You are who you put yourself around. Sounds like you need to hang out with more 'wife guys'. Guys who love their wives and hype them up. There are also so many women out there who would love to settle into a long-term relationship with any man who would be loyal and stable. Millions. They might be a little chubby, or a little older, but the concept that there are NO women out there that want to settle down is completely dismissive.
It's hard with the Internet, it's true. Women have an easier time cheating and fantasizing about adultery than ever before. But there are also good Christian women out there that don't even think about the concept. There are nerdy girls who don't want the stress of polyamory. There are fat chicks who wouldn't wanna fuck up what they have by rolling the dice on a chubby chaser. You just gotta lower your standards a little, and find a woman who's similarly afraid to be abandoned, keep constant contact with her, and realize your fear of the unknown is just that, fear of the infinite unknown in the darkness, where only a few set realities sit.
Put yourself out there, the homies are right, go touch some grass. Go to a concert. Pick up a hobby that both sexes enjoy. Do anything that casually puts you around women and scout out your possibilities. But sitting on the Internet with constant access to free pornography and platforms to vent on will only sap your will to change your situation. You got this life to live, use your valuable time wisely.