I want to harp on something. Please let me know if you disagree or think this is the wrong place to discuss it.
When it comes to being fat, I think a lot of people seriously discount the effects of hormone regulation and metabolism. It's a little blinkered: people get that sweeping changes can occur if you take tranny hormone replacement, especially when women start taking testosterone. But other hormonal processes in women, like pregnancy, menstruation, and menopause are ignored in any discussion about weight gain and obesity.
It doesn't make sense to me that these events in women's lives are swept under the rug. When you get pregnant, your doctor makes you worry about every pound you put on. After the baby, you're expected to "snap back" to how you used to look. You get compliments after the pregnancy: "You look great!" etc., basically praising you for keeping your figure. People also not to subtly tell you to diet if you didn't pull this off, even though tbh being in late pregnancy feels like being a passenger in your own body: you're here, but the body and the baby are driving this train.
Menstruation and Menopause are like the fucking flowers in the attic of hormonal regulation. I'm sure they can have some effect on body weight (I know PCOS can cause weight gain) but nobody ever talks about it. I know the women are scared to because if we admit that menstruation is a physical experience with psychological effects, then the men will use "having your period" as an excuse to ignore you when you're upset. Likewise, if you're in menopause and you admit that the process is having psych effects on you, then the men ignore you because "she's menopausal."
I'm tired of these normal human bodily functions being neglected by doctors and mocked by the public.