Trans man goes viral after getting emotional about the ‘loneliness’ of life after gender transition - Health conscious feminists can now drink male tears lite.

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Trans man goes viral after getting emotional about the ‘loneliness’ of life after gender transition

'I also now understand why the suicide rate is so much higher in men, because this s--- is lonely!' Barnes claimed on Instagram

By Gabriel Hays

A biological female turned trans man went viral this week after posting an emotional video about the loneliness of being a man.

"Nobody told me how lonely being a man is," the influencer claimed in the two-minute video discussing having more friends when identifying as a woman.

The subject also discussed why the male suicide rate is higher than in women.

The video was first published to Instagram by James Barnes, a motivational speaker, stress management coach, and social media influencer who claimed to have transitioned from being a woman to a man eight years ago.

Barnes, who goes by "thetranscoach" on the platform, opened up about the struggles of living as a man in the clip that was shared Thursday.

Specifically, the user lamented that life as a man is much lonelier than life as a woman.

The clip opened with Barnes, sporting a beard and wearing a white baseball cap, declaring, "Nobody told me how lonely being a man is." The user then noted how, as a woman, it was much easier connecting to other people in general.

Shedding tears, Barnes said, "I have had closer relationships with random women I met in the bathroom before I transitioned at clubs because of how open women are, than I’ve had in my eight years of transitioning because women are just so much more vulnerable and deep than men."

The speaker noted that trans men have the unique experience of this dramatic shift after they’ve transitioned, stating, "But to have known, and I think a lot of trans men feel this, is we knew what that depth felt like before we transitioned. We knew what it felt like to like have people want to hug us and to have people want to talk to us and have a community."

Voice breaking, the influencer continued, "And then you transition and you’re just a guy walking down the street that people cross the street so that they’re not near you."

Barnes also voiced his realization that as a man "friendships are so much harder to build. And people are colder."

Additionally, the speaker admitted they could now see more clearly why the suicide rate for men is "higher," though Barnes noted that it doesn’t negate the complaints the rest of society has about straight white males.

"And what’s hard is, none of this invalidates how real and raw women and people who are in marginalized groups feels about cis white men, all of that’s valid. But I also now understand why the suicide rate is so much higher in men, because this s--- is lonely!"

Barnes then urged viewers to reach out to men in their communities and "help them maybe be seen for a moment."

Prominent conservative Twitter account "Libs of TikTok" shared the clip to her Twitter page on Friday, where it acquired more than 15 million views in less than 24 hours.

Libs of TikTok captioned the post, writing, "This is really sad. Trans man realizes how hard it is to be a man when you’re really a woman. Males and females are different and no matter what you do to your body, you can’t be the opposite sex."

 

[Overly Serious]

"And what’s hard is, none of this invalidates how real and raw women and people who are in marginalized groups feels about cis white men, all of that’s valid.

And just like that my sympathy for her begins a sharp downwards slope.

It was your idea that men are some privileged group you wanted to belong to that got you into this. Stop slagging us off. Any one of us could have told her men get less sympathy and support in society.

 

[AnOminous]

"Trans man goes viral after getting AIDS" was what I was expecting to see when I checked into this ridiculous thread.

 

[Sugriva]

And males totally love loneliness, they never turn into murderous incels or anything.

I genuinely do. I'm alone, but I'm not lonely. I just want to be left in peace so I can do the shit that interests me.

When men cry, they cry for themselves, usually because of conditions they create/control and don't have the balls to change. And to get women to comfort sex them. #notallmen, I assume, but faith is wavering. Prove me wrong (rhetorical).

No. When a man cries it's because he's a faggot. Simple as.

 

[Fareal]

I genuinely cannot understand how someone can be born female, raised female, and apparently never have fucking noticed that women are drastically more reserved and avoidant in social interactions with men than with other women.

I mean, I genuinely can't understand how you got to adulthood as a woman and failed to fucking notice how you and every woman around you behaved. She even brings up "they cross the street to avoid me". Yeah, you knew that happened, because women do that from they are children. You Avoid Strange Men. ffs, I don't even speak to men IRL unless there is absolutely no alternative. I certainly do not fucking befriend them in a bathroom I mean what the fuck is she thinking?

Did she like fucking forget all her girl rules when she took the tranny juice?

 

[The Ugly One]

When men cry, they cry for themselves, usually because of conditions they create/control and don't have the balls to change.

Women literally think men can make the family dog immortal and that we don't because we don't have enough courage.

I genuinely cannot understand how someone can be born female, raised female, and apparently never have fucking noticed that women are drastically more reserved and avoidant in social interactions with men than with other women.

I mean, I genuinely can't understand how you got to adulthood as a woman and failed to fucking notice how you and every woman around you behaved. She even brings up "they cross the street to avoid me". Yeah, you knew that happened, because women do that from they are children. You Avoid Strange Men. ffs, I don't even speak to men IRL unless there is absolutely no alternative. I certainly do not fucking befriend them in a bathroom I mean what the fuck is she thinking?

Did she like fucking forget all her girl rules when she took the tranny juice?

It's not that she forgot or never noticed. It's that she, like most women, has a bad case of Main Character Syndrome. Everything's supposed to be different for than it is for a real man, because she's supposed to have plot armor.

 

[Clem Fandango]

And males totally love loneliness, they never turn into murderous incels or anything.

I think on some base level most guys do like being alone, but with one caveat - that they're choosing to be alone.

Being forced to be alone all the time would obviously suck after a while. But I've got a wife and kid, and lemme tell you, all I want for father's day this year is a thick cut steak, a nice bottle of whisky and to be left alone just for one afternoon goddammit.

 

[God of Nothing]

I think on some base level most guys do like being alone, but with one caveat - that they're choosing to be alone.

Being forced to be alone all the time would obviously suck after a while. But I've got a wife and kid, and lemme tell you, all I want for father's day this year is a thick cut steak, a nice bottle of whisky and to be left alone just for one afternoon goddammit.

You will hear your wife complain about whatever it is she complains about.
You will be there to take the child wherever they want to go.
Everything you own will be theirs, and you will be happy.

 

[FierceBrosnan]

Women literally think men can make the family dog immortal and that we don't because we don't have enough courage.



It's not that she forgot or never noticed. It's that she, like most women, has a bad case of Main Character Syndrome. Everything's supposed to be different for than it is for a real man, because she's supposed to have plot armor.

I gaurantee you she is one of those types that has no inner monologue.

 

[CYKA RUSH B]

This is fucking stupid. Over a decade ago some radical feminist mannish-looking lesbianic journalist lady went undercover as a dude and joined a mens' bowling league for a year and a half, with the goal of exposing male privilege and how much easier men have it. Well, the results were not what she expected. Interesting insights and basically went against feminists saying men get a bad rap and that men deal with a lot of shit women aren't even aware of.

She tried to approach women in a dating context as a man and the seething hostility and vitriol she got as an ugly dude (of course, she's a woman in disguise) apparently filled her with hate for women, which as you can imagine is a problem if you're a lesbian. Apparently it got so bad she had to cut the experiment short and needed therapy when all was said and done.

The video:

She wrote a book (haven't read it) - attached the PDF


I learned in trying to find the video i learned she killed herself via medical professional this year, not sure why but the various tweets are saying its due to the mental issues she got doing this experiment.



Meanwhile with Mrx (xim/xam) Zippertits here, she experiences all the disadvantages of being a man while being just as insufferable as a woman. Fucking amazing, lives as a man irreversibly for years and yet has none of the insight this lesbo journalist had. I guess you can't expect much nowadays.

women are just so much more vulnerable and deep than men."

yeah ok bro, women are so deep. tell me more about makeup, alcohol and HPV

We knew what it felt like to like have people want to hug us and to have people want to talk to us and have a community."

lol, in reading some incel (non-prejorative) discussions, there are men who go YEARS with no physical touch. tragic and kind of horrible when you think about it.......

And people are colder."

.... yes true.....

Barnes noted that it doesn’t negate the complaints the rest of society has about straight white males.

..... and of course you're going to shit on men and perpetuate that which fuels this total alienation a generation of men are feeling.


Women can be so fucking dumb it's actually impressive sometimes. I guess theres a reason unmasculine men are scorned and seen as pathetic, and it is perfectly encapsulated by this woman larping as a man.

Reading this shitty article has made me appreciate some women i know in my life who are actually based.

 

[God of Nothing]

lol, in reading some incel (non-prejorative) discussions, there are men who go YEARS with no physical touch. tragic and kind of horrible when you think about it.......

The Forty Year Old Virgin used to be a comedy, but it's just a documentary now.

 

[IKOL]

Cry me a rainbow river while hanging by yer legs at the existential abyss.
In other words, Cobain yourself you utter disgrace of human race, nobody will mourn you, it was your choice so either b

 

[AnOminous]

I think on some base level most guys do like being alone, but with one caveat - that they're choosing to be alone.

That's sort of the difference between being alone and being lonely.

The first is necessary to maintain your sanity, but the second erodes your sanity.

 

[Lord of the Large Pants]

lol, in reading some incel (non-prejorative) discussions, there are men who go YEARS with no physical touch. tragic and kind of horrible when you think about it.......

I think people really underestimate this one.

Back in the day when scientists could perform wildly unethical animal experiments without PETA doing an eco-terrorism on them, there was a guy named Harry Harlow. He did a number of studies on social isolation in monkeys. They're all rather interesting, and anyone who wants to shit on incels should read about them first, but I'm just going to highlight one.

This study is usually referred to either as "The Nature of Love" or "The Cloth Mother and the Wire Mother". I'm going to oversimplify for brevity. What they did was they made two fake monkey mother figures. The first one was made with uncomfortable bare wire, but held food. The other had no food, but was covered with soft cloth. The monkeys almost exclusively bonded to the cloth mother. Touch was THAT important to them, to the point where it was even prioritized over food. And that's just monkeys. Imagine that in a smarter species like humans.

This isn't exclusively or even primarily about sex. There are people out there, mostly (but not only) men, who haven't even had a hug or held hands in years. Decades. Maybe ever. It won't KILL you, not directly at least. But it fucks you up in ways I genuinely don't think most people have the capacity to understand.

... I assume.

 

[HackerX]

It is. We call each other names every so often. This is how males get along.

Or saying they are black, not hwite, etc.

Hey, guys can talk in the bathroom too! There just needs to be cocaine.

Women have full blown conversations with people they never met in the bathroom.

Men have one-liners like "You come here often?"

And males totally love loneliness, they never turn into murderous incels or anything.

But the fellas do be needin' a break to recharge. Can't be going to 3-4 different events going on every day. Have to establish that standard early.

 

[CYKA RUSH B]

I think people really underestimate this one.

Back in the day when scientists could perform wildly unethical animal experiments without PETA doing an eco-terrorism on them, there was a guy named Harry Harlow. He did a number of studies on social isolation in monkeys. They're all rather interesting, and anyone who wants to shit on incels should read about them first, but I'm just going to highlight one.

This study is usually referred to either as "The Nature of Love" or "The Cloth Mother and the Wire Mother". I'm going to oversimplify for brevity. What they did was they made two fake monkey mother figures. The first one was made with uncomfortable bare wire, but held food. The other had no food, but was covered with soft cloth. The monkeys almost exclusively bonded to the cloth mother. Touch was THAT important to them, to the point where it was even prioritized over food. And that's just monkeys. Imagine that in a smarter species like humans.

This isn't exclusively or even primarily about sex. There are people out there, mostly (but not only) men, who haven't even had a hug or held hands in years. Decades. Maybe ever. It won't KILL you, not directly at least. But it fucks you up in ways I genuinely don't think most people have the capacity to understand.

... I assume.

thanks for the info, i'll add it to the ever-increasing list of rabbit holes i have queued up.

Stram of consciousness but I think you helped me resolve a bit of a chicken/egg problem.

A lot of hushed talk about men dropping out of society, perpetually underemployed etc. I think a lot of that stems from this. No human touch at all which means no truly close relationships, so you're totally alone, despite whatever superficial relationships you have like work convos, minor social interaction paying for gas or whatever, hanging with your bros. Eventually you feel increasonly alienated from society - these aren't your people, you might as well not exist, and why care about society if you're not part of it. At that point it becomes very easy to internalize what would have just been an intellectual framework whereby you totally drop out of society. That leads to either being a total hermit, scrape by and amuse yourself with whaetever hobby or field of study interests you or slow decline in to liver failure or drug addiction and ultimately early death.

I suspect most of us have been in this headspace at one time or another but now a plurality of people are living in it 24x7. Society as a whole loses and net misery increases, but talk about any of this with a normalfaggette woman and i'm sure you'll just get the braying small dick™/ mommy basement™/virgin loser™ response.

So, pretty clear to me that no touch satisfying the physical and psychological need for intimate connection directly leads to people removing themselves from society.

This is a very different problem than a lot of women experience when they are older, though the outcomes for a lot of women are just as negative with the massive antidepressant use and alcoholism.

 

[Cool Dog Returns]

Null already said Beauty Parlor is Womens only. But conversely, if the Beauty Parlor crowd decides to wander into A&H and start shitting up the place. The mods will protect them.

So I've come to the conclusion that the rest of the site are a bunch of simps.

Misandry runs so deep that even in antitroony places people are more kind to zippertit troons than crotchrot troons

[Now, since we've both insulted each other, we going out for a beer? ]

Ew a faggot!

They'll just switch.

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WGFD, no exceptions!

The Forty Year Old Virgin used to be a comedy, but it's just a documentary now.

The joke is that a bunch of normalfags decide to help him instead of just letting him rope and not even finding out what happened even after the cops find his rotten desiccated body only because the niggers next door complained about the smell

Thats what actually happens

I think people really underestimate this one.

Back in the day when scientists could perform wildly unethical animal experiments without PETA doing an eco-terrorism on them, there was a guy named Harry Harlow. He did a number of studies on social isolation in monkeys. They're all rather interesting, and anyone who wants to shit on incels should read about them first, but I'm just going to highlight one.

This study is usually referred to either as "The Nature of Love" or "The Cloth Mother and the Wire Mother". I'm going to oversimplify for brevity. What they did was they made two fake monkey mother figures. The first one was made with uncomfortable bare wire, but held food. The other had no food, but was covered with soft cloth. The monkeys almost exclusively bonded to the cloth mother. Touch was THAT important to them, to the point where it was even prioritized over food. And that's just monkeys. Imagine that in a smarter species like humans.

This isn't exclusively or even primarily about sex. There are people out there, mostly (but not only) men, who haven't even had a hug or held hands in years. Decades. Maybe ever. It won't KILL you, not directly at least. But it fucks you up in ways I genuinely don't think most people have the capacity to understand.

... I assume.

Check the "pit of despair", its basically what being a man making min wage and living in a bughive is like, double that if you were born in a third world country where the women are even more materialistic, the wages more miserable and the bughives truly hive-like

 

[stupid frog]

This isn't exclusively or even primarily about sex. There are people out there, mostly (but not only) men, who haven't even had a hug or held hands in years. Decades. Maybe ever. It won't KILL you, not directly at least. But it fucks you up in ways I genuinely don't think most people have the capacity to understand.

Babies can fucking die, apparently, from being touch starved. It undoubtedly effects all adults, just we have more ways to cope.

Here's a whatever article, linking to a NYT paywall which probably has better info, but meh. It will give anyone interested an idea what to search for

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/born-love/201003/touching-empathy

 

[YouGuysAren'tThatSmart]

Is her astrological sign the reason she's crying like faggot?

 

[Xarpho's Return]

I'm going to treat this exchange as male banter for the purpose of this observation. no idea if it actually is or not because

Observing from the outside as a female. It's easy to see how she might have had a lot of fun viewing that sort of interaction, It's funny, and it's clear to see the camaraderie between the two men as it occurs.

But watching that interaction and enjoying it are very different from actually experiencing it. And if you're used to female socialization, you're not going to have fun being in the middle of that exchange, but if you lack self-awareness to the point where you're willing to poon troon out you're not going to realize that.

That's assuming basic research was even done. MtFs don't realize that looking like a football linebacker intimidates women, FtMs don't realize that being shorter than everyone else without any endearing qualities makes you a walking joke.

A PSA for all you would-be FtMs out there:
Ladies, if you're going to transition, give Self-Made Man a once-over so you don't break into tears like this weird-looking degenerate about "no one told me being a man is soul-crushing, waaaaa".

 

[Omen_Sulk]

Check the "pit of despair",