@Stare Man On this note, I would add using preventative hair loss products for men who still have hair and would prefer not to lose it. I don’t understand why they freak the fuck out when they start losing their hair, but don’t try at all to prevent it.
Also, flossing and tongue scraping should be added to the oral hygiene list. It’s quick and easy once it becomes an habit. OH, and get gud at laundry. Clean clothes that smell nice go a long way. Same with a decent haircut.
And clean & file those nails! No one likes dirty or raggedy nails.
@Stare Man tongue scraping
if you just brush your tongue when brushing your teeth, then - provided you don’t have particular issues - you’ll be fine. If you have above-average issues, act accordingly.
lmao imagine killing yourself over false rape accusations. Just go to court and say "lol wasn't me" and you'll be fine. You can do that for true rape accusations and 99% of the time you'll still be fine.
I thought men were tough and could handle shit, unlike women. It's hilarious how they can't decide if men are tough badasses or weaklings bullied by meanie women.
That boy was a teen, not a man, no? Unfair to hold him to “men” standards.
The amount of sexual assault that happens and is never reported let alone prosecuted is staggering. I've had so many friends tell me individually about it happening to them. People that don't ever lie. A few of those people are even men.
This is very, very true.
I don't think that humanity is suited for finding partners through dating apps. The guys are basically applying to every woman they like because the chance of a response from any of them is so low, and because they apply to a lot of women they basically send a form letter or a really short message to each one. So the women are in turn inundated with inquiries from random guys (who may or may not have any of the qualities you requested) so it's difficult to assess all them fairly. You just get fatigued after reading so many emails that just say "Sup?" and profiles spammed up with a huge list of movies and books this guy likes. Oh and the men's pfps are always really bad, because they always take them in the bathroom.
Mood:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xk1kwfK848Y
If you ignore/delete all the generic, non-substantive, and offensive messages, you’ve eliminated 98% of responses (not “applications,” btw). Then eliminate the ones who are clearly not in your consideration bucket, and you’re down to a semi-manageable level. Discernment.
It’s not worth getting exercised about garbage replies/messages.
being in late pregnancy feels like being a passenger in your own body: you're here, but the body and the baby are driving this train.
This strikes me as inflexibility wrt expectations of one’s autonomy…but I’m not 100% sure what you mean - you are much closer to pregnancy recollections than I am, but I don’t recall feeling hostage to anyone or anything, just being heavily pregnant, and experiencing the natural aches and pains of expansion, etc., and of course prepping to becoming secondary to that baby I was about to birth.
What? Why “scared”? It is what it is. Discuss amongst those who can relate and don’t worry about getting affirmation from those who cannot.
men will use "having your period" as an excuse to ignore you when you're upset.
So what?
Seriously, if you’re dismissed by an intimate, a) examine your own behavior, and b) if you’re not being nutty, then they suck and should fuck off. In the intimate relationship context, healthy couples put things in perspective, which means effort from both ends.
If you’re dismissed by a random, they can go jump in a lake (but also, still candidly evaluate your own reactivity/behavior).
(Provided their opinions or shit-talking do not impact your real life, which in some cases is within your control. )
Likewise, if you're in menopause and you admit that the process is having psych effects on you, then the men ignore you because "she's menopausal."
Yes, dismissal by men based on assumption is “fuck-off”/ignorable level, but again, candidly self-assess. Beyond that, a) if you want camaraderie, find a group who can relate, or work it out on your own time, and b) don’t overblow the impact. Every women doesn’t lose her fucking mind in menopause (nor while menstruating, nor when pregnant). Some do. But it’s no more “fair” for women to insist they get some kind of general allowance for hormonal events than it is for men to denigrate or dismiss women for being at x stage of life.
Truth is, both women and men go through life shit, and they should be held to account for their demeanors when shit is upside-down. We are all - should all be - accountable for self-management, so if you need to take time away to get it together, do it (rather than acting like a nut and trying to hold other people responsible for your actual behavior, if it’s out of line).
And conversely, if you don’t pull back and thus end up torpedoing your life as a result, well, sad, but so it is. Similar to - if you’re an alcoholic or diagnosed with some condition and are fucking up your career and marriage as a result, you are accountable for that. Midlife crisis? Idgaf.* Feelings of insecurity? Idgaf.* Trauma rearing its head? Idgaf.* Hormones? Idgaf.* Either perform or take action to get better, or accept that there may be negative impact. Same for everything else. Job-wise, take medical leave, leave of absence, check in somewhere, or don’t work/interact - whatever - until you’re ok.
* I don’t mean I personally don’t care about what someone is going through. I’m pretty empathetic about the vagaries of life and situations. What I mean is that the world doesn’t stop for everyone’s struggles, nor should it.
And I say that as someone who has gone or is going through some or all of the above.
