better not talk about transgender issues to them." I hadn't been talking about it to her! But she knows my position bc of public advocacy.
I'm a leftist who thought I taught her inclusiveness as a kid. I mean it was important. And I have lived my example. But somehow she's become a center right Democrat who has bought into this moral panic about trans teens. So I clearly didn't do a good job... meaning her rejection of my gender is probably my fault. I feel ashamed. I either talked about my opinions too much or not enough.
I know from experience arguing/ giving facts just pisses her off. I didn't know what to say. I just cried when I got off the phone. Obviously I will affirm whatever my potential future grandchildren tell me about themselves. But my failure to pass on my values could affect other people, not just me.
I know I'm not the only one with this problem. What is the best thing to do?
Today out of the blue, she said "if I have kids you'd better not talk about transgender issues to them." I hadn't been talking about it to her! But she knows my position bc of public advocacy.
I'm a leftist who thought I taught her inclusiveness as a kid. I mean it was important. And I have lived my example. But somehow she's become a center right Democrat who has bought into this moral panic about trans teens. So I clearly didn't do a good job... meaning her rejection of my gender is probably my fault. I feel ashamed. I either talked about my opinions too much or not enough.
I know from experience arguing/ giving facts just pisses her off. I didn't know what to say. I just cried when I got off the phone. Obviously I will affirm whatever my potential future grandchildren tell me about themselves. But my failure to pass on my values could affect other people, not just me.
I know I'm not the only one with this problem. What is the best thing to do?
identity as that if you want!!!! 
