Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Susanna]

Whats a recommended body wash or soap for dudes.

Look for ones labelled "foaming". Other than that, whichever one smells nice to you. If your partner has preferences you can follow her lead, but it's hard to go wrong with just body wash. Normally when I think a man smells bad it's either because he isn't using body wash in the first place, or because he's using way too much cologne or something. Body wash on its own doesn't really leave a strong smell.
If you just want suggestions for smells women like on men, I dunno, it's going to vary, but try something mildly wooden. My husband has a Rituals with "cedar" which I kind of like. I don't know if cedar really smells like that, but whatever.

 

[generic sauce]

Aight again on the online dating shit, am I always supposed to start the conversation? Like I feel if she doesn't message me then I'm just at the bottom at the list and I should just say fuck it and look for someone who actually gives a fuck right?

 

[Susanna]

Aight again on the online dating shit, am I always supposed to start the conversation?

Yes.

Like I feel if she doesn't message me then I'm just at the bottom at the list and I should just say fuck it and look for someone who actually gives a fuck right?

Dating apps for women are basically pick and choose. There'll be like ten men for each woman. We start conversations too, but chances are she'll have more than enough guys in her list, so taking the initiative can only help you. You can only mentally maintain so many conversations at a time, so be one of them. Though, if she closes out on you, or seems disinterested, drop her and move on. It's a dating app, there are no second chances.

 

[generic sauce]

Yes.

Dating apps for women are basically pick and choose. There'll be like ten men for each woman. We start conversations too, but chances are she'll have more than enough guys in her list, so taking the initiative can only help you. You can only mentally maintain so many conversations at a time, so be one of them. Though, if she closes out on you, or seems disinterested, drop her and move on. It's a dating app, there are no second chances.

Ugh this is what caused hoeflation in the first place. I just don't want to admit I'm lonely and just want someone to talk to.

 

[Susanna]

Ugh this is what caused hoeflation in the first place. I just don't want to admit I'm lonely and just want someone to talk to.

Yeah, don't introduce yourself to her by making her do emotional labour for you. If you get a relationship going with her you'll feel less lonely anyway.

I'm not fond of dating apps, but if you are going to use them you should use them correctly. Some people do find their soulmate with them.

 

[generic sauce]

Yeah, don't introduce yourself to her by making her do emotional labour for you. If you get a relationship going with her you'll feel less lonely anyway.

I'm not fond of dating apps, but if you are going to use them you should use them correctly. Some people do find their soulmate with them.

I get you are ESL but this isn't the first time I have been talking to this person. I have been talking to this person for the past couple of days but have always started the conversation but today did not.

 

[Susanna]

I get you are ESL but this isn't the first time I have been talking to this person. I have been talking to this person for the past couple of days but have always started the conversation but today did not.

Oh, sorry.
So you're worried because she started the conversation this time? Or because you went a day without a conversation? I wouldn't worry about either one.

 

[ShiftyBoi]

I have a semi-romantic dinner appointment next week. Don't wanna call it a date yet. I'm looking for foods that don't make me look like a slob while I'm eating them.

I have found zero.

 

[Tuxedo_Zemus]

What is the riddle of steel?

 

[Bloitzhole]

I have a semi-romantic dinner appointment next week. Don't wanna call it a date yet. I'm looking for foods that don't make me look like a slob while I'm eating them.

I have found zero.

Risotto. Unless you can't close your mouth or have to shovel it into your face in huge spoonfuls.
Nothing to cut, no sauce to spill, no spaghetti to neatly roll up and it's unlikely to fall off your eating utensil.
I normally recommend tomato-walnut-arugula, but seeing as you might stain stuff as you tear into your plate like a savage, perhaps go for white wine-mushroom instead.

 

[Lichen Bark]

Whats a recommended body wash or soap for dudes.

With all of the compounds that we are discovering that are interfering with everyone's endocrine system (hormones etc.) I would just use something unscented. Last thing you need is some perfumes in the soap interfering with your testosterone. This goes for the ladies as well, all those synthetic smells can't really good for you. I go with the soap that has the schizophrenic packaging talking about the Earth spaceship. It's as close as I'm going to get before I just decide to make my own bar soap.

 

[Susanna]

hemp soap

Few things are more likely to repel me.

 

[Mister Uno]

But women can smell insecurity a mile away.

Yeah I feel this is my biggest issues. Confident about my looks, but I worry too much on saying the wrong thing and people having a negative opinion of me, even if I dislike them. Since working on this, I've noticed that the less I care, people gravitate towards me more. Never really had issues talking to people though.

Whats a recommended body wash or soap for dudes.

Nivea men's body wash is solid. Particularly the charcoal version. Decent smell that isn't overwhelming, and doesn't dry my skin like mad.

I am not the biggest fan of dating apps, but sometimes wonder if I should try again anyway or just continue to focus on my career and have someone come along naturally? Dating apps can be a real morale killer after awhile.

 

[TapewormSalesman]

Whats a recommended body wash or soap for dudes.

Okay, going from observation here, if you like the natural baseline scent of the person, anything they put on (in reasonable amount ofc) will smell good to you. Any shower gel Mr Salesman uses, be it cheapo bottom of the bargain bin or super fancy, always smells pleasant to my schnozz. On the other hand, there's people going around that will reek to you no matter what they do. Used to know a guy that smelled exactly like cat shit to me, even though he didn't even have a cat and was clearly clean and well groomed. So I'd say just choose products that smell nice to you, because if someone likes your underlying natural odor, they'll like the product as well.

 

[AgendaPoster]

This thread is scaring me

 

[WTBOnlineFather]

This thread is scaring me

On one hand I wanna feel fuzzy that this thread is fairly wholesome, on the other hand I get the feeling that posting here outs you as a basket case

 

[SilentDuck]

Yeah I feel this is my biggest issues. Confident about my looks, but I worry too much on saying the wrong thing and people having a negative opinion of me, even if I dislike them. Since working on this, I've noticed that the less I care, people gravitate towards me more. Never really had issues talking to people though.

I am not the biggest fan of dating apps, but sometimes wonder if I should try again anyway or just continue to focus on my career and have someone come along naturally? Dating apps can be a real morale killer after awhile.

False confidence will always beat true insecurity.

No woman cares about anything going on in your head, even if you are a serial killer. All that matters is keeping it smooth. Nothing abrasive, nothing jarring, and not turning spaz/sped/etc. the minute she tests you which she will. This I guess is difficult if you are on any spectrum and have become even remotely invested in one woman in particular over any other.

Like any social setting. Some people will like you for no reason, some people will hate you for no reason. If an IRL woman is sitting across from you, she is interested in you. In terms of Tindr specifically, if she swiped on you its basically a tacit agreement that she is willing to fuck you. The key is to not talk yourself out of it, rather than try to talk yourself into it. Do not raise any objections about yourself, like a job interview. Unless the woman is autistic, she will only ask HR safe questions. It is your job to be as vague, evasive and tangential as possible without lying and allow your female counterpart to fill in the blanks with whatever various fantasies she constructs in her head and projects upon men in general or you specifically.

Many will say they want a "true connection" as they are now sick of apps, dating sites 'the game'. This is merely just another stage of the game. It's bait and if you are a loser you will take it when prompted and then start being honest and straight forward. Unless you are under oath, never be honest and straight forward. All is fair. Honesty isn't going to rub its ass against your dick while you are trying to sleep, it's an empty bed, all night every night.

 

[Shidoen]

I would like to ask a legitimate question but I wouldn’t know what to ask. What are good questions to ask on a date setting?

 

[Susanna]

I would like to ask a legitimate question but I wouldn’t know what to ask. What are good questions to ask on a date setting?

“Who was the best captain, and why was it Georgiou?”

 

[Shidoen]

“Who was the best captain, and why was it Georgiou?”

“Excuse me Miss but I believe you mean Captain Janeway”
(Slams hands into table and walks out in a huff)