Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

[PandaChai]

And another one to the pile. This girl was one of my best friends in secondary school and now she's a pale ghost of herself, like the colour drained out of her when she switched up her pronouns. It doesn't help that her wife is a domineering control freak.

 

[SilverRoseChariot]

So my cousin identifies as non binary now, I'm praying it doesn't escalate any further. He is gay, has that stereotypical voice that gay men seem to get, he was always open about it too and very pro. He made being gay his entire identity and became a huge SJW over time, probably because of tumblr. I used to be close with him, he was like my older brother. I just noticed he changed his pronouns on his instagram account to they/them. He grew his hair out long and grew this ugly mustache.

He has a drawing of himself wearing them in these spacebuns, which looks stupid. I looked at his graduation picture the other day and the troon radar went off in my head, just something seemed different and I guess I was right. I just hope he doesn't come out as a transwoman and I hope to god he doesn't influence our younger cousins or his nephews. He can do what he wants, it's just sad. He's been a jerk for a while so most of my sympathy is gone but still, it would be awful if he ever takes horomones and gets surgeries. I'm done trying to be this guy's friend though, he's hurt me a lot in the past. He can be trans or whatever but he'd better not talk about it around our younger cousins, they're already probably going to be aware of this stuff and I don't want them to be influenced into thinking they are trans because they like playing soccer or like the colour pink or something stupid like that.

I'm just surprised since he was always so proud of being gay. I mean that was his whole thing, like it was his whole personality, so I'm surprised he'd drop that label so easily. I mean he'll probably still say he is gay. I know it is just on his social media for now and in the way he dresses and looks, but it's only a matter of time I think.

 

[PandaChai]

I'm just surprised since he was always so proud of being gay. I mean that was his whole thing, like it was his whole personality...

As someone with experience with that kind of person, what you've said right there is the entire problem. He didn't have a personality beyond "I liek dick", so anything with a stronger "force" (for lack of a better word) than that can easily take over such a flimsy replacement for an actual personality. Long hair and a moustache is the shtick of Jonathan Van Ness of Queer Eye fame, hopefully your cousin doesn't also imitate the HIV infection too.

Edit: Also I can't heart sticker on mobile so please interpret my as a

 

[Procrastinhater]

As someone with experience with that kind of person, what you've said right there is the entire problem. He didn't have a personality beyond "I liek dick", so anything with a stronger "force" (for lack of a better word) than that can easily take over such a flimsy replacement for an actual personality. Long hair and a moustache is the shtick of Jonathan Van Ness of Queer Eye fame, hopefully your cousin doesn't also imitate the HIV infection too.

Edit: Also I can't heart sticker on mobile so please interpret my as a

You can use other stickers on mobile its just not easy, you need reactions like a Gunslinger.

I do not negrate with my thumb,
He who negrates with his thumb has forgotten the face of his father.
I negrate with my Spite.

I do not updoot with my hand,
He who updoots with his hand has forgotten the face of his father
I updoot with my Heart.

 

[SilverRoseChariot]

As someone with experience with that kind of person, what you've said right there is the entire problem. He didn't have a personality beyond "I liek dick", so anything with a stronger "force" (for lack of a better word) than that can easily take over such a flimsy replacement for an actual personality. Long hair and a moustache is the shtick of Jonathan Van Ness of Queer Eye fame, hopefully your cousin doesn't also imitate the HIV infection too.

Edit: Also I can't heart sticker on mobile so please interpret my as a

Yeah, that sounds like what he's trying to do probably. I shouldn't be too surprised all things considered, he once tried to convince me to refer to a stray kitten as a "they/them" because I didn't know what gender it was (It was a male and my family kept him) Anyway, it always annoyed me that my cousin made being gay his entire thing, it must be too boring now that no one cares about it as much. I wouldn't be surprised if he got HIV honestly. Hopefully he just stays as one of those people who say they identify as nonbinary and that's it. It's a shame, he and I always used to get along until he started using tumblr all the time.

 

[King Dead]

So on a whim, I decided to look up the name of an old artist I knew way back when. I'm talking like 20 something years ago, ancient in internet terms. I find enough to locate a DA profile, though I could feel my heart sink when I saw that he was now using a female character and referring to himself as a she. "Oh God, no, not another one," I thought to myself, especially saddened that it was someone that I had looked up to a long time ago.

Nevertheless, I continued looking through the profile just to confirm, and eventually I found the truth: he had never actually been a man after all. Yes, all the time I knew him, he was actually a girl pretending to be a man to avoid the general perils of being a girl on the internet, and only felt comfortable coming out years later. After listening to a voice clip and not hearing some laughable AGP Kermit voice, that pretty much confirmed it, and I felt so relieved. It was kind of innocent in a way, a reminder of a time when everyone lied about who they were online and didn't volunteer every single personal detail of their lives.

Just a moment of levity in this otherwise depressing thread. Sadly, none of the actual troons I know have gotten any better.

 

[Ghostie with the Mostie]

I've mentioned in this thread before about my boyfriend's brother's tranny boyfriend (AFAB) that also pretends to be a toddler and a dog. My partner and i maintained a good relationship with his brother despite this until last week. We were at his parent's house for a meal and the brother decides to bring his tranny boyfriend down to eat with us in facetime (weird, I know but they're in a different country). The troon doesn't know I'm there until my boyfriend mentions my name. The troon asks to see me on facetime and says 'Hey Ghostie, you know i love your SM posts, but I hate the fact you like Marilyn Manson'.

Literally how it happened, so out the blue. For context, I listen to MM but that's about it, not that it should matter because music is music. I try laugh it off and change the subject because I cba for an argument but the troon won't drop it. I try to ignore them until I hear the words 'Nazi Sympathiser' come out their mouth. I was shocked because what has that got to do with liking a musical artist? I called them a bitch (lol) and then I got the 'fuck you, you bitch ass hoe' (if you're imagining Rasputia from Norbit at this point, that's basically a dead on comparision) to the point the brother had to take the angry troon to a different room.

I wouldn't care but now the brother has blocked me and my boyfriend on troons orders. I just feel bad and sick to my stomach at what they're doing to him. They're isolating him from his family, since his other siblings and parents are so fed up with it. We hung out without him later on (since everywhere he goes, troon on facetime goes) and had a great time, and i couldn't help but feel so angry at what they've done to his family relationships.

 

[NerdShamer]

but I hate the fact you like Marilyn Manson

Honestly, this is an very weird thing for an tranny to hate, considering how most of the people who hated him were the fundies.

 

[The Skeksis Emperor]

I try to ignore them until I hear the words 'Nazi Sympathiser' come out their mouth. I was shocked because what has that got to do with liking a musical artist? I called them a bitch (lol) and then I got the 'fuck you, you bitch ass hoe' (if you're imagining Rasputia from Norbit at this point, that's basically a dead on comparision) to the point the brother had to take the angry troon to a different room.

Leave it to troons to ruin every social gathering. This one is pretty extreme though, I guess miss manly man was on her period or something.

I'm glad to hear your boyfriend's family is not accepting this though, if they stay united maybe your boyfriend's brother will question some things soon. Is this his first serious relationship?

 

[Exister]

that also pretends to be a toddler and a dog.

If his family is gonna tolerate this retarded motherfucker pretending to be at the dinner table on facetime it is 100% their fault he grew up to be the kinda guy to long distance date a tranny. Either you made this story up or his family is from a city

 

[Ghostie with the Mostie]

Leave it to troons to ruin every social gathering. This one is pretty extreme though, I guess miss manly man was on her period or something.

I'm glad to hear your boyfriend's family is not accepting this though, if they stay united maybe your boyfriend's brother will question some things soon. Is this his first serious relationship?

Yeah, this was pretty extreme. They came to stay over xmas and I only visited once out of obligations, and they basically got into screaming matches with every one of my boyfriend's family. I could honestly write a BOOK about this nutcase. Probably deserves their own thread!

Literally looks like Rasputia from Norbit except they (no joke) have shaved their head and dyed the stubble and their eyebrows bright green. They look like the grinch. Their instagram is full of them calling themselves a handsome man with pics with their boobs out. It's WILD.

The first interaction I had with them is when they added me to a gc, pretending to be a toddler, and introduced me to their 'stuffies'.

The thing is, my other half's parents are extremely sweet and accepting. They even tolerated their abbhorrent behaviour over xmas as them coming to stay made my brother in law happy. They wouldn't ever tell my boyfriend's brother to break up with troon as it makes them happy. They never even said anything against them until this happened, where they were totally supportive to me and comforted me as i found it very very awkward.

He has autism (newly diagnosed) and ever since they've been with the troon, they have dialled it up to 11, starting to put things on so to speak. He never used to have issues in social situations but now he acts like a dick and claims anxiety. He's moving to Murica to attend uni and be with his troon boyf so he'll be out of our hair. I doubt he'll ever question it, he does what he's told. When I first dated my boyfriend we were close to him as he was getting bullied and was a sweet kid. Now he's just a shell of himself. It's really sad.

If his family is gonna tolerate this retarded motherfucker pretending to be at the dinner table on facetime it is 100% their fault he grew up to be the kinda guy to long distance date a tranny. Either you made this story up or his family is from a city

I fucking WISH I made this up. It's tearing my boyfriend's family apart. They're overly accepting is the issue. my family wouldn't have this shit at all. TBH I do blame them slightly as he should have been given a shake at the start to wake him up and realise dating someone like this is NOT normal.

My boyfriend struggles with it since he's basically lost his brother, but we can't express that otherwise we're transphobic

 

[The Skeksis Emperor]

He has autism (newly diagnosed) and ever since they've been with the troon, they have dialled it up to 11, starting to put things on so to speak. He never used to have issues in social situations but now he acts like a dick and claims anxiety.

Another case of autism + Internet + horniness and desperation, almost stereotypical. I'm sorry to hear that, and I don't see him going to the US ending well. The parents sound a bit naive, unfortunately many are in that generation and it's a no win situation for them. All you can do is try to be happy yourself and accept the things you cannot change. He might come back from this as he faces the full abuse of this nutcase he decided to date, or he might not.

Their instagram is full of them calling themselves a handsome man with pics with their boobs out. It's WILD.

Tranny Sideshow thread is always open, just in case (but don't dox yourself).

 

[Ghostie with the Mostie]

Another case of autism + Internet + horniness and desperation, almost stereotypical. I'm sorry to hear that, and I don't see him going to the US ending well.

Neither do I. it's sad as he's just started making friends over here too. Him and my boyfriend used to be very close, but now are worlds apart.

His parents are lovely but yes, very very naive. I think it's because their parents were very judgy, and therefore have tried to be the opposite, leading them to accepting too much. His mum is defo more over it than the dad though - she looks so drained every time I go over there bless her.

Honestly if I had seen someone else post this I would have thought this was total horseshit, but it's unfortunately very real. I just don't understand how anyone can raise a child that turns out to be as much as a mess as the troon is.

 

[Flexo]

if you're imagining Rasputia from Norbit at this point,

Forget Marylin Manson, you should be shamed for having watched Norbit!

(see current PFP)

 

[Diamond Homonculus]

Had a younger male family member troon out. Luckily they weren't that close or blood related but it's kinda weird cause the last time I saw this kid he was just an 8 year old little autist. Now I hear he has fully trooned out is addicted to opiates and is a troon prostitute living on the streets.

It's just so sureal. Though I will say he probably would have just ended up on here anyway cause he was proper aspie.

 

[Black ContraPoints]

I posted forever ago when my shithead sister ruined a family holiday by announcing she was an Aiden, and caused the event to devolve into a huge fight. My based grandmother was the only one calm enough to tell her 'No, I'm not doing that' when my sister blindsided everyone and suddenly wanted to be called the stupid name she picked. I wasn't there because of work but my grandmother told me all about it later.

So back in May I took my grandmother out for Mother's Day lunch, and she asked if I would be coming to the bigger Mother's Day celebration the next day. I asked if my sister would be there and my grandmother reluctantly told me yes. I asked if my sister dropped the tranny shit and apparently no, she upped the ante because she's taking testosterone shots and is hoping her enablers will help get her titties lopped off, since everyone on this side of the family doesn't support her shit and is very uncomfortable with it. I didn't even need to say that I wouldn't be attending. Grandmother was disappointed I wouldn't be there but she understood.

I never particularly got along with this sister, she was always such a whiny, immature, selfish, lazy slob, and it was like every time I saw her she would just devolve. She's in her twenties but each time she was somehow even more immature, looked even more ridiculous with her dyed hair and emo teen clothes, she'd weigh even more, and it was harder to talk to her because she wasn't interested in anything other than her weird furry or fujo or childish ass shit. So I'm not crying myself to sleep that I'll probably never see or talk to her again, but there is an instinctual ache that I can't help but feel.

Though the last time I saw her was before the holiday I missed, and I was about to beat the shit out of her at a funeral, so I doubt she's too heartbroken about it.

 

[Flexo]

I was about to beat the shit out of her at a funeral,

Was it your grandma's funeral?

You should have done it in lieu of flowers. Grandma would have appreciated it.

(Your grandma sounds awesome though.)

 

[Black ContraPoints]

Was it your grandma's funeral?

You should have done it in lieu of flowers. Grandma would have appreciated it.

(Your grandma sounds awesome though.)

Close. It was my great-grandmother. A great lady as well.

Spoiler: Funeral Story

My sister bought a friend of hers to the funeral, like it was a party, and there was a point where, I shit you not, they were giggling over their phones while the priest was doing the eulogy. While I wanted to get up and beat her ass, I was hunched over in the pew, crying like I hadn't done in years. So the family goes to a nice restaurant after, and my sister starts begging my grandmother to give her a ride to her friends for a sleepover. Again, she's in her twenties. My grandmother, who just buried her fucking mother, says no, and my sister starts begging her. Everyone is sad and she's only thinking of herself. So I gestured for her to come over to me, and told her that if she didn't knock it off I was beating the fuck out of her in front of the family. She then pouted and cried about how mean I am. She didn't cry over our great grandmother, but for herself. Narcissistic little bitch. No one really said anything at the time, but my Uncle was smiling and my grandmother thanked me that night for shutting my sister up.

My grandmother is the absolute world to me. Apparently she just calls my sister by her name, and even the family member's who took my sister's side in the big holiday fight don't say shit to her about it, and my sister just takes it. Grandma meant what she said.

 

[Sissyagamben]

another young woman I know took the troonshine... le sigh...

I knew her when I was a retarded 14 year old on tumblr obsessing over tv shows and rock bands, and we shared a lot of common interests. She's my age and we coincidentally moved to the same city for uni and hung out a few times. She's by no means a close friend or anything, but still we've been internet frens for a very long time. She's very autistic (actually autistic, not just weird, but struggle with socialization n shiet) and not very attractive. She's straight. I knew she always said she's queer or whatnot back on tumblr, but I thought that's just that, every mentally retarded girl on tumblr had said they were bisexual at least once. They city we are in is super woke rainbow gay homo, and a while back I saw her change her pronouns to he/they or they/he. I think 2 months ago or so she posted that she's on Testosterone. RIP man, I don't know if she's going to get the tits chop or not, but I've heard doctors here will suggest it to you unprompted when you get the T. I think she's hanging around a lot of "queer" people here, not even gay homos, mostly trannies and poons. That's probably why.

Man, she's super intelligent and high achieving, went to a top university and such, it's such a shame she fucked her shit up. She's from a broken home and I imagine this must also be such a "fuck you mom and dad" thing.

 

[LaughJoke2.0]

I've mentioned in this thread before about my boyfriend's brother's tranny boyfriend (AFAB) that also pretends to be a toddler and a dog. My partner and i maintained a good relationship with his brother despite this until last week. We were at his parent's house for a meal and the brother decides to bring his tranny boyfriend down to eat with us in facetime (weird, I know but they're in a different country). The troon doesn't know I'm there until my boyfriend mentions my name. The troon asks to see me on facetime and says 'Hey Ghostie, you know i love your SM posts, but I hate the fact you like Marilyn Manson'.

Literally how it happened, so out the blue. For context, I listen to MM but that's about it, not that it should matter because music is music. I try laugh it off and change the subject because I cba for an argument but the troon won't drop it. I try to ignore them until I hear the words 'Nazi Sympathiser' come out their mouth. I was shocked because what has that got to do with liking a musical artist? I called them a bitch (lol) and then I got the 'fuck you, you bitch ass hoe' (if you're imagining Rasputia from Norbit at this point, that's basically a dead on comparision) to the point the brother had to take the angry troon to a different room.

I wouldn't care but now the brother has blocked me and my boyfriend on troons orders. I just feel bad and sick to my stomach at what they're doing to him. They're isolating him from his family, since his other siblings and parents are so fed up with it. We hung out without him later on (since everywhere he goes, troon on facetime goes) and had a great time, and i couldn't help but feel so angry at what they've done to his family relationships.

If there are no small children currently in the family then at the next family dinner I suggest a kids table be set up for the Facetime Freakshow.