Trying to think of a super autistic explanation that doesn’t lead to the natural conclusion that he killed her or abandoned her in the middle of nowhere and can’t.
It’s like he’s trying to sound incriminating while not. Guilty conscience?
He's a psychopath; he doesn't have a conscience. If anything, he'd love to be able to brag about what he's done in eliminating an uppity nuisance of a female from existence. Taking her life is his ultimate display of power over her; he feels fully justified in having done it, and, after all the cleanup was done and months ticked by with nobody questioning him on her absence, he's likely developed a genuine sense of satisfaction and pride in having done it.
He at least knows that the rest of humanity doesn't look favorably upon murdering one's spouse, and that he has to maintain the appearance of innocence. But he can't help it; he'd love to be able to say, "Well, she was worthless and disobedient, and I did what a husband should be able to do in these cases." He knows he can't. But it keeps bubbling to the surface.
Being empathy-deficient, as Dark Triad types like himself always are, isn't just the inability to understand that other people have feelings separate from one's own, recognize that those feelings (even if not shared) are valid, and adjust one's behavior in consideration of them.
A lot of straight-up, high-functioning Narcissists can be extraordinarily charming, and appear compassionate and empathetic, because they're very good at observing how one is supposed to act and what they are supposed to say, in order to play the role of "kind, compassionate person who helps others." They at least can recognize emotional cues others give, understand the social rules around them, and know what is expected of them—even if they don't share, or even respect, others' emotions.
But JFG's not one of those. He's so empathy-deficient, he completely lacks awareness of how others feel and why, and what emotional responses to expect from a given situation. And since he doesn't comprehend emotions, he feels free to dismiss them as irrational—because he's so convinced of his own brilliance, that if there was anything worthwhile in them, surely he would know, right? So when women react negatively to his callousness and cruelty (which he sees as rational, justified behavior, and not callous or cruel), they're just being irrational and childish, and hey, women, amirite?
He does experience emotions himself, but they're likely very simple, and he's incapable of reflecting upon them—in his mind, they are provoked by others, and those others are entirely at fault for making him angry, or frustrating him, so any lashing out against them is justified. He's not a guy to ask, "Why did that make me so angry? My rage was completely disproportionate to what happened"; to him, it's self-evident—"She made me angry; she willfully provoked me, and I responded appropriately."
Anything to substantiate this? She has lived on her own before, apparently.
Exactly, my mate has terrible issues with his demented BPD mother, always drunk, falling down, embarrassing herself, getting scammed, and it has been a fucking war campaign trying to become her legal guardian.
I have a potato in my family who is higher functioning than Élora because he's fussy and likes rules and order, but as he's getting older, and after having had a couple of strokes, he needs a fucking guardian. He really should have had one all along, but the well-intentioned SPED push to "mainstream" potatoes back in the late '60s and '70s so they could live independent lives and not require a guardian really falls apart as those people age, or suffer some sort of further disability, and become less capable.
But good fucking luck getting a developmentally disabled adult put under guardianship when they've already been living mostly independent lives, even when it's screamingly obvious that they need it. The same goes for people with family members who have dementia, or whose once-normal brains have been wrecked by booze, drugs, or head trauma. I get that there is tremendous potential for abuse by guardians, and thus nobody wants to sign off on it, but god damn.
I'm not sure if they're married-married, but before Covid, C*nada changed the laws around common law spouses, so now if you live with a woman / man you're dating for more than 6 months, so they might not be legally married but if they split there's a good chance JF would have to pay alimony if MJF left him and she pushed for it.
When JF said that Élora left him what mattered/was important, he wasn't talking about their daughters. He was talking about the property and businesses in her name, and potentially a life insurance policy. He's exactly the kind of guy who would kill his wife, rather than see her get the house, custody of the kids, and any other assets and support in a divorce/separation, and I think that's exactly what he did.
As for the question that keeps popping up regarding why he keeps choosing low-IQ women, it's entirely about domination and control. They just don't have the mental capacity to push back in any meaningful way. And, frankly, I think he sees all women as retarded anyway, so it's just a matter of degree; whatever Élora got up to with sleeping around and public nudity and needing to be rescued off the street is, in his mind, a woman-thing, not a potato-thing.
La Papa Latina he previously tried to rope into marriage had a family who cared enough about her to intervene, but a lot of women in that position just don't. Caring for a developmentally disabled kid and teenager is hard, and having to keep caring for them when they're adults is more than a lot of people are capable of dealing with—especially when you can't get granted a guardianship, don't have the money to push for one, and thus have no means of control over what potato stuff your adult kid does. Go out on the streets and see who is homeless, and you'll find a lot of potatokin with mental ages between 8-12 who either left home voluntarily, or got kicked out by their families.
Élora was unfortunate enough to have family who didn't fight for guardianship, and who haven't been pushing to maintain regular contact despite her "marriage" to a dodgy creep (to the point that she could go missing for nearly four months, with no contact at all, with no apparent concern at the time she "left" JFG, and they probably weren't even the ones who contacted the RCMP about her missing-person status).
JFG had already tried marriage to a mentally normal woman—who happens to be really unfortunate-looking, and was likely unused to getting any male attention at all, making her a soft target—but she had enough brains to recognize an abusive relationship once she was in it and not only leave, but make sure JFG had no contact with his son. He didn't want a repeat of that, so instead of uggos, he shifted focus to potatoes, who are a lot easier to manipulate and control. And here we are.
